If you want advice from someone who tends to have views that are different from the world that surrounds you , then you have come to the right place.I am truly gifted when it comes to giving advice because, I possess keys elements that are required in order to do so. I take all questions in with careful consideration because, after all this is your world and your life.I will treat your burdens as if they are my own. This seems alittle dramatic I suppose but, look how many tangled webs have followed bad advice.Aside from the mental aspect I worked as a certified counselor for 3 years.
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Ok, i really like this guy at school, but my close friends really hate him (he rejected them), and so i went to my other friends, and they were shocked, and not in a good way. I like the guy alot, and he flirts with me. I havent told my close friends, and i really want to, bacuse i always tell them. What should i do? I really need advice! (link)
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Well obviously if you have friends that are true to you , they will accept anything about you . This includes who you like.Afterall they are not the ones that will be with this guy. It should not concern them who you like. Your happiness should be their only concern.You should tell them if that is what you want. I am sure it would be nice to have someone to share this with.
The fact that they dislike him is besides the point . Who should care if they do ? You can't lead your life for them. If the shoe was on the other foot do you think they would turn someone down they liked for you?Higly doubtful . They would want your acceptance of that person. I'm sure that your friends will understand . If not still it is your life. Do you always approve of their choice of boyfriends? I hope it all works out wonderfully for you !I hope you live for happiness!
Unity
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13/f
Now i know this question may sound silly but i know at my age girls like me dont really truly flirt but how do gilrs at my age flirt in the 8th grade. im starting to get really confused and i hopw people answer. i just need some guidence. please dont think im a dork. thanx to anyone who answers. (link)
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Number 1 you are not a dork . This is something that all girls your age go through. First of all when it comes to flirting ,there is really not a list of rules you need to follow. Sometimes it can just be the way you look at him or, how you pay attention when he speaks.Sweet gestures and precious time is a fine place to start. Let them know you are interested but, in a suttle way.Don't let them think that your interest is from desperation but, inspiration instead.I know it is hard when you are 13 because, every move you make is critical to your reputation. Teenagers can be pretty judgemental about things like this.The key is to be yourself and to be confident in knowing that there is a certain charm about you that guys will love. Live it , walk it, and breathe it! Build yourself up so you will always hold this charisma. Blow a few kisses and throw a couple winks!If they don't accept believe me they probably aren't worth having anyways.A girl who is sure of herself is the perfect flirt ! Furthermore she is cute while she is doing it!
Good Luck
From a fellow Flirt
Unity
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Okay, I'm 16/F.
The guy I like goes to another high school in the area. Just to make this easier, we'll call him "Jack". In order to better explain this story, I'm going to have to add two more people, girls, who we'll call "Jess" and "Sue".
So, I met Jack at the end of 10th grade through friends, and I thought he was annoying and obnoxious, although I was attracted to him physically, and pretty much ignored him. What conversation we did have was short, since he was ignoring me, too. That night he also met Sue, and I could tell he was really into her, another reason that made me annoyed with him, since...well, I grew up with Sue, but she's much shorter than Jack, and she always gets the guy, and it bothered me that even though Jack annoyed me, and even though she's short, she managed to snag him as well.
Months went by and Jack and Sue did end up dating. Jack claimed to be in love with her, but they only went on a few dates before Sue became fed up with him. She gets bored easily, another reason why it angers me when the guys fall all over her, that and the fact that she's so snobby and high maintenance.
Anyway, Jess is another girl I grew up with, and she goes to school with Jack. One day this summer, she gave me Jack's IM out of the blue, and we started talking. I felt like we were really hitting it off. Jess had a party in August, and she didn't invite Jack at first. We were talking on IM the one day and I said I was going to Jess's party, and he immidiately IMed her and next thing I knew, he was invited. The night of the party, he only went because I did, or at least he spent a really long time waiting for me online to tell him I was going.
Jack and I continued to hit it off, and a few weeks later exchanged phone numbers. We tried to go out with friends a few times, but it didn't happen. By the time school started, I still liked Jack, but I wasn't thinking about him too much, until he called me at the end of September and we went out with friends.
Anyway, obviously it's been a few months since then. We started talking less and less after that night, although he seemed to like me and was flirting with me, and all sorts of things. I sat in the front seat of his car with him, he offered me his sweatshirt, and all sorts of things, but we just stopped talking often.
Jess doesn't like Jack, by the way. Or at least, she didn't. She really disliked him...almost hated him, even. I found that odd since he sits with him at lunch, apparantly, and ended up letting him come to her party. In October, Jess started to bring Jack up more and more around me. I was thinking maybe she liked him or knew I liked him. Finally she admitted that she liked him in 9th grade (we're in 11th now).
Jack and I have started talking again since I called him the other night, but I'm still trying to find out what to do. His winter dance is coming up and I really want to go, and Jess says she'll hook me up with someone if she can. She also keeps bringing up Jack wherever we go. I suppose I do as well, but when she does, she seems so...inquisitive, yet happy. I'm trying to figure out if she likes him again or if she just wants to know how I feel or what. Lately they've been getting along better, too.
I also want to know...what should I do about Jack? Should I tell him I like him, despite the fact that I have no clue how he feels, since we just started talking again? Should I tell one of our friends I like him, or even Jess?
Please let me know what you think! (link)
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This seems like a complex situation . For a minute I thought I was on the young and the restless.Intrigued but also confused! I think that you are an extremely analytical person.You notice every detail but, you don't accept them all. As far as the situation with Jack I would say to go for it.Tell him how you feel . It has been long enough and, you seem like it would make you feel alot better to have this off your chest.As for this friend Jess........ don't assume automatically that she likes him but, don't rule it out . It seems like sometimes friends don't have interests in certain people until they find you have a interest.I don't know why this is . It doesn't even matter if it is your best friend you still have to watch out because, sometimes they just end up wanting the same guy you do for no reason other then human nature to overcome the other.Still you will never know what will happen with Jack until he is aware of the circumstances . You never know he could be feeling the very same way.If not at least you tried and you could finally move on from all of the wonder . Believe me if he doesn't ,there are plenty of other fish in the sea and a person as sincere as you will have no problem finding and catching them.
Good Luck
Unity
P.S Isn't so funny that every girl has a friend like Sue?
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About 5 months ago I got into a fight with my long distance bf. I tried to reconcile but gave up after two days of him not returning my calls. He can be very stubborn. In the past when we've fought I've always been the one to mend fences but this time I figured he needs to make the first move. Well the other night I was at work and his best friend came into the store. It's a HUGE store. It's a grocery store but it sells everything else too. I know he and his friend are very close. His best friend was actually looking for me- and when he found me he was being very friendly and asked about the job. My gut tells me my ex put him up to this. Also- I now what you're thinking that maybe his friend is interested in me. Well that's not the case because he was there with his gf. So back to my original question- do you think my ex wants me back? (link)
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I am thinking that this may just be a case of wishful thinking on your part.It is truly obvious that you want this to be a sign that he does want you back but, consider that he himself has not contacted you. His friend could have just felt obliged to say hello to you and question just to see how you are doing.When a man truly wants to be with someone he surrenders to that fact and his pride becomes nothing.He will find a way to get to you but, not through someonelse. Five months later you should figure that he is not exactly dying without you . I know this may all be a little harsh but, it is not meant to be . I simply think that you should go on and find you someone who will bring you happiness that you deeply deserve. Even if he did send his friend to checkup on you , do you actually want a man who can't speak for himself . Don't settle for that !
Best of luck
Unity
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ok theres this guy......
hes so nice to me in school & stuff & he always makes me laughs.
but other times when hes with his friends & stuff hes different. he acts like he hates me.
i told him i used to like him but im still hooked on him....
the thing is that hes so sweet when hes not with his friends that thats the side im in love with.
hes a goofball so talking seriously is not gonna work..pleez help
~EAS (link)
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It is obvious that this guy really needs to decide what he wants . It is more obvious that maybe you should look to brighter horizons. When you are young I suppose it it o.k. to dwell on situations like this but, in all reality you shouldn't. Believe me I have been in your situation and I know that it is no fun. Guys play with your emotions when they try to play two different games at the same time. They never realize just how much it hurts. Number one, don't give him the pleasure of knowing how much you like him. That only gives him more leeway to run you in circles. Number two, don't make yourself so readily available.If he is only nice when you are alone what does that say? Is he ashamed of you?If so, he is a loser and you don't need him to start with. I know this it is hard to stay away from someone you really like but unless he starts taking his own initatives to get next to you do away with him.
Unity
P.S Keep lookin hot ! That always gets em!
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