I am kind of new to this, but I think i might be able to help you with your problems. If you ask me a question and I do not know anything about it, I will tell you that I do not know much about that, but I will tell you what i would do in that situation. I hope I can help.
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Once you told someone your feelings you feel releaved that you let it off your chest. right?
well i did...
we had a good talk about it, and she didnt understood but i simply explain that i dont know why i do have these feelings but i do for some reson.
later...
i realized she was still my friend and didnt feel awarkered about it. i then ask "why did you seem alright about me telling you how i feel?" i was hoping she will say something but she didnt. and when i ask in a note she didnt even reply.
why is that? why cant it be a simple reply why she seem okay with the fact. yes she still hangs out and talk to me, but i want it in words. all i can think is that she seem okay with it cause she might have the same feelings. but that cant be right. can it?
so if someone ask you that qeastion "why do you seem alright about me telling how i feel?" what would your answer be? (link)
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Maybe she is just seeming to be ok with it, but she isn't. I don't know why, but some people think it is necassary to keep there bad emotions (like sadness and being mad) bottled up. It may be because they think if they say the wrong thing you will get mad and not want to be their friend any more. Anyway, that doesn't really answer your direct question. I woud probably say "Because I didnt want you to get mad at me." It's as simple as that, for me anyway. I mean, when you know someone for so long, you don't really want to say "Well, I think that idea is completely wrong." You usually don't say things like that because you are afraid of losing that friend. It's not really that you don't like their idea, it may be that you just don't understand it completely. Just keep trying to find out. Try to sit her down and say something like, (you never told us a name so I am just gonna use the name Brittany) "Brittany, it is bothering me that you are just acting ok when I tell you something. Will you please tell me why you just act like you are ok? Because it bothers me that you don't tell me how you really feel." Just say something along those lines to you friend. She will probably tell you why she is acting the way she is. Hope that helps.
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My best guy friend asked me out a week ago, and I liked him a little, so I said yes. Well... now he's getting annoying, and sometimes I have feelings for him, sometimes I don't. I kinda like someone else, but I know I have no chance with him, but I still don't want to go out with my boyfriend when I don't really like him. Help me, PLEASE. (link)
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Here's what you should do. Even though it's only been a week, he is probably really attatched. So you need to sit him down and say something like "I really like you, but I don't want to go out with you any more. You are a really good friend, but I don't think you can be anything more than that to me." If you tell him thiat now, it will be much easier than when you have been dating longer. And for the guy you think you don't have a chance with, just go for it anyways. What have you got to lose? Hope this helps.
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I'm a 16/m and I have never had a girlfriend. I used to be kinda fat in middle school, but i have lost alot of weight and am in great shape. I would say im good-looking, and have a lot of friends who are girls, but it seems like no girls think im boyfriend material. maybe its just that i cant tell if a girl likes me or not. so what should i do? (link)
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OK, I am 15/m and I kind of have the same problem. I can get girlfriends, but the last one I had (last Christmas) was my last one, because she broke my heart. I really liked her, I mean if it came to it I would move to another state if she did. But she expected me to know things without her telling me. To get to the point, I have chosen not to get into any serious relationships for a while. Because in middle and high school you never know what's gonna happen, and you never know if somebody is using you. And it may be that you haven't found "her" yet. My friend thinks he has found "her", and I am gonna be there when he founds out, once again, that the girl he is goin out with isn't "her". Look, I'm not sayin relationships aren't important, and I know it seems like you have to have a girlfriend, but you don't. I have been better off without a girlfriend than I ever was with one. Maybe you should stop looking for a girlfriend, and just look for a friend that happens to be a girl, and then hang out and find what she likes. You would be surprised what/who you find when you're not looking for it. I think I found my "her", but I am no where near asking her out. Call me a wimp or a dork or a loser, but I still haven't gotten completely over my last "her". Maybe you are better off without one. Hope this helps.
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so me and my friend are in a somewhat of a relationship right, shes a girl and well i know i like her alot and she likes me well im not sure how much. but i know she does and everytime i go to kiss her she dosnt kiss me back, like not make out just kiss on the lips? i dont do it often just because i feel so awkward that im making her awkward. so what should i do? (link)
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My girlfriend did the same kind of stuff once. She didn't tell me she didn't want to kiss because she felt like it would ruin our relationship. But the very fact that she didn't tell me ruined our relationship. Just stick with holding hands and going to the movies for a while, and sometimes try to kiss her, but if she acts like she doesn't want to, then stop. It coud ruin your relationship. The best thing to do is to ask her about it. I hope this helps.
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theres this guy that i used to be really close with but now he's kind of at that stage where he doesn't eat, he doesn't talk to anyone, he's always fighting with his best friend and he always works and studies to hard. i don't know what do say to him, he won't listen to me or to anyone else. he thinks that what he's doing is fine and doesn't care. what should i do?
ps. i don't want to say anything to him because he gets angry easily and he's not to pretty when he's mad (link)
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I am a guy, and have done that same thing about a year ago, but not the exact same. The best thing to do is tell him how you feel. It sounds like something is wrong, yes, but he may not want to talk about it. If you give him time he will eventually want to talk about it. The best thing you can do right now is try to be a good friend to him. That's what my friends did when I was going through that, and i got mad at them and yelled at them and almost told them I wasn't their friend anymore. Then, when I got out of the slump, I realized that the ones who helped where more willing to be my friend after what I said to them than the ones who didn't try to help me so much. Just try to figure out what's wrong, and try to help him out with it. If you need more advice, just send me a message to my inbox. I hope i have helped.
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