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My name is Arielle (aka Rel) I love to hang out with my friends anyways i like to go to the movies and just hang. I am laid back and i like to help people (hence the page)... Think of everything this way The cup is neither half full nor half empty... it is twice as big as it needs to be. But i can really help a lot of people with their problems and I know what i'm talkin about. I've been through many things and i'm here to help.

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I have this boyfriend name william and we've been going out for a month and two weeks well we have been not talking that much and i hang out with him all the time but i call all the time and he never picks up so i worry if he is hanging out with his ex-girlfriends because before we went out he had always cheated on his girlfriends and i am worried if he is doing that to me.he says that he really likes me but i worry if just using me?what should do

Well, the first thing is that you cant jump to conclusions. I mean the past experiences give you a clue but you cant assume anything. In these situations they either end up with heartbreak or no problem. Its one or the other. Hopefully yours will end up with the no problem side of the situation. Sometimes confronting him can be too aggressive and he might think that you are too controlling, on the other hand he might know that you are worried and he can try and let you know that he is not. Its a hard situation and i hope you have good luck with it.

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Ok so heres some backround:

Theres this boy and hes 14 and im 13/f. Our moms are best friends. We see eachother like every 3 months or even less. I like him...but i doubt he likes me. His personality is amazing and everything...its young love

well, it sounds like you really like this kid. Do u know that he doesn't like you too. I mean even if it is a long shot, he might. Dont give up hope, but on the other hand dont wait for him for too long. One thing you have to realize is that there are other people out there, and sometimes the guys aren't worth it. You're right, living like this is not healthy. You need to go out there like a free single and maybe u'll find someone better along the way. Remember, everything happens for a reason.

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Ok there was this guy I liked named Mike...well I thought I liked him but then I jst denied it because I didn't know what people would think..ya I know I shouldn't care but I did. Well he would always get in my face and do stupid things to get my attn. so I'm pretty sure he liked me, but I jst kept ignoring him..eventually he stopped. Now I realize that I reeally really like him...but I don't know if he lost interst or just moved on! Yesterday we were standin in this little group of friends nd when i looked up he was atarin at me so, idk doeas he still liek me or what? If he does how can I get us talking?
*I'll rate!!*
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he probably still has some interest in you but gave up because you were ignoring him. You should start flirting with him and hinting that you are interested and maybe he will catch on and his feelings will all come back. If anything you should give it a chance because you never know what could come out of it.

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On Saturday night I went to my best friend, Sidonie's party. A guy that she broke up with a month or so ago was there and I really liked him. We ended up kissing and the next day he asked me out, I said yes. Now I'm not so sure if I made the right decision by saying yes to him. For a start, I just feel like his rebound girl. When my best friend broke up with him he was very upset and I don't think he's fully over her. He keeps saying things like "You're so much like Sidonie." Which is kind of irritating and off putting. Secondly, I hardly know him and I wont be able to see him much as he lives on the other side of my city. I do like him but I'm not so sure if I want to just be his rebound girl, should I break up with him or see how it goes?

Obviously this guy is not totally over Sidonie. I don't think that you should have said yes in the first place but now that you are stuck in this position i think you should talk to him. I mean if he still talks about her then he is not ready for another gf and plus she is your best friend think about how she is taking it. You probably should not have even kissed him at her party. Nobody really wants to be a rebound girl and you should not have to be. Talk to him. You like him so he might be worth a chance.

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My best friend told me that my boyfriend was flirting with one of my friends. I dont know who to believe.. my boyfriend said nothing happened but he might just be trying to not hurt me. But then again i think my best friend is trying to break us up. Who should i believe? My best friend or my boyfriend? PLease help.

well, first of all, if you think that your friend is trying to break you guys up then believe your boyfriend, most guys don't think that doing some stuff is flirting but don't forget what your friend said totally either. you might want to keep an eye on him but don't like follow him everywhere or hang onto his every move, or else he will think that you don't trust him. talk to your best friend and maybe ask her what exactly they were doing or even talk to the girl he was flirting with. if she is your friend she will tell you the truth of what happened. just remember, a relationship is not a relationship at all without trust.

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there is this boy i like him but of course my luck he has a girlfriend my friend said that he likes me and he lied to his gf to talk to me on the phone because shes very paranoid and dosent trust him at all. what should i do? should i act on the opertunity because we like each other or just leave him alone?

Since he has a gf, you dont want to get involved until they break up or never at all. This could cause ultimate fights with the gf and that would not be good. And think, you wouldn't want him lying to you if you were going out with him. THink of what position the gf is in. I say leave him alone. hope i helped.

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ok well i like this guy chris and my friend christina knows i like him and she pinched his ass today right in fromt of me and then she goes do you like jess and he said no and i was about to like crya nd then andrew was like yeah i know you like him jess and i was like no and i dont know if i can face him again and hes in my 1 2 5 period class and in 5th period theres only 3 ppl me andrew and chris .. what should i do?ill rate high

well, first off, just ignore what he said. don't act affected. if they all see that you are affected he will find out that you really like him. if you don't want him knowing that you like him, then that's what you should do. on the other hand, this could be kinda good, if he believed andrew, then that would mean that he thinks that you like him and that could make him think about the feelings he has for you. This could open up a whole new relationship. hope i helped you! if you need more help you can im me on aim: rambunctiousrel

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13/f
ok so i've been goin out with my bf for almost 5 months now and i love him to death and everything is going great but before we started going out there was a new kid at school who rode my bus and everything and we always talk and get along great and are just good friends and i've always liked him theres always been an atraction and recently i think he started liking me butim not sure and i still love my bf but theres part of me that wants to kmnow if this other guy and i have a chance what do i do???

well, you don't want to break your bf's heart if you still love him. It sounds like you are starting to like this new guy and you're stuck between these 2 guys. I think that you should maybe get to know this new guy a little more but still don't forget about your bf...if it isn't what you think you don't want to ruin the relationship you already have. You need to keep going with your bf and just go along. If later on your bf break up (not b/c of this) then maybe something could happen between you and this guy but for now just go along with the flow and focus the attention on your bf.

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ughhh, ok, this girl likes meeeee and i like herrrrr, BUT, she has a boyfriend -.- and he's a grade lower than i am, she's 2 below me, and she's white...he's...black...so it's safe to say they've come from differen't worlds, differen't upbringings, different ways of thinking. All they've done is kiss, lol, nothing serious, they're not fuckin' or nothin, but mannnnn she likes him a lot i think. And i KNOW he likes her just as much, if not more, she's GORGEOUS, but...before she started dating him she had a HUGE crush on me, and she JUST now told me. -.- dammit. haha, and i just got dumped a week and 2 days ago...HARD 2, man, it sucked. Like...when i'm able to hang out with this girl, we get um..."close", hehe, but she feels SO guilty. Her bf doesn't give her that kind of attention...so she loves it when i'm affectionate. UGH, anywayyys, this girl and her bf have only been together a month, a week, and 2 days, yeah...i've been counting...haha it's going by SLOW, but that's not much time at ALL, practically NOTHING. so they don't really have much more than an "at school" relationship. I need her to see it's a dead end...what can i do to swing things in my favor??
:] thankssssss,
-Kyle

first of all...i realize that u really like this girl but if you really liked her then you wouldn't be makin this into a race. Kissin her while she's still goin out with this other dude is wrong. Just leave it alone and see how it comes out. If its meant to happen then it will happen but if its not then its not. You wouldn't want her doin stuff like that if she was goin out with you. Give them some space.

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I like this guy, like SOO much and no matter who i date or how much i try he's the ONLY guy on my mind. The thing is he's a popular sophmore, and im a not so popular freshman. but he's different from all the popular guys i've known though, like hes really caring and REALLY easy to talk to ..
I told him i liked him a long time ago but he said he didn't really no me well enough to like me.. so its been like a month and half and hes started to act different towards me like in gym we had to carry really really heavy boxes because we were doing reconditioning, and he offered to take my box, but nobody elses. and just like it came up in convorsation who he liked but he wouldn't say like it was a HUGE secret (my friends said its beacuse they think he likes me, but i dunno).
And yesterday when we were gettin out of school he was behind me, and he threw a nickel and it hit my back pack, but i didnt even realize anyone threw it so i kept walking. and three other times he threw pennys and i didnt do anything. and after he threw the last one he's like "Hey" and i turend around and "he's like im trying to get ur attention here and" and im like so why r u throwing stuff at me like kidding around and hes like b/c i can. then he asked how i was and then got on his bus .. but i dunno its just weird .. maybe im being to hopeful or could this possibly mean something? ... how do i tell if he might possibly like me .. or if he's just friendly ..

Well, there's one thing for sure! He's flirting with you. He obviously likes you enough to pay that much attention with you. I'm not trying to get your hopes down or anything but don't get too high hopes. THis kinda thing has happened to me before but i think that you should try flirting back or get to know him a little better and who knows...something could happen.

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14/f
OK well theres this kid at my school. (Hes in 10th im in 9th) Well we always got along because we have alot of the same friends and do one sport together. But I never really liked him that much untill we both started spending alot of time together. I really started to like him and he even kissed me once. Well after that we kinda stoped talking, but then one night we talked again and i started to like him again. He even asked to go to the movies. But I was talking to one of his friends and he said "well hes not looking for a relationship" but im confused because i was messing around with the kid and i said "What if I was like I love you and can't live without you will you go out with me" and his response was "i would proally be a little shocked but then prabably say yes" Help im so confused!

awww... this is so cute! ok, i think that you first of all should definitely not listen to his friend. If you haven't heard it come from his mouth then it probably isn't true. You obviously like each other. Just try letting him know how you feel and worse comes to worse...he doesn't agree but say from the beginning that you want to be friends no matter what and everything should work out for the best

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