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I'm getting mysterious love notes.
On Monday I found one in my locker that says that "this boy" lovesme sosososososososo much. He also said that he's in two of my classes.

Then today (Thursday)I found another one in my locker. It said I was the most special, cutest, and sweetest person in the world. He said his love burns for me like the white hot embers of the sun.

What should I do about this?
I know all the boys that are in two of my classes, and I know none of them are guys that I'll never want to go out with. How do I handle this?

i think that you should just let it slide unless it becomes a problem. try avoiding it for a little while if you don't want to go out with any of those guys. if the guy keeps sending you letters, ignore them unless it ends up becoming obsessive, which most likely it won't. if it does become obsessive, somehow find out who the guy is and say that you like someone else so his feelings aren't intentionally hurt. good luck

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is this juan? because if it is plz let me know i am youONLYliveONCE!!

yea this is juan is this hannah?

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Hey, My name is Megan, and i'm 15. I've always been treated pretty bad in school. I don't think i'm fat or ugly, but everyone calls me ugly. I don't know why they would say things to hurt me, and it makes me feel bad all the time, though I try to hide it. Today at lunch, someone gave me a joke love letter of someone I know asking me to homecomming. (The one who gave me the note hates me) When I opened it, a fry with ketchup on it fell on my white skirt, and ruined it. They all laughed it up, while a friend of mine yelled at them. I don't understand why people do the things they do to me, I try to ignore them, but you know, it hurts. I just wish people at my school would treat me like a human. I'm not mean to people, i'm nice. I don't talk about people I keep to myself...what is wrong with me?

nothing is wrong with you at all. its the way of school--people just need someone to pick on. prove to them that it shouldnt be you. if you know you're not a dork and that they really shouldnt be making fun of you, try talking to them for real and do things to let them know that yes, you are human and you can be accepted as one of the group. it would be one thing if you were always mean to them, but it sounds like they're just doing it to you for no reason. so try letting them see that you're a normal person and that you dont deserve to be treated the way that you're being treated. good luck

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I'm a student that needs the time to figure school work out... and take my time on stuff... but between HorseBack Ridin, School Work, My Babysitting Jobs, and an Athletic Trainer after school.. well I just don't know how to balance it.. any advice?

" Ask Lia "

i would say to make a schedule. depending on how frequently you do these other activities, make a schedule after school to desagnate time for homework, studying, and any other thing for school. this way you know in advance that you will have time for school and all your other things that you do. make sure you keep up with it though. good luck

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I'm 'sort of' a shy person. Especially when it comes to the guy I like. : p
I don't even know if you can call it shy..I just get nervous around him and just mummble. Whaaaaaaaat can I do? I never have the confidence to tell him anything, and I never know what to talk about. Help? : ]

find out what his interests are. if he has some of the same ones that you do, then it shouldn't be nerve-racking to carry on a conversation with him talking about something that interests you as well as him. just make sure that you're confident when you do this, and try not to mumble. make it so he never would have guessed that you were nervous.

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ok here is my problem. i have 2 bf's i know its wrong and i dont know what i was thinking when i hooked up with the other one. see i had been dating my bf of 2 years now we can call him mike when we both got invited to this party and it was supposed to be the party of the year! unfotunatly mike was gonna be on vacation with his family this weekend. i didnt wanna go without him but he ensured me that i would have a great time. so i went and i got really drunk. i didnt mean to but i hooked up with this guy .. lets call him pete and hes kinda a pyscho! i think that i am pregnant but i dont know whose baby it is. both of them know about it but mike doesnt know about pete and pete threatened to kill me if i didnt claim it was his baby and dump mike. idk what to do i am sooo confused and i am only 14 yrs old! (i hang out with a lot of older kids) PLEASE HELP ME!

alright...first of all DONT DRINK EVER AGAIN. wait till youre 21. as far as the baby goes, theres no way around letting your parents know. someone (them) has to drive you to the doctor to get the paternity test (i dont know if mike could since i dont know how old he is, and ill just tell you know dont ever come in contact with pete again), and your mom & dad are gonna start to notice when your stomach starts growing to hold the kid. its better to get it out of the way know so in 7/8/9 months from now its not like "okay mom and dad, im having a baby!" when its obvious. once you find out who the father is you gotta talk it over with him and his parents and explore all of your options. everyone involved needs to know. secondly, you need to tell someone about pete. if hes threatening to kill you, thats not good, and you need to tell the police immediately. things will be much worse if mike isnt the father and pete is. teen pregnancy isnt something rare, but you gotta use the right steps to make it work. until you talk to your parents and the police, dont talk to pete again. hopefully he doesnt know your adress or phone number. i hope everything goes well...

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