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Ok, here goes... I guess I should tell you a bit about myself, at least the basics: 17, female, and a virgin. Great, right? Now, onto the question.
Last year there was a guy in a couple of my classes that we're going to call "Aaron." He was a year older than me but I was in his classes because I am on a more advanced track. Well, Aaron sat in my little group during math class along with his other friend, "John." I had known John from before so we all got along really well. It wasn't soon before I started to really like Aaron. Besides celebrities, he was the only guy I had ever felt sexually attracted to. It was apparent he liked me too. As the months progressed, we started being more open with each other and joking about sex. One day when we were sitting in Spanish (our table was WAY in the back), we got on the topic of boobs somehow. I made a comment like "I don't get why guys like boobs, they're just big bags of fat!" to which he retorted, "Well, if you were a guy and saw your chest, you'd be attracted to them too." With that, he cupped my boob. I was kinda shocked! I mean, we were in the middle of the classroom! Part of me thought it was strange and the other part was in heaven! It felt really good and I completely trusted him. This continued on and we made out a few times. One day, we were eating lunch and he told me to meet him up at his locker in ten minutes. We each got locker passes and I follwed him up shortly after he left. I was really happy. His locker was located by a guy's bathroom. He told me to follow him inside. I was REALLY scared to go in. The big taboo, you know? But I was so enamored that I followed him in. He asked if I would give him a blowjob. He did not pressure me and asked very sweetly, making sure I was ok. Let me tell you, I've never wanted to do anything more in my life. I was so ready for it, but in a bathroom? No. It felt so wrong. It was then that our male science teacher walked in. We were shouted at but in the end we didn't get into too much trouble. After that Aaron became a recluse. I don't know if it was because he was embarrassed, angry, or scared, but he stopped talking to me. It really hurt me and I gave up the hopes of ever being with him.
Skip to the end of this year:
We eventually made up, but he still didn't really talk to me. It wasn't until a week ago I actually spoke to him for more than two minutes. We were confined to the auditorium, setting up amps for an assembly later that day. We talked, but we didn't mention the year before or anything sexual.
Later that day, Aaron sent me a message on facebook asking if I would give him a blowjob.
I really didn't know what to say. This was really unexpected and I wasn't prepared at all. I decided in my mind that I still really wanted to do it. I liked him a lot, and this was basically for my pleasure as much as his. He wants me to do it behind our stage, in a loft that holds all the costumes after school. It's hard to find the time, but I really want to!
So here are my questions:
1) Am I really wrong to do this?
2) Should I lie to my parents so I can do this?
3) At school?!
4) How can we find the time?
Thanks for everything and I'm sorry this thing is so LONG! I'm hyped on Caribou right now and my fingers just keep going!

Okay i'm going to answer each question as best as i can! Now for the first question.. you are not wrong for doing it, don't let anyone tell you you're wrong for doing something you WANT to do. What would make it wrong is if you truly didn't want to but felt obligated to do it. Don't ever let a guy pressure you to do something sexually you don't feel comfortable with! Now the second question.. You don't have to lie to your parents, in fact, you don't have to tell them at all. This is your sexual business, but if youre looking for advice then go ahead! But i'm going to tell you now, they are probably not going to be happy about it. The third question.. it's your decision if you want to do it in school, it might actually make it a little more exciting, but it's probably best if you kept it outside school. If you get caught in school you could get in serious trouble, and will eventually get around to your parents without your permission. Now for the last question.. ya'll should probably make time to hang out and maybe fit the blow job in there, but don't ever schedule a set time to give him head. To be honest, i feel like he is using you. He has not asked you to hang out, and he was very blunt and just straight up asked you for head. He stopped talking to you after you didn't. Those are signs that a guy is using you. Nothing is wrong with giving a guy head, and if you're okay with him not wanting anything more, then it's totally your decision. Like i said it's only wrong if you truly don't want to do it. I promise you though, you'll enjoy it a million times better if you wait for someone that doesn't just use you for blow jobs. It could really hurt your confidence especially if you actually start really liking the guy.

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15/f

So theres this boy i've been off and on with having a crush this whole year. We went to one school dance together and it was amazing and we'd both probably agree it was the best dance together of the year. He's been through alot this year and i've always been there for him and he appreciates it alot. He feels as if i'm the only one he can talk to about anything and were just really close in some aspects. We text just about everyday about anything and everything and we talk at our lockers every hour.

He told one of my friends he really wanted to "get to know me more" after the dance. and now that were getting closer and all where does this lead to?

Anyways i've really fallen for him and i'm really starting to like him, what can I do? To find out, to get him to like me, to get closer to him i've never wanted a relationship more than this one.

He clearly has strong feelings for you. What those feelings may be, we don't know. He could truly have feelings for you as more than a friend, or he could have feelings for you as just one of his truest friends. The only way to find out is to tell him how you feel. It's intimidating, I know, but he is obviously not going to make the move if he hasn't already. What's the worst that can happen> you're going to find out how he feels, and if he doesn't feel the same he obviously has enough respect for you to not make you feel like an idiot. Just remind him things between yall wont change unless he feels the same. In that case yall will possibly become an item! :)

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im 18/f & my ex-boyfriend is 19. we dated for two years but have 3 years of history together. we're each others first loves, planned to get married, everything. well we broke up back in march because problems started to arise. he changed from making me feel like the most important person in the world, always showing & telling me how much he loved me, wanting to be around me all the time, everything, to not showing any emotion and just acting careless about everything because one of his former "good" friends came back in the picture and suddenly he was always with her. so, we fought, we yelled we cried, i threatened to leave several times if he didnt get his shit straight, he still acted indifferent, so we broke up. a week or two later he feels bad and asks for another chance and said he'd change and just wanted me back. i said fine prove to me you we can be like we used to and things should be fine. didn't happen. things continued as they were so i said forget it i'm done. fast forward to now. we've been in contact again. and after seeing me the other night he apparently had an epiphany of how much i mean to him. he texted me literally begging for another chance, saying he loves me more than anything & i'm the best thing in his life and and he'll do any & everything he can to make things right again.

i dont know what to do though. i've been talking to different guys since we broke up. nothing serious. just a little flirting, kissed a few of them and that's it. i dont want to be in a relationship with any of these guys, but i like the freedom and don't feel like i want to be all serious and tied down now. at the same time though i do love this guy, i know he loves me despite our troubles, but i also feel like we're at a dead end. we obviously didn't make things work before, so why should we know? he said its because we cant say we honestly tried, but i just feel like we would come to break up again and i dont want to feel that hurt so soon again.

another thing is i'm going to college 4 hours away in the fall, so we'd inevitably break up. if not when i left, then sooner or later. so i sort of feel like we should hold off, but then i'm afraid we'll never be the same and lose our chance for good.

i think the problem is i know i dont want to be in a relationship right now, but im so scared im going to lose him forever. we've never felt the way we feel about each other before, and i honestly could see myself with him for the rest of my life, but then again we've had such difficult problems recently i feel like it's just too much trouble.

i dont even know what my question is. i honestly love him, but after all we've gone through i feel like being with him and trying to work it out is a hassle. i want to be single for awhile, but then with college approaching and me leaving, it leads me to think we've come to the end of our line. any input here?

Girl I was in the same situation. I don't care what anyone says, people do deserve second chances but it doesn't mean it's going to change anything. Guys around this age are immature and don't truly know what they want. When he's around you, of course he's going to remember how much he cares about you, and how much you mean to him, but as soon as he goes back to his friends or his life away from you, he's going to naturally fall back to the way he used to be. Once you break up chances of things going back to the way they were is extremely slim. I've tried with many many guys, and I know many girls that have done the same. Now that you are happy and enjoying your single life don't throw it away to go back to how you felt before. You are only going to get more attached and its going to be harder to move on if things don't work out. Things didn't work out for a reason and sometimes you just have to stop looking back and start moving on. It's part of life it's going to be tough but you have learned alot and you are going to get stronger from it! Especially now that you're going away to college enjoy being single learn about yourself ENJOY yourself. When youre in a relationship you can't just think about yourself, you have someone else to think about. Being in college is about learning to be on your own. You will find someone you love, you will be in a great committed relationship later on in life. Don't rush it just move on and be as happy as you can be until then.

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