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I just found out two days ago that my husband of 21 years had an affair with a woman who was in his drug rehab class. I know he talked with her on cell phone (I looked up the records) and I found out that they had sex once (in a car) and he wanted to come clean it happened about one month ago. He told me there was no feelings and he was done with the relationship. He also dumped on me that about ten years ago, during the course of one year he called about six escorts at different times and actually had sex with one. I am so heart sick and need to know if I could ever trust him again. What would you do? I am at the cross roads. We have 5 boys. (link)
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You know what they say...once a cheater, always a cheater. It sounds to me like your husband has done too much damage to continue on with the relationship. It would take a lot of patience and strength for you to forgive these episodes. If I were you, I'd get a divorce ASAP. You're husband has cheated multiple times, how could you expect him not to again? He probably just figures it's all okay since he told you about it.
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I have a weird relationship with this guy,
See we were together for almost a year, and he broke up with me right before we hit our year anniversary.
The main fights between us was that he never had time to spend with me, although everything regardless of that was great. I love him a lot. And even after we broke up he still claims to love me.
After we broke up we had a weird week... it was weird because of the break up, but then after that it's like we never broke up, we still kiss and hold hands and have sex.. but everytime it comes up, or if someone asks, he says we're just friends.
He says that he's not ready to jump into the relationship again and he needs time.
He says he wants it to happen "naturally"
But the way I see it, we're pretty much already together since we still act the same way and do the same things we did when we were.
And it kills me when he says we're just friends, because he doesn't act as if we were.
He calls me and kisses me and tells me he loves me, and I love him a lot, so i don't see our relationship as just simply a friendship.
It makes me mad sometimes because i feel like he's ashamed to say i'm his girlfriend, and i want to tell him to screw off, but i can't. i love him too much.
any advice would be helpful (link)
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If a relationship was not ended in clean break style, and the couple hangs out afterward, then these things are bound to happen. It is not fair to either of you to drag things out like this. Tell him it's all or nothing, a clean break (you can't hang out or these things that lead you on will continue!) or a true relationship. It is always best to make a clean break, hence it leaves things simple and "clean."
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How do i Win back my ex-girlfriend?
we broke up last week and i really miss her..she told me she wants to be single and do what ever she wants with nothing holding her back or hurting anyone..but i've been hurting everyday since we broke up..i really want her back..yesterday i read of her blog that she has a crush on someone that's like 1 or 2 years younger than her..i just felt lied to because she said she wants to be single..why is she liking some other guys...and also i'm like the only guy that she ever gone out with that actually lasted more than a month..we lasted almost a year and 7 months..i loved her through thick and thin..she hurt me alot in the past..like flirting with other guys.. and stuff but i still love her..when ever i try to get her back now she just tells me that we're over ..i just cant accept the fact that i will never be with her again...because shes the only girl that i fell hardest for and we been through so much..and im so surprised that after all that shes still not taking me back..i have done nothing wrong i never flirted or barely talk to any other girl besides her i've stayed true and kept all my promises i made to her such as no cheating and staying with her no matter what and such....the main question is i really want her back and i want her to love me again what can i do? ...sorry that my detail is all over the place... oh and also im 17 year of age and shes almost 17 too in december..if its neccessary ...please dont say we too young to really love because its not true ..im very much in love with her
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The first thing you need to do is ACCEPT. Accept the fact that the relationship is over. It sounds to me like you may have been over-bearing in the relationship (over-reacting to harmless flirting). In any case, you cannot force her to stay with you. If you really love her you should support her decision to move on with her life. And I advise you to do the same. You can't win her back if she's already made up her mind and gone. Just because she has a crush on someone doesn't mean she's going to jump into a relationship and it really should be no concern of yours. Quit reading her blogs, quit talking to her. Do whatever it takes to move on. 'Cause that's what's best for YOU. I know it's very hard at first after a serious relationship. But, in time, everything will be okay. Don't wait around for someone who isn't coming back (and who left you in the first place). Move on and enjoy life while you can. I wish you lots of luck, stay strong!
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Ok so basically ive been at my job sense februray of this year. When i started working there, everyone told me my manager was gay, but something about him didnt seem gay at all. Time went by, I got to know him, he still didn't seem gay, until we got a shift manager who was clearly gay. Everyone said they were dating, and for a while, i believed it. However, I always thought he was incredibly attractive and often would dream of him. Recently, the dreams started getting more and more frequent until they were every night. I tried showing him some interest at work but I really wanted to keep my feelings from a distance-based level, until one night, my brother found out I had a crush on him and sent him a sexual text message from my phone without me knowing. He asked if it was meant for him and when I realized what had happened, I got embarresed and told him someone else had sent it. He kept saying "Suuure!" and "Sure, thats what happened.. Ha ha ha" joking about it, and he would bring it up when we were alone and smile about it. We're always playing around and the otehr night I got drunk and told him that I liked him. The next day he asked me if what I said was the truth and i told him yes, and im yet to get a responce from him. Is he not interested at all? Am I just wasting my time? Thank you (link)
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I've been in this same situation before--liking a guy a lot and number one, not being able to figure out if he was gay, and number two--not being able to figure out if he could like me. I did nothing. First things first, find out if he is gay. If he's not, then continue to the second step--find out if he likes you. He sounds like he has been flirty with you, but you need facts first.
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isit good to be low key? (link)
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In my opinion, yes it is. Being "low key" means your chilled out and laidback as opposed to being uptight and what-not.
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On here I just read that guys have their first kiss before girls. Ive had my first kiss but only for a dare though (that sounds sad but it was with a really hot guy i'm into so its ok really) . I just wondered why guys have their first kisses before girls? (link)
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Most guys get their first kisses before girls because simply of that- they're guys. Guys are less mature and more willing then most girls.
-Em
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13/f I just need a little help, or a lot depending how you look at it! Short Version:I like my best friend more than a friend and it is a SHE! I mean, I used to kid around with her but now whenever we get close i have to back off or I'm afraid I'll do something...stupid. And I'm starting to stare and when she looks at me I have to look away. I've been feeling like this for weeks and I dont think it's fair to her that I'm like this...what should I do? I thought I was normal! (link)
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First of all, being a lesbian, or liking a person of the same sex, does not make you "abnormal." Who's to say what's normal and what's not? Anyways, you might want to open up your thoughts to your friend. If she gets grossed out or whatever, just laugh it off and say you really don't want the friendship to be ruined. You can't control what you feel.
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