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hi, i read one of your answers to someone. i was going out with my exboyfriend for 6 months and then we broke up and 6 moths later we got back together. we were going out for 14 months and we broke up about a month ago. i really want him back and its so hard to get over him we were still hooking up because i felt like if i did things might get better. but now things are worse because we got into a big arguement cause i said something to this one girl, he says that he doesnt trust me. all i want is him & ive been sooo unhappy. i honeslty have not had one somewhat happy day since me and him broke up. what should i do to either get him back or to get over him. (link)
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Hey, i say if he makes you so happy, you should try again. Try to reassure him, he can trust you. Tell him how he makes you feel. But if you guys keep breaking up, maybe then it'll be time to try and move on.. It would be hard I know, but sometimes it's the best thing, it may feel like there's no way you will be able to move on, but I promise it does get easier. I wish you luck. Message me if you have any more questions. I hope this helped a little.
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Dear Columnist,
I have a girlfriend, we've been together for a few weeks now, but she has already made it evident that she has secrets about her life that she is not comfortable with telling me. I was not too worried about them until her friends mother, (who she lives with) let me in on a big secret, but made me swear not to tell my girlfriend that I know. She told me last night because me and my girlfriend were fighting over sexual issues. The problem was, that I was kissing her, and touching her, and we were about to have sex, but all she wanted to do was kiss, and she was very reluctant to have sex, or touch me, but all she gave was a lot of far fetched excuses. This irritated me because this has been going on for the past week or so with her. After our fight, we still haven't truly made up, but I had time to talk 1 on 1 with her friends mother. I explained my situation, knowing that she is a very open person, and would have no problem offering her advice based on how we have talked about practically anything and everything since I have met the woman. But I did not expect what she was about to reveal to me by a long shot. We were sitting there in the living room just me and her, and she tells me that my girlfriend has some medical issues that she has been reluctant to tell me, and that might be the missing piece in this puzzle here. She then goes on to tell me that my girlfriend has heart issues, and explains them to me... I did not know how to feel about this, but it didn't seem life threatening, so I was still relaxed. Then she goes on to tell me that my girlfriend has Hepatitis C. This is a very serious condition; and I could be at a great risk of getting it from her. Since last night I have not been able to collect myself, and I've just been a wreck because now I feel like a jerk for pressuring her into sexual relations, when she was resisting, not because of me, but because she wanted to protect me, because she doesn't know if she can get me infected with the same dangerous disease. As far as I know, her knowledge on the disease is limited. Now I can't relax, because I want to tell her how sorry I am, and how I can't even explain how I feel about it, but on the same note I don't wanna blow her friend's mom's cover by saying how she revealed my girlfriends best kept secret. For this would hurt the relationship between myself and her friends mother, and she might not tell me any information ever again. I also feel upset towards my girlfriend for not telling me but I don't know what to do?!?
There's a whole bunch of emotion going on with me, I know I still love my girlfriend, but how do I handle this situation? Please help, the quicker the better..
Sincerely,
PeoplePerson27 (link)
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Hey, yea that's a tough one. I don't think you should be mad at her for not telling you. She probably was just embaressed, maybe she thought you would break it off, if you knew. At least she was looking out for you. Now if you had sex and she didn't tell you, that would be bad. But maybe, give her a chance to tell you. Like something like.. "Is there anything you have ever wanted to tell me, that you thought i wouldn't want to know." or something like that. Maybe she would feel more comfortable telling you. I hope that helped.
xoxChels
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so ive liked this guy for about 2 months, and up until now hes liked me back. well we get into fights a lot, but i always end up apoligizing bc i know he wont bc hes so goddamn stubborn lol. hes a year younger than me. im a freshman and hes in 8th grade so its hard to see him a lot. he started liking me fist btw. well he used to say ily when he said goodbye, and be like please dont go, and text me 24/7 and try really hard to see me, but the last few days hes been different. like i have to text him first and he doesnt text back a lot. Also, he hasnt said ily in forever, and when i went to his football game, when he was about to leave, i was going to give him a peck, and he turned and gave me his cheek? i dont understand. like he said he really liked me adn even loved me but idkk. does he not like me anymore? adn eh told me the only reason he hasnt asked me out yet is because were in different schools and if we see each other more hes going to ask me out. what do i do? thanks (link)
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Maybe you should just talk to him about it. confront him about it. If you really like him, then tell him. Try to get him to explain why. Tell him it's bothering you that he doesn't text you much anymore.
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it was a week ago, my mum and dad were away for the week i was sitting watching tv when my bro came in. he sat next to me and changed the tv to porn, by accident, i told him to leave it on, it made me horney. i reached for his cock and he eventualy let me stroke it, we moved in to kiss and i started to give him a hand job he started to feel my boobs then took my shirt off and started playing with my nipples. then i pulled my thong off then slid his cock inside me and we did it all night. is this weird ? (link)
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Um, well, Personally, I wouldn't do that, if I had a brother. But I guess if you liked it, and it's not like weird now. Then you do what you like. I would watch who you tell though, cause a lot of people would be totally weirded by it. It's a society thing, you know? Just one of those things that many think aren't okay. As I said, i'm not gona lie. I wouldn't do that if I had a brother. But I'm not gona judge you, you do what you like. As to your question, is this weird... It really depends on the point of view of the person your asking, Sorry if I can't be more of a help.
xoxChels
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humm... im hoping people will rlly understand mii problem && actually know where im coming from---
i rate good.. if your advice is worth it
Okay- well i didnt expect to like this guy from WI. but i did.. and i fell hard.. but l8ly its been hard.. because im the type of person that doesnt believe in long distance relationships(prlly thinking then why did you get into it in the first place.. and i cant answer that) But anyway its hard because i wanna be loved in way of touch and emotion.. and phones and emails dont exactly fit the profile- i have cheated on him- and im just to the point where i say its not working.. but i love him soo much that i cant let go- i need him here and thats prlly why i did cheat b/c like i said i dont do distant relationships. -how do u hold on to someone soo far away. hes coming down in july- but i dont like cheating. its hard.. for anyone that knows..key question.. what do i do?...
*stephanie*
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okay, i totally understand. I'm currently in a long distance relationship, i am so in love with him. I want him here. I know how hard it is. If you really love him though, I don't think you should give up yet, If he's coming down in july, then maybe you should wait for him. It will be hard but, that's how long i have to wait too. My guy's moving a bit closer in July. It is going to be so hard. But i know i'm not going give up. He's worth me fighting. If you really love him as much as you say you do, maybe you should keep giving him a chance. Don't give up, if you want to talk, or need more advice, then message me. Cause I know exactly what you are going through.
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What do you People think about long distance relationships? do u think its a good think to meet people online in real life? im bi and im having trouble getting men in my town help?? wat should i do (link)
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It's not bad to meet people online. You just have to be careful. I met the guy i'm in love with, online. Some people just aren't careful. Long distance relationships are hard, as i've told other, the two people just have to be willing to work at it. It won't be easy. But if you can be honest with eachother, trust eachother, and are able to talk to eachother and are willing to work hard to make it work.. then it can work. Good luck.
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Im currently in Dubai and met someone through one dating site. He lives in Qatar. We write to each other everyday and he would call me every other day. The relationship is in an 'infancy' stage.
I am new to this thing and really want to know if long distance relationships really work.
Just need a little advise.
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If you really care for him, and you both are willing to work hard. Then it certainly can work. You have to be willing though, you have to have trust, be honest, and have communication. Mainly trust though. But as i said, if the two of you are willing to try your best to make it work, then im sure it will.
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does anyone belive in long distance relationships? Does anyone have advice on how to make them work? (link)
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Dont listen to people who say Long distance relationships never work. Sure.. sometimes they don't. But sometimes they do. Before you get into a long distance relationship, you have to know, and be aware that it WON'T be easy. The only way it will work, is if you are willing to work hard, You need to have complete trust, communication, trust, and hard work, is what make them work. You have to be honest with the person, you have to be able to trust that the person cares about you enough, not to do anything, and you need to be able to talk to the person. I find that a bonus of long distance relationships, is that you get to know the person, and then you can see if they care about you for more your personality then just looks. I'm currently in a long distance relationship, ive been in them before, but this time is different, i know he wouldn't hurt me. I trust him, and i'm willing to work hard to make it work. I hope it works out for you.
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my boyfriend/exboyfriend... it's complicated. he cheated, lied, and lied some more. he broke up with me for "stressing him out". he's asked to get back together many times and he asked today and i decided to say yes. now i think i'm going nutso. a girl commented him on myspace saying hi stalker yesterday and today after he got home he went online and commented her saying hi and she commented back. he didn't call me then is sleeping now i guess. i told him i don't feel very important to him in a voicemail and that today is a perfect example of the things he does that make me feel that way. i don't want to be nutso. i want to not care. i am nutso for taking him back. how do i stop being nutso? i feel dying whenever something goes wrong with me and him and think about cutting myself. i don't want to do that. i need help. i don't want to dig a deeper whole and have my parents find out so i can't talk to couselors at school. (link)
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Okay, I've been there. I went out with this guy, who lied, cheated. Then I took him back, and he cheated again, we broke up. Then I think it happened one more time. Anyways I know how you feel.. I felt like it was my fault. I was wondering what i did wrong, Why he cheated on me etc. Then I got a reality check. I realised it wasn't my fault, it was his fault. He was an ass. He would call me a whore, bitch, skank, slut.. stuff like that. I took him back anyways... Don't let him do this to you. Don't keep giving him more and more chances. Because you will be the one who gets hurt. Don't hurt yourself either.. please.. He made the mistake, he hurt you, don't let him win.
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i have classes with my ex boyfriend and hes always flirting with other girls, and i get so sad to the point where i feel like im about to start crying in class. what can i do to get over it. (link)
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Just ignore him. He's just trying to make you jelous. Don't let him get the best of you. If you do then you let him win. Don't let him win. You should just try to move on. I know it's hard, and it's probably going to take time. But if you need advice, message me. But honestly I think you should just ignore him.
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Me and my ex when we were together were just so perfect together we both just tottallyyy fell in love with eachother. At the end of our relationship we just started fighting alot because I wasnt sure what I wanted. All my friends were turning 18 and going out and I just wanted to do that to, soo I started fighting with him over stuff that I used to be okay with, like not going out with out him and so on. So we had a huge blow out and broke up. We both said some pretty unforgivable stuff to eachother. I tried to get him back but he just said he wasnt meant for a girlfriend. He drinks so much now and goes out so much just is totally lost. About 2 months ago I met someone else and we started dating. My ex will call dave, dave started coming back to me wanting to hang out texting me all the time, I didnt wanna miss out on a good thing with the new guy so I told "dave" I couldnt talk to him anymore. Well being in the relationship with the new guy I found myself doing nothing but thinking about "dave". So we broke up and Dave just acts as though he wants nothing to do with me. I cant stop thinking about him still. I know he wants to be back with me but me and him are just soo stubborn its like we compete on who doesnt care the most. and I hate it. I feel like its a continuous game that I dont know what to do or how to stop. Please give me some advice on either how to get over this bullcrap, or get my boy back... (link)
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That's tough, Well why don't you just talk to him. It seems like you really love him. So tell him. Tell him how you feel. Maybe he's waiting for you to tell him. Maybe he's just scared. It's weird to think, but guys get scared of relationships just as much as we do. He probably really loves you, you should just tell him how you feel. If it works out great. If not, then at least you gave it a chance, and told him the truth. I hope that helps a little.
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My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship but we still want to attempt to be like the normal couple and go on a "date" although we are near each other. I was thinking just look up a movie on youtube because there are loads on there then we could watch it together. Do you have any other date ideas?
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My boyfriend and are in a long distance relationship too. It's tough, we try to have those kind of dates to. We sometimes watch movies together, or both of us go on webcam and talk on the phone, then it's like you are together. You could try playing games on msn. If I think of something else i will tell you. Sorry, it's not much, but its a start. If you guys wanted to watch movies together. I usually use this site, http://www.watch-movies.net/ Hope that helped.
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My boyfriend wants me to come over to his house and i have never been to a guys house before that i have dated and i am REALLY nervous. At school, i don't get to see him that much so i'm not that nervous. What do i do? How do i not be nervous? Please help! (link)
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It's totally normal to be nervous. If you aren't comfortable with it, then i suggest not to go. But remember it is totally normal to be nervous. Just when you go, act like yourself. Just be yourself. If he does something your not comfortable with, then just tell him. Relationships are based on honesty. I'm sure he would want you to tell you if he's doing something your not ready for.
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Ok, me and my boyfriend are both 15, almost 16. I'm a virgin, and he's not. I really want to have sex with him, but dont know how to bring it up with him without seeming like a slut. Any ideas? (link)
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I think that if you really want to have sex with him. Don't bring it up. Just like be making out with him or something and just let it go wherever it goes. Instead of saying "let's have sex." Just let whatever happens, happen. I'm sure everything will work out.
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