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15/f
I like this guy in my class and he liked me over the summer but i'm not sure if he likes me now or not. He has a lot of girls that are his friends and he hugs them and massages their shoulders and stuff but he dosen't do it to me or ny friends. My friends think he likes me but i'm not sure. Also, my friend texts him a lot and talks to him in class all the time and play fully hits him and i thought she liked him but when i confronted her about it she was like "oh i'm not flirting with him, he's all your, do you want me to tell him that you like him?" Even though she says that she still talks to him a lot and he talks to her a lot but he also has a lot of other girls that are friends so i don't know. Also, i want to flirt with him because he sometimes flirts with me and i think i come off as not flirting back so how do i flirt back without being all over him? Also, how can i play hard to get but also let him know that i like him at the same time? I'm very sorry this is so long but i am very confused so please help me with my whole problem. Thanks! (link)
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If he did like you, the reason for not massaging your shoulders would be he's nervous you wont like it. your friend who talks to him alot, i would say she likes him, she just doesnt want you to know and covers it by saying he likes you (its happened to me time and time again) maybe he doesnt make a move because you seem hostile. many girls when they like a guy try to avoid him or try so hard not to make a mistake around him(for fear he will dissaprove and they will shrivel up and die) i can tell you, that that is not the case. flirting is almost an art, and you have to practice it to be good. one thing i would do, is talk to him more, try to get to know him. or you be the one to hug him in the hall! because sooner or later he will return that favor. personally i would say dont play hard to get, just dont be free every living second. a casual flirt is pretty fun, and if it seems you're coming on too strong, then flirt with guys around him. that way he sees that you aren't zeroing in on him, and that you're a comfortable person to be around.
Also, if you really and truly want to be in the 'know how' then become friends with one of his best friends (usually its the person standing next to them ALOT) and ask them to ask. or you do secret agent work, and ask several people to ask and report back. if the answers are the same, most likely its true.
hope this helps!
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Just a warning, this is gonna be long. There's a lot of background that I'm trying to make more concise. I'm 20/f, he's 23/m.
So...I've been in a really effed up relationship for the past three years. The worst part is that we really loved each other. He broke up with me because he was having depression problems, and that kind of emotional drowning that we were both feeling for each other was too much for him to handle. We took the titles off, but we stayed together. We tried a couple of times to actually break up but it never worked. Then we kind of regressed to a "friends with benefits" type thing because we both knew there were feelings there, but neither of us could handle having a title on our relationship at that point. He wound up living with me for a short while, and I gave him a copy of my key because I felt weird about him being at my place, then maybe leaving and leaving my place unlocked. I never asked for it back after he was able to go back home because I thought of him as my best friend. He knows me like the back of his hand, and I know him just as well. I felt totally comfortable around him, and trusted him completely. I was in a horrible car accident a couple years ago and he was the only person who was able to drive me around and not cause a panic attack.
Now...when we lived together, we didn't fight at all. We had fun, we laughed, we cuddled at night, and talked all the time. It felt like the way our real relationship should've been.
But his brother goes through periods of loving me and hating me. My guy has to deal with his brother talking shit about me all the time when he hates me, and sometimes it gets to him. Don't get me wrong, I know he's a wimp for caving, but I also get where he's coming from.
The more we're apart, the more "we" diminish. The less we see each other, the less we see each other, and the less we see each other, the more we fight. It hurts, but I've finally gotten to the point where I feel kind of...numb about the whole thing, like I don't have it in me to care anymore. At the moment, I'm avoiding him and avoiding talking to him because I feel like I can't say anything without some of this coming out, and I'm not ready for it to, I don't think.
I felt from the moment I met him that he was my soulmate, and I still feel that way, but I'm scared because I feel like I'm pushing him away and I don't know what to do about it.
I keep thinking I want to ask for my key back - and I have, but every time I've asked, he's turned the conversation away, or managed to make me forget about it in some way. I asked him point blank last time I saw him, "Are you still planning to hang onto my key?" and he said "Why not?" I didn't know what to say.
"Because we're not really friends anymore"? "Because I don't feel like I trust you"?
Both of those things are unfounded, I have no reason not to trust him - he hasn't even tried to look for another girl since we "broke up" the first time in 2006. He never cheated on me, he never lied to me. He can't lie to me, I always know. I'm the same way. I can't even convince him I'm happy when I'm not, and that's part of what I get paid to do, be happy and make people smile.
Anyone have any thoughts? I'm not really looking for specific advice, I just kinda need some new ideas, or something. I'm stuck...or maybe I just don't know what I need to do now?
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Well, by avoiding him, you are DEFINATELY pushing him away. If he keeps your key, that means he has a reason to want it. Good or bad, you will have to figure out. My advice would be to go after the brother, try to become his friend, dont hound him on the fact that he hates you. A family member can make or break a relationship, many people have to learn that the hard way. if his brother is whispering things in your guy's ear, he's more likely to subconsciencely listen to him because they go way back. Become the brother's best friend, and then those whisperings will be to your benefit.
also, becoming 'numb' to the thought, is not always the best thing, not only will it make you seem hostile towards your love (among others) but the pain you aren't allowing to come to focus will blow up in your face later on down the road. your mind is like a chimney, it HAS to vent. (or you are going to have a serious fire on your hands)
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Me-f,16
him-m, 17
we've been for about a year now but we havent went out alone yet on a date we hang around our homes and watch tv or just do random stuff to entertain eachother. We've only taken pictures together twice now and only got1 good picture i feel bad tho because its our first year i want to have pictures and good memories. We've had very good memories without spending money but i just want to go out and do something (im unable to drive) his dadcalled him a cheap date the other day when was there and he almost started crying which me seeing that made me start crying because i cant stand seeing him sad so i pulled him down on me and told him it was ok we dont have to spend money to have fun and i just held him till he felt better.
-do alot of people not go places alot?
im hoping to change this once get a job and car
-does this make us pathetic?
i love him so much but i wanna go ot and have fun
-I want us too take more pictures but he's not good with like the moving he justlikes to sit there and take pictures so they all look the same? :(
-Is it wrong to compare relationships?
His twin brother and girlfriend have been dating for 2 months now and they go everywhere & see eachoher everyday i during the school year only see him once a week & i cry alot just by hearing of thm beingtogether and me not being able to see him im slowly becoming depessed from justnot seeing himif thats possible. Theylive in the same town tho as i live 30 minutes from them. The fact that they get too see eachother allthe time andthey do stuff like go out to eat and go swimming together atleast once a week and ive only went out to eat once n valentines day with him and everywhere else wih friends & only 2 places this whole year :( makes me sad but it doesnt make me love him less.
-What are some things we could go out and do? (link)
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I agree with the others…. Guys just don’t like pictures of themselves… But I was wondering if you ever thought of double dating with your boyfriends brother. Since they seem to always go out maybe they wouldn’t mind you guys tagging along every once in a while… Ask your boyfriend see what he thinks.
Hope I helped
-Tristen
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