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i have a guyfriend, brett. i just started getting to know him through IMs this past week, and he's really nice. he always tells me that i'm the only girl he can really talk to, and he really appreciates that i always compliment him (saying he's mature, smart, nice, a good friend, etc.) and i help him with his problems.
i have a crush, sean. i've liked him on and off for a while, but now i really like him again. i dont REALLY REALLY like him, but he's just a crush. i talk to him sometimes, little things like, if he wants a pencil or something i'm like, "oh, here i have one." i wouldnt consider us friends.
well, i know this was a terrible thing, but one of the reasons why i asked brett for his screen name was because i thought him and sean were friends. well it turns out that sean is actually really mean to brett, and brett pretends to be sean's friend. unfortunate, right?
well, after i realized that, i was like okay so brett isn't gonna help me at all getting to sean. well i dont want to just stop talking to brett cause he's so nice and everything, but i feel like we're getting too close too fast. we've exchanged lots of information and he really makes me feel different than anyone else - like i was really really upset the other night and i was talking to him about what heaven would be like and i was saying things like how i would want to see the world when i'm not in it, and he said something along the lines "dont go to heaven right now - i'd miss you too much" and like not even my closest guyfriends have said something like that to me.
& he said that he kind of likes someone, but he isn't sure yet. well i'm REALLY worried. i mean in the last three or four days, we've talked about everything from like, baking to bullying to grades to guinea pigs. but i've talked to him about sean... not using his name though. i'd just say like "oh my crush..." blah blah but i really hinted that it's not brett. like when brett asked who it was, i've said, "well i dont want to say his name cause i would be scared you'd tell him" so i mean that really hints that it's some other guy. but i'm just worried that brett likes me.. maybe i'm being selfish, maybe i haven't known him long enough. but now that i think about it, i think he might.
brett once said, "who would i ask to the 8th grade dance?" and i was just like ask a girl you think is pretty and he was like no one would go with me and i was like yeah someone will... was he hinting something?
and if brett DOES tell me he likes me and / or asks me out / to the 8th grade dance... i couldn't go. i just don't like him like that. but i dont know if he understands that i'm not the type of girl that you can just ask out without finding out if i like you or not. do you understand what i'm saying? so that's why i was hinting i dont like him... just in case.
i don't want to ask brett if he likes me or not - but should i tell him i like sean so he might back off a little? or would he be even MORE angry at sean?
sorry it's so long - but i will really appreciate your answer and you'll get rewarded with a 5 and / or feedback :]
thank youu. (link)
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Ooooh if you tell him you like Sean, he WILL be mad. Maybe at you (I don't know what Brett is like) and he will definitely be mad at Sean. If you tell Brett that you like Sean, then Brett may become overprotective of you and make him stay away from you. Then when your name is mentioned, Sean will be clueless, while Brett will be even more mad thinking that Sean is acting like he's clueless. So therefore, telling Brett that you like Sean is definitely not a good idea. And if Brett actually likes you right now, and you tell him that you like Sean, that would break his heart. Besides, Brett seems like a much nicer guy than Sean. You want to make a better relation with Brett more than Sean right? I'm not sure whether or not you should take the next step, but maybe just stay back and see what's really going on before you take a step forward (i.e. The relation between Brett and Sean, etc.)
I hate situations where two of your friends are fighting against each other, and you don't have much of a choice except take one side over the other. You won't be able to make Brett and Sean become friends unless they want to do so themselves.
I hope you will be able to figure out what to do.
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many of you may know now but i have a bf that i've been kind of nervous about because i dont really know if i like him or if i feel bad for him and i didnt want to go to the movies with him and his freinds b/c it seemed wierd.. but anyways i just got wind that i am adding another practice to my schedule and i dont have time to hang out with my bf at all! now i practice 4 times a week and i still wanna have time for my freinds. what is the best way to break up with a guy who you dont really like and you're too busy to hang out with him ever?
thanks so much!!
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The "best" way? That's sort of a vague question, but the best way might not be the easiest way. The best way to break up with your boyfriend is to talk to him face to face. If you do it anywhere else (i.e. IM, email, myspace) then he's only going to be asking a lot more questions. Talking to him face to face would clear things up and answer all of his questions all in one moment. Talking on the phone is also an option, but the best way is to talk to him face to face.
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Me and my bf have been going out for a long time now. i really love him and always have. Now a while back he asked me to marry him. We're both 15. I know we're young and all but we were so sure of it. But then one day not to long ago I randomly got a friend to ask him if it was still on. He said no that I had called it off along time ago. Well then my friends came back and told me and then she went back and told him that I never did and he kept saying that I did. Is he just unsure about it or something or do you think this is his way of telling me that he doesn't love me anymore? What should I do. I really love this guy. (link)
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It sounds like there's a miscommunication going on between you two. You should talk to him face to face and see what's really going on.
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my bf is in a facility, they have 0 tolerance for violence of course. well tonight when i talked to him, he said he threw an 8 ball at a guy and got written up, this is his last chance, then he goes to jail for 2-7 years. i know for a fact he didn't really mean to do it. it was his reaction. he isn't a fighter, but how can i help him and if he goes to jail what do i do to cope with it. (link)
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If he really cares about you, then he wouldn't cause more trouble by throwing an 8-ball at someone because of his "reaction". That's an illogical reason to hurt someone like that. I have a friend who has been in juvenile hall before, but he thinks before he acts. If your boyfriend is causing you so much stress, I suggest you find a new boyfriend. Your current boyfriend seems like a huge troublemaker.
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14/f and hes 15/m (both in same grade)
ok i loved this guy for so long and towards like may of last year i told him i loved him and he said we should just be friends. but i've talked to like 3 of his really close friends and they said that they thought he really loved me. i don't understand. why would he pretend? any ideas? also, it's been awhile (seems like forever) since this happened and i still can't get over him..i really love him ..what should i do? should i just forget about him? were friends now and we do talk and stuff but if i were to just bring up the fact of me and him being in a relationship together it'd be really awkward...thanks for helpingg. (link)
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Okay, so the 14 and 15 year old range sometimes still go through some puberty-related stuff. Not only that, but that age range is a little bit too young to have a stable enough relationship. Sure there might be a couple in middle school that might last all the way up to high school, but that's just once in a blue moon. Both of you are still going through a learning phase, and haven't really matured all the way through. You'll understand this a lot more when you grow a few years older.
It may be that your boyfriend is being a drama llama (meaning that he's acting this way for you to care for him more), or he lost interest in you. It's up to you on deciding how he actually feels and what you should do about it. You uunderstand the situation better than anyone else.
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What are signs of a cheating bf..and what would make a boy want to cheat? thanks..idk if im being to paranoid or not so i wanted to get your guys imput (link)
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You can't say that a boyfriend is cheating until you have solid evidence.
What makes boys cheat is because a lot of boys are just in it for sex and making out. Either that or they want total revenge. It kind of depends on the situation.
Your boyfriend might not be cheating, so you should stay loyal and trust him, because that's what relationships are all about.
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okay, well my mom does pot, and she tries to hide it and stuff, but come on im not stupid ive known for liek ever, anyway that makes me like fucking hate drugs for soem reason, im not saying i havent made mistaks and done it before but thats not the point, but that was only once. anyway, my bestfriend and boyfriend, well do pot every idk not even month or so, and lately just this past week its been like 3 times, and he knows how i feel about it and it hurts me, and i dont want to control him at all, but i dont know what to do, he says he wont do anything after 4.20 from now on...but i mean how cna i talk to him and stuff, or should i just let it go some how? please help. (link)
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Well you'd be surprised how much more deadly caffeine or nicotine can be, despite the fact that they are legal drugs. Using marijuana just kills brain cells. However, if you smoke marijuana constantly for a long time, (say one or two years) then there will be some unwanted side effects. If it's every month or so, then your boyfriend and best friend aren't even damaging their lungs. They're just killing brain cells which is no big deal.
I suggest you let him smoke marijuana each month or so, but if he smokes it on a daily or near-daily basis, you should make him stop.
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im 15/f. if i find out a guy i like likes me back, i usually lose interest in him. am i not ready for a boyfried or what? its seriously annoying and id love it to stop (link)
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I'm not sure what you're trying to ask us here, but I'll try and see if I can say anything helpful.
If you like a guy, and he likes you back, you lose interest in him? Wouldn't that mean that you didn't like him from the very beginning? I think you're a little bit confused, and should take some time off and think it over a little bit. Also, I don't think it would hurt to just go out with the guy that's interested in you. Who knows? You might become interested in him again.
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18/Female - Okay, i have a dilemma. I haven't had great luck with guys - i've been cheated on, lied and all that. I am currently dating someone right now. We've been dating for a little over a month. He has mentioned that i ask too many questions, and that i say too many stupid things. I don't think i ask too many questions, or say stupid things. Because of my bad luck with guys, i tend to ask questions like "would you cheat on me? do you even like me? where do you see us going?" I've had about six guys all say the same thing - that i'm annoying, and that i need to relax, and just go with the flow cause when i try to hard it ruins the relationship. My current boyfriend just lost his job, so i haven't exactly seen him in a while (few weeks), he gets mad when i mention seeing him, or when i try to help him out. Am i really that bad of a girlfriend? How do i just go with the flow, and not worry about stuff? How do i stop myself from asking too many questions and saying stupid things? (link)
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I'm afraid to say that if six guys are telling you that you ask too many questions, then it may be true. I think you should go out with a guy that you can actually trust, and not just rely on your luck and hope for the best. Finding a good partner takes a lot of time and patience. I'm not trying to be mean, but just realistic.
For the part about your current boyfriend, the best thing to do when a guy loses his job or something important is to make him forget about it. Not forcefully, but by giving him a good time. Don't directly tell him to just forget about his job, or else that'll irritate him even further.
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