Well you could ask him out but there is method to approaching him regardless of who you want to ask who.
First of all, are you usually with a crowd of friends? Is he? you should catch him when you two are alone (or maybe you and one other female friend). Ask him some non-threatening open ended questions could be as simple as being about his hobbies or a class you share etc. Strike up a conversation real casual like. Get him to do some simple activities with you (getting lunch or picking up a coffee). Tell him a little about yourself. Hopefully this will open him up a little bit. If you end with a compliment, if all goes well its possible that you two could establish contact. Establish some small social gatherings or lunches so it doesn't put the pressure on him right away. After that you two could go alone to a movie or something else.
Just gradually build up his confidence around you. :)
Eventually he may ask you out.

Well it depends on the kind of guy.
Chances are they are considering sex but don't want to push the envelope. Guys know that when girls know they want something, it can be an instant turn off. Nice guys and virgins too...

It is not necessarily that they are players, it's just a healthy male attitude. Sex is to men as Treats are to dogs. If one owner just feeds the dog, it is a temporary pleasure, the dog will prefer the genuine owner that is patient and friendly with him because it is a long lasting pleasure.

There are guys though that do seek one night stands and know how to find women who don't want to be tied down, but most guys -and girls- to want fulfillment. Don't buy in the withhold sex the longest possible attitude. When your both ready and in the mood, go for it. There is no quantity of time needed before having sex..it could be 2 dates, or 20.

Though cuddling is rewarding for guys too.
Don't stress the S factor too much, as long as you stay safe.

As young as you two are, honestly are not ready for a serious commitment. Don't kid yourself on this. However he may not understand right away if you decide to be be friends but he will find other girls and you will find other guys. Of course no guy likes to be "friendzoned" regardless of age.

I can't really answer this question in too much detail due to the lack of detail here, however I have to ask a few questions in return.
1) Is the relationship mutually dispassioned? (Does he talk about you in front of his friends as his girlfriend, PDAs, etc?) If not, things should be somewhat easier.
2) Was there an actual declaration of the relationship? An oral "contract" of sorts?
3) Look at his actions, is he chasing you or drifting back a little? Drifting is a sneaky way of killing passion (see fulfillment).

These factors can effect the impact of the breakup. Of course I can't promise if hes not a chaser or PDA'er that he won't be a little sore.

If your going to break up with him, just be honest. Assuming at his age he is new in the dating field he won't see the cliches for what they are. Don't try to put pillows around "dispassioned" because that will drive some guys crazy and hurt his pride worse than just being honest with him. It will sting but your at least setting him free with no expectations (Relationships with second and third chances are never the same anyway).

It's better to let him go now if your thinking of being with other relationships. Honesty+seeing others is still honesty. Dishonesty+seeing others= cheating. Trust me, cheating is way worse.

I wish you the best of luck. It aint easy but it's necessary. He may want to continue the relationship if its a friendship-first relationship in the beginning, but don't expect to be without an awkward stage. All relationships are a gamble.

I am a student at a University in Detroit, Michigan.A debator and public speaker. I am also an advocate for critical thinking - the analysis of currently accepted theories, orthodoxies, government and business policies. I am independent of a single dogma, however I do believe there is a universal but simplistic God figure that created all religions.

I am a supporter of the MRM/FRM (Mens/fathers rights movement). I will answer most unique questions about men as, not necessarily justify things that they do, but explain things about men that often confuse women. Men are not as complicated as we appear to be,(men will probably hate me for the following: ) but just as women would appreciate, sympathetic understanding. But I have no choice but to answer in a male perspective. Though, unlike lawyers and therapists, I DON'T capitalize on telling you what you want to hear ;).

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