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Q: I'm 18/F and finishing up my freshman year in college, and i've been dating my b/f for over 2 years now. he's 20 and about to graduate high school. he's had a really rough life with family issues and school, and he recently got denied from an electrical program, which was his only plan for the future. he just told me yesterday that he wants to join the marines. it made my entire day miserable and finally i cried and begged him not to go because i can't stand the fact of him going into the marines. now i'm the only reason why he won't sign up for it, and i'm starting to feel really guilty about it. however, he told me that he wanted to join because of me, because he wanted to fix all his flaws that i didn't like about him, and he thinks if he doesn't join, he won't be able to provide for me in the future. i really love him and i'm scared that if he goes into the marines, we won't be together ever again. am i being selfish for keeping him here? i really don't want him to go.
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Although you two have been together for quite a while, the fact remains that you are not married. The decisions he makes should be based on his own desires and wants. You should definitely be an influence on him but not the deciding factor. Love is difficult. And I know that you two are in a hard place in your relationship but you can get through it. I know I'm speaking from the outside looking in. But my boyfriend is in the military. And I know how it feels to worry, I know how it feels to be scared, and i know how it feels to be away from your loved one. But we are getting through it. Its challenging but it can be done. I think you should let him know how you feel but support him no matter what his decision is, if you're in it for the long run.
I really hope it works out
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Q: my bf lived here when we started dating. went away for college and i cheated on him. he found out and we stayed together to make it work. some days were good, some not so good. we broke-took one day breaks on and off. we have broken up for good now because he thinks i just lie all the time. he said id get a fresh start. i never did get it. i want to go visit him this weekend but what can i say to make him reconsider, not think bad of me or just get us back together. when we are together, we are extremly happy. this is a bit of the huge problem bc im going this weekend and cant describe the little details so please please all and any good advice would help!
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When trust its broken in a relationship, its extremely hard to repair. But it can be done. In this situation I think its less about what you say and more about what you do. Of course you want to tell him that he never has to worry about you going astray again but also let him see that you are now and always will be faithful to him. Even though you are in a long distance relationship there are tons of nice things you can do.
-if you have a social networking site such as a facebook or myspace page. post a picture of him on your page along with a couple sentences or a paragraph about how special he is to you.
-send him letters through the mail and spray it with your favorite perfume and put a picture(s) of you two that you have
-when you go visit him this weekend give him a keepsake. something that is of value to you. such as a necklace, a bear from child hood, a special photo,etc.
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Q: me and my boyfriend go to the same school, and whenever i'm not with him and he's out with his friends. and if there's a girl or i don't know that's there or a group of girls with a group of guys. i don't know why i feel like he might be cheating on me. because in the beginning of the relationship, i caught him flirting with another girl, but he didn't say he didn't. he admitted the fact that he did, he said he stopped.. but i wouldn't know. pretty stupid i know, i just feel insecure. he says he's IN LOVE with me, and i'm the only person he needs in his life. and that i am his life, he rarely hangs out with his friends now because he only wants to be with me. but why am i still feeling insecure? i keep telling myself, "maybe he's not answering my message cause he's sleeping" or "maybe he's busy" but everytime i happens, i keep thinking he's cheating on me. when it's most likely he's not... he's honest with me all the time. is there a way where i can stop feeling insecure? does he ever think that way?
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In order to be in a healthy relationship, you have to be in tune with, and accept yourself. It seems as if your self esteem could use a little boosting. And nothing is wrong with that.
Wondering whether if there's a "third" person in your relationship once or twice is normal. But it becomes a problem when you're wondering if he's cheating on you a lot. If he is doing nonething that would make him look guilty then accusations shouldn't be made against him. But you also have a female's intuition. As the saying goes "if it looks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then its definitely a duck." If you continue to believe that he is being unfaithful then you should confront him with how you feel. Don't verbally attack him when you let him know you're emotions, but calmly let him in on how you have been feeling.
I hope everything goes well.
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Q: Would you rather love a loser or lose a lover? Why?
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It all depends on your definition of loser. If you consider a loser to be someone who cheats, does you wrong, puts you down then its definitely best to lose a lover. But if you consider a loser to be someone who is a geek and a couch potato than i would rather love a loser.
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Q: Im 16/f my boyfriend of 7 months (17/m) have been fighting alot and we just cant seem to get along. (I'm his first girlfriend) He doesnt' really know how to handle situations where he gets stressed out about things. He just seems to tkae it out on me, and then when i get mad or do soemthing he doesn't like he just gets mad and we're constantly fighting. We took a break a couple months ago and that was just a disaster. But we finally got back together and we're just always fighting and not getting along. Its came to the part where he says why dont we just break up. But we're so in love we dont want stupid fights ruining our relationship. What do you suppose we do, any tips on how to get along better, and not fight so often? Thanks. Much appreciated
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I think its times like this when you all have to think outside of the box and get a little creative but yet keep it simple. Here are some ideas
-Go to the same place that you all had your first date at
-Reminisce on fun times by making a scrap book
-Cook him his favorite meal and/or dessert
-Write him a poem/song
-Do something you'll have never done together such as rock climbing or anything spontaneous
But the most important thing is to talk it through. You two are in love and in many situations love can overcome many/all obstacles
-Play a game where you guys tell each other atleast 4 things that you love most about each other and atleast 2 things you'll can work on. This way you two can try to understand how the other views you.
-I hope you two can work things out. Love is the most incredible thing and very few people have the privilege to ever experience it. So this means that there had to be something extremely special & lucky about you'll. :)
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Hi. Thanks for stopping by my page. I'll try to make this section as quick and sufficient as I can. I'm at a point in my life where I'm finally realizing and accepting a lot about myself. Most importantly i learned that no matter what life can and will always be sumed up in three simple words: it goes on.
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Gender: Female Member Since: September 20, 2007 Answers: 12 Last Update: April 25, 2009 Visitors: 2441
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