My name's Kat, I'm a punk rocker from Chicago, and I love music, love, rocking out, buddhism, henry rollins, and my friends. Nuff said?
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Age: 18
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I broke up with my long distance ex-boyfriend 3 weeks ago. I've decided no contact with him is best for me to get over him, so we haven't spoken in 2 weeks so far.
The 1st week was a little hard, 2nd week easier, and this 3rd week's been going good. Until today.
I found out today he is now in a new relationship. It's been 3 weeks!! Well, 2 since we talked.
I was doing soo well, not crying over him/thinking about him as much..and then this shocker happens. It's like I'm right back at square one. But I left him because he treated me like crap, and I KNOW I deserve better. But we dated for 10 months, and knew each other for 1 year. And he's with another girl in 3 weeks?! He told me his ex-girl before me took him 2 years to get over!!!
I just need advice. I REALLY WANT to get over him, I know he's not the person for me, but obviously I still care for him. I know it takes time. I think not talking to him helps, the only thing is I still sometimes go on his facebook and twitter. (Facebook is how I found out about the new gf, which everyone commented on congratulating him :/) Should I block these websites and just force myself to rid my brain of everything that involves him? Please, any advice would help. It's like a slap in the face knowing that he moved on fast, so this just adds more hurt to my heart. Thanks. (link)
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First of all, if he's in another relationship so soon, it's very possible this new girl is a rebound. That should be a little comforting, at least.
Second of all, I went through something similar when my ex and I broke up after dating for over a year. Because we have mutual friends, it's very hard to avoid seeing what's happening in his life. But I figured out the best way to handle it. I deleted him from my friends on facebook. In that way, he's out of sight, out of mind. It may be hard, but honestly I'm glad I did that, and I think you might be happier that way as well :) Good luck hon!
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this might be kinda long so bear with me :)
i have just realized that the main reason why i dont get along with girls my age and dont even get any of them, is not because of me, its because of how they are. i realized that american girls are pretty much sluts, stereotypical, materialistic, insincere, self-centered, and only care about a guy with eitehr a full-on sixpack, or a guy with a ton of money. (Sorry, american women, that's just my opinion.)
i know this might not matter to me, or it shouldnt, but im only 16 years old and in high school, but i've dont some traveling to different countries to see what its like, and what people are like. I went to thailand last summer and all i can say about the people, wow. The men are so patient and calm and peaceful, the women are even the same. they are sincere, always smiling, and always helpful instead of just giving you attitude and scoffing in your face and rolling their eyes.
I went to england and the people there are so civilized. its so different that its unbelievable. The brits dont talk out loud and dont have attitude and dont confront random people in the park about whats bothering them. Its really comforting to be around them, same with Canadians.
i KNOW that you guys might think im being superficial, and kinda stupid like (everybodys different, nationality does change anything) but teh truth is, it does. All of the TV shows in america like, the real world, jersey shore, rock of love, and all of those reality shows influence american girls to dress like the people they see on tv, AND, act like them. Where as in England or parts in Canada, the tv doesnt broadcast so many graphic things as they do in America, And its not only TV, its the radio, music, movies, etc.
i'm actually considering moving to england or to ontario after i graduate high school next year for this reason, just to be in a betetr surrounding, instead of being scared to death in my southern california home wondering if some crook is gonna break into my car.
Again, SORRY to you people who think this is directed to you, its just my opinion. i know this was long, but i appreciate some advice, and some comments. And dont try to talk me out of moving out of the country, ive thought long and hard about it and made up my mind. Thank you! (link)
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If you think all American women are like this,and if you think you can stereotype them all this way, you will have a hard time finding any american woman that will put up with you. Move to another country.
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Ok well Im 13 & I have never kissed a guy. I really want my first kiss because I just want to know what its like. I had my chance to kiss a guy before because when I was going out with my boyfriend(i dumped him a couple days ago) he asked me for a kiss but I said no because there were to many people around.
Im not say that im ugly or a geek or something, because I have had plenty of boyfriends, we just have never been at the right place at the right time ya know?
But anyway is it weird that im 13 & I havent had my first kiss yet? (link)
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Since you're only 13, you still have tons of time, and trust me, it'll happen when you're ready. Try not to rush into experimenting, because if you wait until that perfect moment, it'll mean so much more. I was 14 when I got my first kiss and even though it seemed a little late to me then, I realize now that even 14 is real young.
Just trust in the fact that your kiss will come when it means the most, and it's definatley worth waiting for.
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well, me and my boyfriend had been going out for almost 6 months, by the way i'm 14. and i thought things were going great, and out of no where he just decides that he doesn't want a girlfriend anymore. and we split. i cried for a few days. and i just can't seem to completely get over him. i just want to pretty much forget about him, and never socialize with him again. what are some things that could help me get over him? (link)
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Ooh, this is tough... I think most teenagers have gone through this, or will soon enough. Go out with some other friends, have a good time with friends of yours who aren't friends of his. Scope out some hotties at the mall and stuff. Having some distance from him will make you feel a LOT better. After a while, you'll definatley be feeling better, and you may even want to be friends with him again. I know it sounds corny, but there will always be people who love you; sometimes it just takes a while to find them. Hope I helped.
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