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Hey everyone. Just a heads up, this might be somewhat long! Ok, well me and my ex-boyfriend (first love) started going out on 10/12/04. Well, on 8/11/05 he broke up with me. Didn't give me reasons, out of the blue, and i said w/e and went on with my life. I had feeligns for him still and we stopeed talking. He went out with this girl named Linden, i got mad and went with a boy named Tyler, and both couples broke up in about a month. Well, near the end of October, me and my ex-boyfriend started getting cool again and we became more of friends with benefits. Suddenly, my 1st friend decided to stab me in the back and go and flirt with him and make out with him in my face, so me and my ex stopped talking again. Well, then we started talking again around the end of December and go real good again, friends with benefits and all that stuff, then a second friend did the same thing pretty much the first one did. Now shes telling me, he never liked me, he wants to get with her, and we broke upa while ago so get over him, and yea... so now i dont talk 2 her and my ex is mad at me for not talking to her. Well, i guess my question is, what should i say to him or how should i handle this situation? it really is none of his business, but i still have strong feelings for him. The second question i have is that I get mad when he flirts with other girls, and he gets mad at me when i flirt with other guys. So, that means he still has feelings for me to right?!? Some of this may be obvious to you, but my ex doesnt like to share feelings, thats why i am not sure. thanks a lot, 1 for answering, and 2 for reading it all!!! (link)
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well first of all if they were your real friends they wouldnt be trying to get with you exboyfriend. especially if they know how you feel about him. your ex is probably mad that your not talking to her cause he knows that you were friends and if he does still have feelings for you, which looks like he does, then he probably just wants you to be happy and stuff. he gets mad when you flirt with other guys because he still has feelings for you and its the same thing for you. but there is also a chance that he might still have feelings for you and not want to go back out with you. alot of guys dont know what they want, and if he truly did love you when you were going out and didnt give you a reason when you broke up, he was probably just scared and is probably just dating other girls to get over you. ive been in a similar situation as you, and waiting for the guy will be one of the biggest mistakes.. and youll learn that later if things dont go your way. i think what you need to do, is sit him down somewhere or get him on the phone or something and talk to him about it. tell him how you feel, and tell him that you dont appreciate him doing stuff with you and then dating your friends, and flat out tell him that if he wants you he needs to do something about it now and that if he doesnt your gone. and if you doesnt chose you then hes just a stupid guy and he'll have to live with that for the rest of his life..
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i'm 15 and my ex boyfriend is 16.. we broke up back in july.. we'd been going out for 9 months and 2 weeks prior.. we were both of each others longest relationships.. we broke up alot before but this time it was for good.. well in october i found out i was 5 1/2 months pregnant.. ya i know.. he was alittle supportive but not until he found out i was going with adoption because i don't want to be a mom and there's no way i could handle that change right now.. finally in late december he started to call & come over -- it was a big change becuase he wanted nothing to do with me all summer & i hate to admit it but i was even told by 2 counselors & my mother that he was honestly my "first true love" & when he left i hit rock bottom & of course i'm still not over him.. but my problem is -- one of the times he came over we were hanging out as friends & the next thing i know we were making out & doing things we used to like we were going out again but when i asked him later on why we can't just go back out he said he can't just jump back into a relationship but that he truely did love me & i believe it because i'm pretty positive i was his "first true love" too.. so now when we hang out (which is not alot at all maybe 1 time every 2 weeks) we act like we're going out.. we hold hands & kiss & tell each other we love each other but there's 2 girls in my grade he flirts with soooo much & they want him all of a sudden & they are definitely competition material & i know he likes them but don't know if he wants them.. yet he tells me he hasn't done anything with any other girl since we broke up & he just misses what we had.. yet he doesn't act like he plans on having us get back together.. so do you think i honestly have a chance & just need to wait & MAKE him fall back in love with me or is he possibly just using me when no one's around to get what he wants & once the adoption's final he'll just leave again for good..? i'm still madly in love with him & i don't want anyone else - yet i don't want to play friends with benefits if thats all it's going to be but i'd do anything with him if it'd make that spark come back for me.. what should i do?? (link)
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If he does truly love you and want you back then he most likely would have asked you back already. I think that either he is just looking for someone to hook up with and stuff or that he actually does want to be with you but is putting it off because he knows youre not going anywhere no matter what hes doing. and if he thinks that then things are not going to change. and he is right that you cant just jump right back into a relationship.. but i wouldnt wait around for it to happen.. and you lucky that he is being supportive cause a lot of guys can be supportive but dont hang out with the girl, theyll just let them know that if you need anything theyre there.. and i also agree with the girl who told you to play hard to get.. it works most of the time.. if you do that and he doesnt want you back and stuff then you know he was just messing with you..
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I have a girlfriend.I also have an ex.I went to the movies with ex.I still have fellings for my ex.Well any ways I went to the movies with my ex
and two of her friends.I thuogh we was not going to any thing because i have a girlfriend.So i did not do any thing with her for the first 30 mins of the movie.For some reason we started holding hands then 45 mins into the movie we stated to make out and now i have mixed emotions
I want to be with my girlfriend.I love my girlfriend.I also love my ex.now i dont no weather to break up with my girlfriend to go out with my ex or stay with my girlfriend.Please help me (link)
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I'm actually in a sitution sort of like that..only im one of the girls.. your ex girlfriend probably wants you back more than anything and your girlfriend probably never wants to lose you..and you said you love your girlfriend..but if you do love her you wouldnt even have held hands with your ex..and if its not obvious which girl you want to be with then neither of them are right..
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Okay,I'm goin out with this guy.And im starting to get sick of him pickin on me insted of loving me.Like the other day at a game he was like hittin my leg,i know hes just kidding.But its getting on my nerves.. (link)
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let him know that it's gettin on your nerves..and if he doesn't stop after that then just let him go ..he isn't even worth it
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