I met this guy at my friend’s party. He was his ex boyfriend but also best friend. Me and him started talking a lot on the phone after we meet, we text everyday for 2 months straight and call each other every night. I think I like him I don’t know. At the beginning he told me he also liked me, but then I told him some stuff about my ex and he told me I GUESS THIS IS GOODBYE and since then we haven’t been the same. We still text everyday but it’s not a lot anymore, and we haven’t talk on the phone for more than 2 weeks. But I think it was because my best friend (also his ex girlfriend) started to talk to him again; they know everything about each other because they been friends for almost 6 years! She told me that he wanted something with her and she just wanted to play with him.I don’t know what to do anymore I cant tell him what my friend is going to do. And they are going to see each other this week. I want him to like me but I also cant date him because of my bestfriend. Everything is very complicated. Please help me.
I’m a 15 year old girl.
RELAX! Without knowing what you told him about your ex, I can't really tell you why things changed between you two. As for your best friend, don't you think it's a little rude that she would mess with him at all...even if she is just toying with him, especially, since she knows how you feel about him? That doesn't sound like much of a friend to me. Is that the kind of person you want to associate with? Don't get me wrong...I'm not judging your friend. I can't because I don't know her, and I don't know the whole story here. I just had to ask, because if it were my friend (which has happened to me A LOT!), I'd feel a bit betrayed. I would confront her about that. I'm not saying "go start a fight" or anything, but if it's bothering you, and if she really is your friend, then you should be able to tell her that.
As for the guy, you may have somehow offended him with the info about your ex, but if he's still talking to you, there's still hope. I can't count how many times my boyfriend told me "goodbye" or "don't ever talk to me again" before we started dating. Keep the lines of communication open. It may be awkward now, but that fades with time. Talk to him. Ask him if there is anything that you said/did wrong. Explain to him that you feel like you two are getting more and more distant. Ask him again how he feels about you. But, guard your heart. You may find out that things have changed and he isn't interested anymore. If that's the case then, obviously, that's gonna hurt quite a bit. If you brace yourself for bad news, it won't hurt nearly as much, and you can get over it easier.
You are so young. There will be plenty of other guys, crossing paths with you. Don't get all wrapped up in this one guy (unless you two do start dating). If it turns sour, then don't let it phase you. It's his loss, and you will someday meet one who is perfect for you.
I really hope that helps! Good luck!
[view]
My boyfriend got in a wreck a week or so ago. We used to see each other every weekend and every Friday. We were never apart. It was great. But now we barely see each other outside of school and I'm just not feeling our relationship anymore. This distance is terrible. I barely have the money and gas to go to his house and he has no car. We always said that the distance would never effect our relationship. I'm the first girl he ever felt strong feelings for and I never stop thinking about him, but not seeing him a lot makes me lonely and depressed. I try to hang out with friends and keep busy but I can't. How do I make these feelings go away? I could never ever break his heart.
Ok, first of all, I have to ask...was it him that you were into, or just the idea of being in a relationship? It sounds to me like you just miss hanging out with "a" guy...not necessarily "your" guy.
I could be wrong, but if it were my man, I'd find ways to get gas money. The longest I've been away from mine while we were together was 4 days. I'm sure it's probably been longer for you, but my point is that as agonizing as it was...my feelings for him never lessened. They got stronger. Do you at least talk to him everyday? It may not be what you want, but it's something that you can keep a link to him with. If you are really starting to lose interest, then it may be time to move on.
It's never easy to hurt someone, but the longer you wait, the more it will hurt. Of course, this is just my opinion. Yet, I assume that if you're on here, it's because that's what you're looking for (not necessarily mine, but someone's).
Best of luck!
[view]
|
