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I have this ex boyfriend. We dated on and off for more than a year.

Recently, I caught him in some lies and minor cheating stuff. I don't really trust him, but I consider him a very close friend.

We talk about once a week, and eveyrtime we do he nags about wanting to get back together. I don't want to right now, but its not because I don't trust him.

I mean, he's a great guy, but I want to be single right now.

So I need some more reasons, even if they are made up, to keep him off.

And if I happened to havea thing with one o fhis friends, how could i break it to him without hurting him?


He's really sensative.

well if you havnt already just tell him the truth about why you want to not date right now. he should get it cuz everyone has that time were they just want to be single. and if you happen to like one of his friends that is not to good since if you tell him you want to be singe then date a friend he will know you are just saying that to blow him off. so if you want to be single then you wouldnt date a friend of his, but if you kinda just dont feel like dating him in perticular (sp) then i would just tell him that he is a great guy but i we dated already and your not sure if it would be a repeat of last time or not.

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hey everyone.
my best friends boyfriend is into some bad stuff. [i hear this from alot of people not just one source and the people telling me dont even know eachother] my best friend and him are happy together. he makes her really happy and she loves him alot. i dont want to see her get introuble because of this because she doesnt do any of it. idk if i should tell her or not im kinda stressed about what to do.

thanks=]

hmm.. well idk know the full situation here, but from what you said i would tell her mainly since that is what a true friend will do. dont tell her to dump him or anything but you know just give her a heads up.

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22/f

Guys this is mostly aimed at you but I need EVERYONE’S help on this.
When I was younger like in high school I was the outcast losery dork. No guys would ever give me the time of day. Even when I would try to talk to them. All of a sudden now guys that I did go to school with are coming up to me and wanting to talk with me. Even ones that were bullies to me, are being all nice and flirty. I don’t get it. Can anyone help me with this. Why are guys so confusing like that? is it me? it doesn’t seem like I am different yet they have changed.

ok well what i am thinking here is 1) you werent all that good looking in high school or maybe a little dorky (no offence ment) and now you just changed a little bit with out knowing it since it happend over time. or 2) maybe they changed. like got more mature and saw you for the person you are on the inside, maybe got into some things you were more into. or 3) maybe they liked back then but since no one else talked to you they felt if they flirted with you it would make them seem like a dork. i know im not the best at this but i enjoy helping and i hope i helped. :)

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alright this guy wanted to go with me to a mall kinda far away from where i live, and i dont really know him. so i said instead lets go get coffee, he said it was cool. now tday i texted him and he said that he couldnt hang out cause he had to take his mom to work which is near that mall he wanted to go to.he said maybe next thursday and that he was sorry. was he blowing me off or wat?

hmm to tell the truth it could be either way. 1) maybe he asked you to go to that mall since he knew he was going to be near it anyways and it would be good for him since he could drop off his mom and then hang with you. or 2) he wanted to go to the mall and he said he would go to the coffee shop with you to not sound like rude or something. so maybe he did blow you off but didnt want to be a ass, so if he did blow you off he tryed to be nice about it even though he Should have just told you. but like i said it could be either way, you know him better then me so you pick the one that fits. hope this helped :)

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Ok I'm 18.... and i'm stuck between these two guys.

Bob and i have history, about over a year of it. I fought my butt off to be with him. The thing is my mom and grandma dont like him. And after risking getting thrown out of my house for him and having to go through hell and all this i just dont want it to for nothing.

John is well a man. He has a job and is going some where in life. And my mom LOVES him is a postive. He's kind of overbearing, which gets annoying.

I like Bob, but i think i think i have a thing for John. So i have no idea what to do. I want to know that if I should just take a break from Bob and take a chance with John.

i kinda agree with the prev. answer, but if i were you i would keep good friends with john and stay with Bob. but if you happen to break up with bob sometime soon i think you should give john a shot, cuz as you prolly know usualy when you date a person you like them more cuz its more physical. :) hope this helped.

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I love this one boy.
He acts mean and like he hates me, but all the guys do that to me.
His best friend told me , he likes me and just says that because everyone else does and hes scared of what people would say about him.
We used to be really good friends and stuff, and we've sex type things so i dont know.
Should I beleive his friend or what?
And his friend honestly isnt the type to lie and stuff but Im not sure.
Its confusing...

15/f/Ca

im 15/M and i know what you are talking about, since i used to like a girl who was unpopular (not saying you are)and alot of my friends didnt like her at all and still dotn like her. but to me she was like me on the inside but wasnt scared to show who she was in school and that is why my friends think she is weird but really she is just like me. so yeah i didnt realy act mean to her alot but i just didnt say anything when my friends talked about her. but i would always talk to her when my friends are not around. so this may be what is going on or not, but im just trowing it out there for you. hope it helped. :)

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