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If my guy isnt making the first move, do I do it??

It depends on what kind of guy he is really. I read in three different articles that nearly 85% of all guys want the girl to make the first move. Crazy huh. .? If he's more shy around some people and a bit more kept to himself, he may want to take his time and do it himself. But if he's more outgoing and is a bit more social I'm sure you'll be fine making the first move.

Give it a try, what have you got to lose?

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Okay so I'm going out with this guy. He cheated on me with my "friend" at a party, and I found out. The thing is, I don`t think he would have told me if I hadn`t found out. I still love him so much, but nothing can ever happen between us because of what he did. He has apoligized and I`ve just been really mean to him. What the hell do I do???????
PLEASE HELP.

Wow, I know exactly what your talking about. It happened to me a year ago. I still really liked my boyfriend, but I realized, even though he appologized, I'd hate to feel the same way I did when I found out he cheated on me.
Guys can act appoligetic for two reasons; They really DO love you; They just want you for their 'reasons.' If you really think this guy loves you, you can consider giving him another chance, but cheating isn't a good way of showing your girlfriend your love for her.
If he's never done anything like this before, and he's very into you and you know this for a fact, give him another chance. But never give a guy a third chance.
But if he HAS done something like this, even flirted with a girl a lot, I'd advise you to just let him go. Giving him another chance could be like giving him another oppertunity to cheat.
Sorry if I didn't help much, but I remember it was hard for me, and I hate to see people in the same crappy positions as me.

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ok how can you get a guy when you are

1. taller than most of the guys that i like
(i am 5'6'')
2. plump
(i dont look like i weigh 165 pound but i do
weight like that)
3. you dont look same as other kids because
I AM ASIAN!

i got quiet few guy friends but they all think of me as friend because all the things i've listed

so how do i get a guy who is Nice... and sweet, i dont really care about the look unless they are like really ugly and smelly and stuff, but i care for wats on the inside, unless they are really social zero.

so pleeeeease help me lose weight and get a guy who is sooo sweet...

and help me not try to steal my friends' boyfriend
yes i tried but i cant get him out of my mind

and its not really my fault if i wanna call him because he gave me HIS number first...

so pleeeeeeease help~
i rate 5 if they are good
and 4 if they try to help and
1's if you are going to be makin fun of me

well since you seem a little insecure about your weight. i see where your comming from. . . so here's a few times to loose a couple pounds:

1. make sure you have plenty of water, dairy, fruits, greens, and wheat in your diet. Its better to plan out a daily meal plan so you know what your going to eat before.
2. Tell yourself "NO!" when you get tempted to eat something fattening (cake, cupcakes, chips, cheese puffs) Snacking on healthier things is much more filling and better. (grapes, carrots, an apple)
3. Go on a walk with your dog, or a friend every day for about 20 to 30 minutes. If you don't have time for that, do crunches (30-50) and/or push ups (10-15) You'll be shocked at how much that can help.
4. Don't eat a half hour before you go to bed, because you don't burn any energy during your sleep, so the food you eat turns to fat. And thats what we're trying to avoid :-p

Now to get a guy who's sweet (man this is a long answer. SORRY ITS SO LONG!)

1. find one that has the best personality for you. He could be funny, goofy, smart, and/or sweet.
2. once you find a guy you think really fits what you like, try to get to know him better by smiling at him, saying hi and if you know him good, flirt and talk A LOT.
3. Try not to act like 'one of the guys.' If your looking for a sweet caring boy, you might have trouble getting him if you act like one of his guy buds.

Thats really all i can think of right now. I'm really sorry this is so flippen long! I understand if you don't read the whole thing lol.

Tay

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okay so currently i am at camp, and i ride a bus to and from the camp. there is this really hott guy on the bus and hes really cool and we talk alot but i dont exactly know if he likes me. i have been daydreaming of going out with him and other stuff, but how do you know if a guy likes you? he is a year older than me so would he even be interested in me? also, what are some flirting tips? i really want to be more than friends and make him a summer love. tips? i rate high! ♥

Its kinda hard to tell a guy how you feel to his face, especially if you don't know if he feels the same as you do. Here's a few things you could do though:

1. Flirt, if he flirts back, you're on the right track.

2. Since you go to a camp, I'm sure you don't have the same cabin, or where ever you sleep, so attempt to give him a big hug goodbye at the end of the day. If he gives a big hug back then he might have liked it. And you.

3. When you pass him while walking, give him a little nudge, or hit his arm lightly and give him the nicest, cutest, sweetest smile you can. You could add in a wink if your THAT daring lol.

Just slowly give him signs you are interested in him. If you guys become any closer after those three things, just let him know you have a small crush on him. Don't be scared to tell him how you feel. Live your life with no regrets, it's much funner that way.

Taylor

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Ok so this summer I'm taking Tennis camp with some friends from our school and some other kids who dont go to our school. I met this guy named Grant. I mean we met in the most freaky way. We met when he accidentally hit me on the head with his racket while doing a serve. I never really noticed him till then, but when he hit me and looked back at me and smiled, i believe that it was love at first sight -- for me, at least. During practice, we'll tease eachother in a friendly way, racing eachother, and trying to hit eachother with tennis balls. Only two of my friends know about me liking him. So here are my questions...

1) Do you think he likes me?
2) Should I ask him out or ask him if he likes me?
3) when should i ask him?
4) should I ask him face 2 face or have my friends ask him?

I appreciate all the people who took the time to read this...i rate 5's for any answers that help me a little. =]

--crushed.

Here are my answers:

1.)I think he TOTALLY likes you. ;)
2.)Ask if he likes you JUST to be 100% sure. If he says yes, than just ask him on a date, or if he'd want to hang out with you sometime. Give it a little time so you get used to you guys liking each other, and if he doesn't make the move first, why shouldn't you?
3.) (answered above)
4.)Ask him face to face. A confident girl always gets the guy. And if you get too nervous, try it over the phone. It's easier and he can't really see you freaking out. :P

Hope I helped :)
Taylor

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i really really like this guy we went to homecoming together and he was going to ask me out but i chickend out and now he likes my bestfriend i dont want to tell her how if feel she thinks i like another guy and he doesnt know what should i do


hopeless

Man you'd be suprised how many times this has happened lol. Well, to start off, I think you should really talk to your friend about your feelings toward this guy. If she doesn't understand and gets upset about it, then your friendship may not be as tight as it should be. Friends care for each other, and shouldn't get mad at each other for feeling the way they feel. Us girls can't really control our emotions too well.
If it all works out with you and your bud, you should deffinately consider telling the guy how you feel. If he was going to ask you out once, there's a possibility he would do it again. Just pull him aside, or if your not good at face to face communications, either work on it (guys like confident girls) or just ask him online or on the phone, or the 5th grade way. . .pass a note :P lol.
I really hope this all works out for you. And remember you really shouldn't live with regrets, so do it as soon as you can, and if it doesn't work out, time heals all wounds :)

Taylor

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i lost a big part of my life...the person i loved more than life itself...he told me i was annoying and a bad girlfriend...it tore me up...i want him back and now hes talkin to my friend...i just want to die...how do i get over him? someone help me please before i do somethin stupid

Aww. That was a pretty harsh thing for someone to say, but don't let it get to you! You may love him, or have loved him, but a guy like that doesn't deserve the love you want to give him. Guys can be so heartless to us sometimes. But those are the times we really have to stay on our feet and show them that they can't ruin our lives like that. You should never let a guy talk to you like that. There are so many more fish in the sea. The small one you catch may be cute, but its not enough to feed you. (sorry for the extremly cheesey metaphore, its the only one i could think of!) You gotta hang in there and wait for your 'perfect' guy to come and sweep you off your feet. You should never underestimate the power of love. You can find it anywhere, and everywhere. And I believe that everyone finds love. The people who don't are the ones who don't put in the effort to find it.

Hope I helped you a bit. So sorry if I didn't!

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ok, my girlfriend's dad died the other day (they were on vacation in Qubec with her, her dad, her mom, & 2 friends) & so she was very upset & so she broke up with me. I understood & said it was ok. & so I bought her a card (witch I'm gonna send once I get her address from her friend) & I'm afraid to call her & everything cos I don't want to talk about it & that'd be the only thing we'd talk about.

but what I'm asking is if I should wait for her to get over it all & maby go back with her, or if I should just move on?

more about our realationship, she lives about 45 mins. away & I haven't been able to see her much & I haven't been the best boyfriend since I'm going through some really hard times right now, but I try

I'm 14/M & shes 14/F

thanks

It takes a very long time for people to emotionaly heal. Sometimes weeks, sometimes months. And like Donny said, she may be worth the wait, but she might not be. If you think you care enough for her to wait, go for it. If you don't you could regret it.
Distance to me isn't a bad thing. It can even make the time you do spend together more precious. So if you do wait for her, and you do get back together with her, keep in mind that distance is the least of your problems. How much you care for her should really over rule how far away you are.
I wish you the best of luck with this :)And if my 'advise' didn't really help much, i'm totally sorry, but i tried!

Taylor

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thanks you totally rock! and thanks for the great advice ill have to try some..you are prolyl the best advicenator out there! lol

lol thanks, and your welcome:)

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but the thing is hes sooooooooooo shy..he just sits there smiling and making googley eyes lol i know dorky but so cute...so is there a way to make him not so shy or even make him "come out of his shell" because i know hes shy with all GIRLS. He has no problem being one of the guys with my dad but he told my dad that hes shy around girls...so i still dont get what his deal is and the other girl who answered my question said that he prolly doesnt want to get involved with the boss's daughter but my dad aint his boss they just work together and this guy was the one who wanted to exchange aims not my dad. and she also mentioned something about the age difference but this is a peice of conversation my dad's other friend had with the kid "Workingit123(6:15:26 PM): and im 19 shes atleast 16 and im withein 4 yrs so its legal and besides shes cute" just to give you a little idea of what im working with lol any more help appreciated.

Aren't shy guys the cutest! lol, anywho. . . If he's really as shy as you say he is, than i may have some idea's of how to get him to be a bit more outgoing around you.

Make sure to let him know you are comfortable around him. If you act shy around him, he'll act shy around you.

Be a goof! Guys like girls who can always make them laugh outloud.

Don't act like a total bimbo around him. If this guy is really how you make him sound, than he doesn't want a ditz to be hanging around him 24/7. (not saying you are, cause you totally sound like an awesome person:))

And last but not least . . .
Be yourself. Guys don't like the girls who are totally fake (unless they are only in it to get something), it makes them uneasy and confused. Be real simple when talking to him, and try not to be too nervous.

I don't know what else to tell you really. But if this doesn't work, feel totally free to dislike me. lol.

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okay heres the story first my dad works at a big company and recently they hired a new kid whos only 19 so my dad and his started talking about me..about a week later we exchanged aim s/n and like when hes on he doesnt really talk its basically a "whats up" and then he stops talking. Does that mean he doesnt like me even just as a friend? also hes so shy everytime i see him when i go for my dad at lunch he just sits there smiling but doesnt talk whats his deal? but theres another question how can i spice up our conversations a little??? i rate high and even if your answer isnt that good ill still rate pretty good. thanks

I've had a guy who's done that to me too. Actually, quite a few. this doesn't mean the guy doesn't like you, but it doesn't mean he likes you either. Some guys don't really talk online a lot, it's just not their 'thing'. They might be online almost everyday, and still they just don't talk. It has nothing to do with you.
Spiceing up a conversation with a guy that doesn't talk much might be a little hard. You have to find something he's really interested in. (i.e: music, sports, video games) And if nothing seems to spark his interests, just talk to him in person. Getting to know someone online might work sometimes, but not always. And talking to him in person may make him notice your confidence, which is a HUGE plus to most guys.

Good luck, and I hope I helped :)

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Well i like this guy and ive liked him for ages, he says he likes me but his got a girlfriend. He always says his going to leave her and i fool for it. then when im not interested he will try it on. but i really like him i mean when im around him i feel me and him are meant to be i know it sounds stupid question but what should i do should i just move on and forget about him please help.

Guy's like this aren't very rare. And encouraging their behavior of flirting with other girls while being in a relationship isn't the best thing to do. If this guy really likes you, he will break up with this girl he obviously doesn't like that much, for you. I know your young, i can tell by how you type. (I'm only 15 so i'm pretty young myself) These feelings you have for this guy may be strong to you now, and you may feel like your totally meant to be, but most of the time it's really the hormones clogging your brain. Moving on may be a good thing to do. You don't want this to be bothering you for weeks or months, its best to let the bad things go to make room for the good. There are many more guys out there, and many of those many more guys would probably kill to have a gal like you. So don't just become attatched to one guy, because chances are feelings may get hurt. And thats the last thing we want. :)

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