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Heyy Everyone! I'm Heather, and I write an advice column for my school paper, so I got tons of experince, if anyone needs any advice at all, just ask! That's why I'm here.

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i am an 18 year old female. i have been on and off with this guy for three years and have had very good and some bad times...right now we are not going out, but we act like it. we are not seeing others and spend tons of time together. i love him and he used to love me but now he says he is confused about what love is. he doesnt want to go out and i dont understand how the title and how we are now are different. he might be going away for the summer. he is not seeing other people so i am wondering if anyone could explain maybe where he is coming from and if there is something i am not realizing or anything...thanks

He said he needed space. And thats exactly what you shoud give him. Make some time for you, and treat him as your friend, not your boyfriend. If he doesn't want a relationship right now, don't give him one. It'll only make both of you even more confused. Give him time, and in time he'll come around and tell you what he wants - which, most likely, will be you and him dating again ;)

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Ok i am like extremly shy when it come to guys and stuff, and I don't want to be. Does anyone know a way to overcome that?

Heyy Girlie -

All i can tell you, is be yourself. There's nothing better than acting the way you want to, you have more fun, and you're self esteem will be higher! When your self-esteem and confidence build, you'll break out of your shell. Just remember be yourself!
ps. theres nothing wrong with being shy!

- heather

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Im 13 (female) So...there's this guy. ANd i REALLY like him...or at least i used to. Hes really cool and we're friends and stuff...see....i told him that i liked him...but it turns out that the same day...he had a friend fix him up with another girl...and she dosent reallylike him...and so now he thinks that the only reason i talk to him is because i like him and he barely talks to me and....what should i do?

hey chicaa..

I would talk to her about it, and tell her it isnt fair for her to do this to her man. I would not tell him (yet) though because you dont want to ruin the realtionship. Tell her that he would probably be more hurt if you let things linger like this, and you want a chance.

Hope i helped!
- Heather

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i know this is long but please help!

i'm a 15 yr old girl.

i've become best friends with this guy alex but i've always had a teenie little thing for him, nothing too big cuz i know how complicated the whole friends to more thing can get..

anyways me and him are also best friends with this girl ashley and she told me that he said he liked me... but then 2 days later he's going out with another girl

now hes single and he's been flirting with me a lot... most people thought we were going out already.. i just don't know if i should really go along with it, would this ruin our friendship? i like him but i don't even know if he's just flirting with me just cuz he can and thinks i won't do anything b/c we're friends or if hes really sincere about it? please help quick!

If you're worried about ruining your friendship with him by dating, I don't think it would ruin what you guys have because going out would only make you two feel closer. Besides if you feel like the relationship isn't going where you want, and you thought you two were better as friends, you should be the one to let him know first thing and let him down smoothly and tell him you just want to go back to the way it was. That way, you'll be able to see if you guys are a compatible couple, and be able to hold on to your friendship if all falls down. You only live once, it's better to act than regret.

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