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Hii... 14\F I really like this guy , I dream of him and think of him 24\7. I tried but I just can't get over him. he is turning 19. He allways tell me he likes me and loves me, but i dont really know if its true! he lives far away, but me and his sister are really good friends. He held my hand before but just for like 3 min. He is really cute with dark brown eyes and brown hair and his smile is awesome! He have the cutest little dimples. Should I tell him? Im afraid he is not gonna like me back?? (link)
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He may like you back, but even if he does, it is unlikely you can be together, I am sorry to say. He is five years older than you AND an adult. When I was 14, I lost my virginity to a man who was 19. So if you do happen to have a sort of relationship with him, because even though I'd advise against it, you will probably do whatever you like (haha), just be careful, and don't do anything you are not ready to do. You may not be a virgin, but each new person needs to be evaluated and there needs to be some sort of connection and trust. Just stay true to you, because when it comes to older guys, sex is usually involved.
Be safe!
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So lately I have been having problems liking girls. I start to like them and like them for a month or so then my feelings fade away and get annoyed by them or get really picky of what they do.
I dated this girl for 11 months and she cheated on me and treated me like shit, about a month later or so I found a new girl and I liked her alot then as I said my feelings just disappear and I get annoyed.
This summer I found a good girl who genuinely liked me for me. I liked her a lot for about 2 months then one day was just sick of her and no feelings for her.
Why is this happening and how do I make it stop? It use to never happen to me. I was usually pretty spot on when I liked a girl.
Any help is appreciated! Thanks :) (link)
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Being cheated on is never easy. It's painful, especially when you are with someone that long. But truthfully, I think subconciously you are predicting that each girl will hurt you. Basically, this ex girlfriend of yours cheating on you, made you afraid to get involved with someone new, get too close to them. Because as soon as you open your heart, it makes your vulnerable to more hurt. So, without you even knowing, you keep your walls up. Your head tells you that little things she does annoys you, and it's giving you reasons to not like her anymore. You are justifying your walls.
How do you make it stop? Well, sweetheart. You need to let someone in. You could try an online relationship, just for the sake of an example. You could get to know her, and her you, without you having to notice all her physical habits. I think once you let someone back in, give them a chance, you will have a much easier time. But just because you need to let someone in, does not mean you must settle for less. Make sure to find someone that you can actually make a connection with :)
Be well! :)
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hi, we've been together for almost 3 years. he's got a daughter with his ex girlfriend. but when we argue he says, 'they're no threat to you.' what's that exactly mean? and also whenever i mention them to him he's says he doesn't want to hear or talk about them. why? he's quite defensive of them as well. why? help please. thanks (link)
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It means you shouldn't worry so much! Haha, sweetheart, what makes you feel threatened. He is exasperated with the fights you keep having and doesn't want them to take a toll on your relationship. It doesn't sound like you have any reason to be worried, so give him the benefit of the doubt. :)
He's defensive because he loves his kid, and still feels a connection to the mother because she had his child. And, ust for a repeat, he does not want these (petty, in his mind) fight to weaken the bond between you.
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Hi,
I'm a thirteen-year-old girl, and I hate my life for several reasons. I'm going to focus on just one reason right now so you don't have to read a super long question. This question is already long enough as it is with only one reason why I want to die.
One thing I should say is that I like girls. I just don't see guys in that way. I have a girlfriend too. She is my only reason to keep living right now.
Then another girl tricked me into cheating on my girlfriend. She lied to me to get me to do it. The fact is, I didn't even know what cheating was until this happened. After educating myself a little bit on what is and isn't acceptable, I realized what she had gotten me to do. Now I hate myself even more than I did before this happened.
I told the girl that I do not want to be a disloyal person. She told me again that what we were doing was not cheating, and I explained why it was actually cheating and why I didn't want to do it. She got all angry at me about it, and then she said that I had to tell my girlfriend.
But I talked to my mom about it, and she said that I shouldn't tell my girlfriend. She said I had already learned my lesson about cheating and realized that I had been lured into it. And she said that I would only hurt my girlfriend if I told her. So I decided that I would rather listen to my mom than the other girl.
After that, however, the other girl said that if I didn't tell my girlfriend, she would. This really stressed me out. My mom thinks I shouldn't tell my girlfriend, but if I don't, the other girl might tell her.
I can't believe how stupid I am. I don't have any common sense. I just want to die. I hate so many people right now -- especially myself. Besides, my girlfriend is my only reason to live anymore, and who knows what I would do if she broke up with me?
One thing I should add is that I have made plans before (you know, plans to kill myself), but they were ruined every time. And I have struggled on and off with cutting for a while now. If that helps anything.
P.S. I'm sorry for the length. And sorry that this didn't make any sense. (link)
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Okay, sweetheart. let me preface this with my own experience. I am bisexual, and was once a cutter. So I understand how you are feeling.
I firmly believe that most people cheat at least once. I've done it. And your mom is right, it really would hurt your girlfriend. But it is a lot better that she hear it from you, and not the other girl. You should sit down with your girlfriend and explain to her what happened, and how you were tricked. Then go on to say that you needed to be honest with her, and need her. I'm sure she knows of your self harm, and thoughts of suicide, so make sure to then mention that you feel really guilty about it, and it has made you very upset and led to more self harm and thoughts of suicide.
Everything will work out fine! :)
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