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Hi, I really hope you can help; i've gotten mixed responses from others...
Basically, my BF discovered that in my senior year of college (I graduated last year) I had taken two semesters worth of judo classes and he thought this was really funny b/c I don't look like, I guess, a "typical" jock chick--that is i'm not muscular or buff or whatever...i'm your stereotypical "girly girl" in appearance--tall, skinny, blond hair, blah blah blah and I'm like 125 lbs....so he's laughing at me, calling me "judogirl", etc., and I was fine w/all that, if a little annoyed, but then he made a mistake: he challenged me to a wrestling match...and I beat him.
He outweighs me by like 40 lbs. and is pretty strong but he didn't understand that my judo skills would use his strength against him and he just couldn't believe I won. I figured it was a one-time deal, but he was so bent out of shape that he's challenged me several times since then, and I've defeated him every time. It would be OK if he didn't take it so seriously, but he just becomes this mean pouty jerk when he loses and keeps challenging me and now i've refused to wrestle him b/c it's no fun and I hate his sexist attitude as well. But refusing to wrestle just makes him angrier and he says stuff like "you're just afraid i'll figure out your 'tricks' and win...it's so annoying!
I've considered just faking it and letting him win but I don't REALLY want to do that b/c I'm proud of my skills, and just wish he would be too...plus when he baits me w/all this "you're just a girl" crap, it gets my goat and i'm more than happy to throw him to the floor and pin him when he gets too tired to fight me off...
Have you ever beaten a boy at something athletic--whether martial arts or sports--or know a girl who has? B/c maybe if I can tell him he's not the only one he won't feel so bad... (link)
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Hiya,
Sorry this took so long, my computer's been down.
Of course I've beaten someone in arm-wrestling. Your looks or size have nothing to do with YOU.
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19 year old male
alright, ive been dating my girlfriend for about almost a year now. I am a virgin and she has been honest with me and told me she had sex once a while ago (she is 18). Well we are somewhat orally and hand-ally active. One day a few months ago i actually ripped her hymen fingering her and it happened again once a few weeks later, not since though. I used to be good friends with her ex boyfriend who walks around telling people how they used to have sex all the time and whatnot (hence the "used to be friends"). But she told me she had never had sex with him. I was just wondering if it was even possible that they did considering i broke the hymen. Any help is greatly appreciated. Thanks a bunch! (link)
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It actually is. A girl's hymen doesn't always break during sex, just like it CAN break during other activities. I wouldn't worry about it. If the two of you have been honest with each other, and you can trust her, don't let it come between you. Also, I noticed you said that it happened twice. Once the hymen is gone, it's gone. Are you sure you broke her hymen? What did it feel like? A girl can bleed no matter what, it may just have been sore. Get back to me on that. If you'd like, you can email me at madalyn987@yahoo.com.
-Madalyn
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13/F
Okay, I just starting going out with my amazing boyfriend, (who just happens to be my best friend's ex, but she knows and she's not mad)and we went to the movies last night, and had an incredible night. We kissed, we told each other we loved each other, and pretty much everything else. He tried to make out with me the whole movie, but after I got my point across that I wasn't going to make-out with him the whole movie, he finally stopped, and we just held hands, cuddled, and flirted. I thought he was going to stop liking me because I didn't want to continue as far as he wanted me to, but he called me after our date, and we only talked for a few minutes. Now, here's the thing: I told my best friend (his ex) about our date, and all she could tell me was that everything he said and did was only a game to try to get in my pants. I believe her, but I really like him. (I would never give in to having sex with him, though) So, is there any advice anyone could give me on how to deal with this whole situation?
Thanks so much!
P.S. And he's definitely not as perverted as he seems, he's actually very nice. (link)
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Play it safe at the beginning. Make sure this guy really likes you, and isn't just looking for sex. If your best friend feels this way, try talking about him to her. Hopefully she'll see that he's not a bad guy.
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