Hellojello my fellow advicenators users!!!!! haha.
For starters, here on this site, i am known as "DaAdvicePerson"... what a faboulous name...not!!! haha i just didnt know what else to put when i signed up.
ANYWAY... my absoultely real name is kristy, so u can call me that if you want. :)
I live in Hawaii on the island of Kauai. its pretty cool here and i enjoy it alot. but thanks to global warming... the heat is intense (to me... on average it is like 80 degrees F) haha.
A litle bit about me... i am 13 years old, and am very outgoing. i love the mall, the beach, and my friends!!!!
well contact me if you wanna no more...
-->kauai_gurl-kristy@hotmail.com
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I simply cannot trust my boyfriend. and now this friday i will not be in town and god only knows what he is going to do. he has a crush on his best girl friend and he says he doesnt. he has cheated on me already and lies. but i havent broken up with him. we have been together a year and we decided that we are going to start over and now the next couple of weeks i am not going to see him every second of everyday because i have other things i have to do. and i am afraid. afraid of being hurt my this man that i am in love with. he is going to hang out with his best girl friend without me, everyday. i dont know what to do. how do i get past this and not care so much about what he does? I JUST DO NOT WANT TO CARE ANYMORE, I DO NOT WANT TO CRY EVERYDAY BECAUSE I KNOW HE HAS OTHER THOUGHTS THAN ME. HOW DO I JUST LET WHATEVER HAPPENS HAPPENS AND BE HAPPY IN THE MEAN TIME? in conclusion, how can i stop caring about someone i love? (link)
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Wow seems as if this guy does not feel the same way about you than you do to him. I know that you want to still be with him, and still have feelings for him, but i think that it is best if you guys just move on with life...break up.
I hate to say that but, it is true, your relationship with him is not going anywhere, and i dont want you suffering the way you do anymore. its just to sad.
Like my mama always says... there are many fishes in the ocean, just got to catch the right one. till then, have fun with life.
hope that i have helped!!!
much hearts... and luck,
DaAdvicePerson :)
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theres this really hott guy at school. I really like him, not just for his hottness but for his personality. hes really shy and so am i. what should i say? i cant just go up to him and talk to him. i always chicken out.
Aksjfij! i cant talk to himmm!
and i really need to!
what do i say?
HOW? (link)
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wow i know how you feel (especially when it comes to HOT guys :] )
First of all, just smile at him as he passes you in the hallway, or just say hi when he is at his locker.
Then after you feel comfortable with this, start a small conversation with him like "oh, did you finish your math homework?" or "What did you think of the foot ball game last night?" ~ Im sure that he'll be happy to answer.
Then be like " Do you have an MSN or myspace, maybe i could add you some time?"
You and him can start talking online, and become friends. Then before you know it, you will be hanging out at the mall, at games, etc...
Then one day, when you two are alone, you can be the brave one and ask him if he wants to go out with you...sure this is kinda hard, but if you dont ask, you will never know how he really feels about you
I hope this made sense to you, and if it didnt, then oh well. hope that i had somewhat helped you. once again, i know how you feel, and this is how i would solve it.
good luck & much love.
DaAdvicePerson
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Ok so there is this boy i REALLY like. Hes cute and funny and very flirty. Well hes in like ALL of my classes and talks/flirts with me alot. He had a GF and he would never talk to her or anything. I always assumed he had her because he just didnt want to be alone. Well anyway, she broke up with him and immediatly got a new bf (in the same day!). Well i wasent at school that day and i think he really wanted to not look like a dork cuz everyone was making such a big deal about it. so the next day i came to school, pretty sick but not enough to stay home, and i found out he had a new GF. Worst of all shes not in ANY of his classes and she just moved here so i have no idea how he knows her! I keep goin back in my head thinking why couldnt i just have gone to school but then i keep thinking, couldnt he have waited ONE day?
well my question is this,
Should i just wait? Should i tell him i like him? or should i just forget about him because if he liked me he woulda waited? i am kinda hurt
Thx in advance (link)
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You should not wait, beacause if you wait, you will never know what he might say or feel.
Maybe he is just making you jelous so that you will make the first move because he is to shy to ask you. I believe if you love someone with all of your heart, you should not be afraid to show it.
Sorry to reply so late.
hope i helped.
DaAdvicePerson
ps if there is anything else i could do, please tell me.
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i hate asking questions like this because they take forever to explain, but here it goes.
(CAUTION: TIS LONG. VERY LONG.)
so this boy i`ve liked for almost 2 years started talking to me again. we tried hooking up several times, but it never worked out; he always had a girl friend, and i didn`t want him to cheat on her; especially me. The problem now is that i have a boyfriend, and i wouldn`t dream of screwing him over. Over the summer, we got into a little trouble, so he (my bf) decided to take a break until things calmed down a bit and my mom and i got along again. So a few weeks ago, i was talking to his friend and he was saying how awesome all their weekends are. They party LITERALLY EVERY WEEKEND, and what worries me is the girls that might be with them. He told me that my bf got wasted and slept with another girl. Now, technically, it`s not cheating because we are taking a break, but it got me a teeny bit upset. I made a deal with him saying that if i sleep with another guy, he can sleep with another girl because we can`t see each other for a loooong time. He beat me to it. So back to the boy i`ve liked for almost two years. I told him about it and he was like, "Sweetie, you don`t deserve an asshole like that. You need someone who you can take care of you, love you, spoil you, and be there for you. You don`t need some guy that gets high and drunk everyday." He was hinting off that he wanted to be the guy like that. "I would never cheat on you, i would never do anything like that. I love you too much to do that to you." We were "in love" before, and we still have feeling for each other. He is so sweet to me, and just soo adorable. My bf is too hardcore for anything sweet like that. He`s romantic, but a tough guy. The place where i`m caught up is i don`t know who i should be with. The boy i`ve liked forever is basically a man whore. He`s had soooo many girlfriends but so has my bf. BUT, my bf has only cheated on a girl once. The other boy had done it maaaany times. He even lied to me about having a gf so we could hook up. That sounds bad because he thought he would have gotten rid of her by the end of the week, but it did't happen. He apologizex for everything and he was sincere. I just don`t know what i should do.
1. I can't see my bf unless he comes to my house; which he won't.
2. I can see the other boy because he lives 2 minutes away.
3. My bf doesnt cheat (unless hes drunk)
4. The other boy does.
5. My bf isnt as sweet and romantic
6. The other boy is.
there's so much more, but yeahh. What should i do? I even cry at night because i`m soo caught up in it. Thanksss. SORRY ITS SOO LONGG. (link)
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who do you love more?
who do you want to spend the rest of your life with?
who loves you for you?
if the answer for this question is the same guy, then he is right for you.
also, u can take this advice:
maybe both of them are not right for you, and that special guy out there is waiting for you.
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well me and this boy were getting pretty close and i let him kiss me like with tongue. And so one of his friends told him i have a boyfriend and i dont but he wont tlk to me wat do i do (link)
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if he does not believe you, you two are not meant for each other. if he really loves you and does not want to talk to you, that means that he does not trust you the way you might trust him. his friend was just jelous that he has a girlfriend like you and he does not. you should talk to his friend and ask why he did this to you. and if he does not give you a nice excuse, tell him SWEETLY to tell him (your boyfriend) that he just did it becuase out of jelousy or whatever the reason may be.
much hearts
DaAdvicePerson
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THERE'S NO GETTING OVER THIS GUY - i mean seriously, we broke up 2 years ago, 2 YEARS, and ever since..ive done everything possible, everything you're supposed to do, to get over a person,... burnt his stuff, cried, talked to friends about it, gotten closure, dated other guys, you name it - ive done it! YET, im not over him. I think about him all the time, i still love him and still need him, and still dream about marrying him ten years from now, i havn't let go.. even though ive tried, so hard, for two years, im beginning to think i'll never get over him, i dont know what to do, he's moved on, his screenname is always about a new girl, h flirts like crazy, has fun, and at the same time has deep meaningful relationships, HE'S MOVED ON so howcome i can't? all along i knew i loved him more than he loved me and it meant more to me than it meant to him, so i knew it would take some more time for me.. but he got over me in a matter of days, IT'S BEEN 2 YEARS FOR ME. help me please. (link)
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well, it is kinda...no really clear that you still have feelings for him. maybe it was too soon that you two broke up. Try talking to him, and who knows, maybe he feels this way too...and he is just trying to get over you like how you are trying to get over him. If this is your first boyfriend, then it will take time to get over him, but as years past, you will learn to move on and move on with your life.
hope this was helpful,
DaAdvicePerson
P.S this is normal for someone going through their first breakup
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I've kissed my boyfriend twice. The first time my brother told us to kiss and the second time my cousin wanted to see if we would actually do it. I want to kiss my boyfriend more often, but he is so shy and wont make the first move, even though he admitted and tells his friends he wants to. What do I do to build up my courage to make the first move? I'm too scared he wont want to kiss me when I want to kiss him. Please help me. Thanks
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Kissing. Its a big thing in life, especially if it is your first time. Start off slow, then get "into it" more. I mean, start off like a quick 1/2 second kind, then get toungy. That is if you want to.
Go out more, and you will find yourself doing it alot more often. like afterwards when you are ready to leave or when you just feel attracted to each other. That simple.
whats that saying...Just Do It! there is nothing wrong with just doing it.
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i cannot keep a bf for longer then two weeks. ill start out liking these guys then BAM i break up with them..then i want them back && its too late so i am screwed..and i learned from a good friend how bad it hurts when girls play guys and ill just not like them anymore..it sucks..what is wrong with me?what can i do?
ps my last "relationship" lasted a day and a half (link)
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You should wait a week or two before you make your move. During that wait, if you cannot think of anyone or anything but him, then he is the right guy for you.
Then start becoming friends for a while. If he is intrested in you and you are intrested in him, then fine, get closer.
Before you break-up with a guy, try talking out with him to see what could fix or strengthen your relationship. Just got to remember, once you break-up it is hard to win him back.
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I love my boyfriend, but he recently cut all his hair off. I go for skaters and now that he has no hair he looks way less of a skater. I still love his personality but im not physically attracted to him anymore. Ok im only fourteen, so I know I'm kind of young to be physically attracted to someone, but he just looks so... not my type anymore. I mean, he cut a foot of hair off his head. I love him, but I feel different when I'm with him now. What do I do? (link)
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If you love him for him, stay with him.
If you loved him for his looks, dump him.
You have to remember that looks are not everything. His hair will always grow back, and until then dont worry. As long as he loves you and you love him, nothing will go wrong.
Good luck.
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