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1.Please do not use names because i don't want anyone complaining to me about how their name is on the column.

2. NOTHING That has to do with physical relationships. that means nokissing, hugging or anything like that

3. Remember to be patient because i am one person and i have many people asking questions!


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im aj ,im 16, grade 11, im a shy person just meeting people, but when i get to know them im very comfortable and fun , but i need a girl so i can get my mind off this other gurl i fell for, but i dont know wat girls in my school are available, and for some reason i attract girls i dont find attractive at all, theres so many girls in my school that look intresting, but ive never talked to them and i dont no if they have boyfriends or not, how can i open up a convorsation with sumone ive never talkd to before? its hard for me because its like, hey , i dont no you but im gonna talk to you anyways, i think i would look stupid, what should i do to meet some new people?

okay. well i suggest you just either look at something they have: book they're reading, movie they've talked about, cd they have. and try to relate that to your life. For instance, if you see a girl who is wearing a shirt that says green day and you like the band green day, go up to her and say, "i saw the shirt you're wearing and i love Green Day!" she will reply and that can open up other conversations. i hope this helps!

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i like this guy but he likes someone else but he also kinda likes me i want to ask him out but im afraid what should i do?

okay thats a hard question. I definitely think you should get to him through friends. Get a friend to ask him what he thinks of you. or if that seems too cheesy just go for it. What could happen? Just make sure you ask him out in private with no friends around. And if he says no tell him not to tell anyone what you did, and if he is really nice, he won't. and if he does tell then you can say that he cant keep secrets.
Hope this helps!

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well this gurl in my school likes me and i like her but im afraid to ask her out because what if she says no

Well you should just go for it.
I suggest that if you don't want to be embarrassed, ask her in private. Make sure you ask in person because in an IM or Email shows that you're 2 scared to face her in person. Just go for it. If she says no, then she wasn't worth your time. Good Luck!

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so as most of you know i WAS in a relationship with a abusive guy and i told him that i want to break up with him..and he brok two of my ribs...and gave me a cuncution...:-(

but on the flip side hes goin to juvey!! and i realized (thanks to ALL of u!!!!!) that he was an a** hole. plain and simple..and all i get are threatining letters/phone calls..but what i am afraid of is his friends. his friends stick by him 100%..and my house got TP (toilet paperd) and lilke a dead rat was on my door step (says my mom) and like i got threating letters in my locker saying "bitch if u tell ill kill you" or "we know you told hoe, were ganna do what jake did" (jake rapped me.)

so PLZ help!!!!

You must tell the police. Get the guys' names and tell. Tell everyone you know. Just get the word out there. Stay by your friends or an adult at all times. I know people will say you're a baby, but it's for your own good.

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My boyfriend and I have been going out secretly for almost two months. He really wants to tell people, and i guess i'm okay with that. It's just that he also wants to kiss me and stuff, but i really don't feel comfortable with doing that. I don't want to break up with him i just think we both need more time. what do i do?

Even though in my rules it said not to use kissing and stuff i guess i can answer this.
Well you should never let anyone pressure you into getting into a physical relationship. Just one kiss could lead into a few more kisses which could lead to who knows what. Only when you are mentally prepared should you enter a relationship that has that big of a commitment.

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Well my bff and i like the same guy and i think he likes me but i don't know for sure.
Should i ask him out first and make my friend deal or should we both not get him?

Well, I don't think it is a good idea to do that to your friend. I think you need to ask him who he likes better or just let it go. but love doesn't last forever whereas a friendship can.

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