I'm a band geek in my senior year of high school and I'm not telling where I live. I go by Lyss online, if you want to know, and I have all sorts of interests, including: band, music, reading, writing, a bit of art, Irish dance, and just too many to name in a single profile. I love to give advice, because it makes me feel good knowing that I can help someone and share my knowledge. I'm very straight-forward and honest, if at times long-winded, but you can count on the advice that I give to be from personal experience or the experience of a close friend.
E-mail: ClarinetGirlALS@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pick a place, I've been lots!
Occupation: Student/Musician
AIM: ClarinetGirlALS
Member Since: October 17, 2003
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wat do u guys like in a girl
going fast or slow makes the fist move or you make the first going places or staying close taller shorter eye color hair color and anything else favorite thing and anythign else you want!!!
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what a guy wants (link)
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Okay, I'm not a guy, but I've asked multiple guys this very same question. The truth? Most of them tend to go for your personality, and honestly, even if you get the answer to your question exactly, how far are you willing to go to change yourself, just for a guy? I used to think I had to change myself too, but I got into a different group of friends, some of them guys, who think I'm beautiful and wonderful exactly the way I am. I still don't have a boyfriend, mind you, but I'm the most confident I've ever been in my life. Don't listen to anyone else. Tell yourself that you're beautiful and intelligent and wonderfully clever every day, and you'll notice a difference in how you feel about yourself, as well as how you feel about life. Other people will see it as well, and if a guy doesn't want you and doesn't see that, then he really doesn't deserve to be around you, does he? I had to learn this the hard way. Don't make my mistake. Embrace who you are and accept that there will be those that simply don't see what a truly wonderful person that is.
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Me and my boyfriend are going to see a scary movie and some of my friends and some of his friends are going too. I wanna cuddle with him at least a little bit, but I think he is kinda shy and might not wanna if his friends are there. Someone please help me!! (link)
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Try holding his hand. He'll get the message, and if he's comfortable with being more intimate in public with his buddies around, he'll get closer. If he's not, then just hold hands as sort of a compromise to his feelings.
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ok theres this girl and I like her but i want to stop. see theres this guy and hes a big sweet talker guy, the guy that everyone loves no matter what. well i've liked this girl for a long time and I told her i liked her and she said she liked me to and then the sweet talker comes along and i get so pissed cause he cant stick to one girl. well it just breaks my heart whenever she ditches me for him and the girl and i are good friends and well i know i cant get over her by forcing myself and i dont know how to tell her this. can you help? (link)
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First thing is first. You have to realize that this girl really isn't worth you, your time, or your energy to have her ditching youi for someone else. That's what you have to realize. I know that won't change your mind about her, so on to the advice. I really think that you need to be especially sweet to her, open doors, pay for the occasional meal, etc. etc. Girls really take notice to these things and pay very close attention to the actions of guys. Next, you need to make sure you're there for her in any way that she needs you to be for when this other guy breaks her heart if he's the player that you say he is. It'll mean so much if you're there afterwards, and it'll strengthen your friendship if it ends up not turning into a relationship. Next, you should definitely tell her how you feel, about her as well as about the way she's been treating you. Don't let yourself be mistreated by anyone just because you have a crush or are even in love. If she wants to have out with the loser, and she doesn't take your feelings into consideration after you talk to her, then you should dump her. Seriously, if she can't treat you well, then there is no sense in having her as a friend. I hope this helped.
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Lately my boyfriend is being very cold to me. He doesn't want to hug or hold me, he barelly calls. I try to be very affectionate with him but it hurts when you get no affection back. He constantly thinks that I am either lying or cheating on him, which I am doing neither. I love him very much and I want things to work out between us but I don't know what else to do to show him I am good to him. What should I do? (link)
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I hate to tell you this, but I've known that he has no reason to believe you're cheating on him unless he's unfaithful himself. Watch for that. He could also have been told by one of his friends, so don't just jump in and blame him. Ask innocent questions and watch for suspicious reactions. I've tested this technique, and it really does work, believe it or not. Just distance yourself somewhat.
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I have been going out with this boy on and off since january 11th 2003 and we have broken up 5 times .Each time I dumped him but we always got back together within like a week. At first he was obssessed with me but somehow it all changed and i became obssessed with him . Recently he has been changing and ignoring me and finally he dumped me for the first time and really hurt me because I felt like I was madly in love with him and would marry him. I thought he felt the same way but he said that lately it felt like I was more of a friend to him then a girlfriend. Now during our whole relationship he has also on and off liked his first girlfriend and went out with her for two days before dumping her one time when we had broken up. So after Iam starting to kinda get over him and thinking of the good things of why were over (like no more heartbreaks) he calls me up and says hes completley over his first girlfriend and hints he wants to go back out with me but im not sure i should i mean i still like him but will i just be going back to the old heartbreak ? Our relationship has been down hill ever since he realized he still liked his old girlfriend. To make matters worse my best friend said she wont be my friend anymore if we get back together because my boyfriend said he is just going to keep dumping me for his 1st girlfreind and then getting back together with me and she can't stand seeing me hurt.To get back together or not? What is your advice? (link)
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Honestly, I don't think you should get back together. One of my friends broke up with the same person over 27 times before she finally called it quits with him. You just need to forget about him and find someone else. It's best not to dwell on him, because your friend's right, you'll only get your heart broken again. I know it's not fun to have your heart broken, so before you find someone else, just spend some time being single. You may be surprised to remember how much fun it can be!
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I've gone out with this kid twice and both times the reason for the break up was we were basically sick of each other. Unfortunately, we both keep bouncing back to each other. Consequently I'm pretty obsessed with this one kid.
Recently, however, he's taken to generally ignoring me when I'm around. This hurts me, not because I like him per se at the moment, but because I miss our friendship like whoa. I say hi to him whenever I see him and everything, but I don't want to call him (the chase and all that jazz). But I miss him so much. I've let too many friendships die this way. Advice? (link)
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If I were you, I would try talking to him and telling him that you miss his friendship. Don't lay blame on him or anything, keep it simple and brief, but don't let him believe that you like him romantically, that would be leading him on, and it may give him false hope of you liking him again.
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I met a guy in a chat room....We have a lot in common and a lot of the same interests. I am 15 and he is 37...he looks way younger. I have been hanging out with him after school and at the mall. I want to date him. I am very attracted to him and he is SO nice and sweet to me. He takes me to lunch, etc. Should I get involved with him even though we have a huge age difference? I don't think it makes a difference. (link)
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No, no no! Definitely not! Not only is there too big of an age difference, but it could be dangerous for you, and you could also get him in serious trouble! What's more, what are you doing with someone you met in a chatroom? That could have been equally dangerous for you. It's fine if you want to just stay friends, but please don't get involved. It worries me that you would even think of it.
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If you're too shy to ask someone out in person is it creepy to write them a note? (link)
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Well, I so far haven't had good experiences with notes-I've been turned down every time. It is a bit awkward to give someone a note, but I suggest that you talk to this person and tell them yourself. Drop hints first, and if you think that he/she likes you as well, go for it. I don't recommend the note unless you're sure that this person likes you though, because it seems to be the case that a lot of people are less responsive to notes. Is it creepy? No. It's just a lot less personal, and therefor you are less likely to get the response you want.
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