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well, my guy friend and i have been doing things that only friends do. I mean hugging yes thats fine. He has slow danced with me, grinded with me, french kissed me, kissed me on the cheek, held hands with me, and cuddled with me. Just to let you know the french kiss, and kiss on the cheek were both dares, but he wanted to do them, and he didnt hesitate at all when he got dared to do them. Does this mean he likes me? Also i see him in less then a week, this sat to be exact, what should i do? i know i should talk to him but anything pyhisical? thanx also, latley my friend(who is a girl) has been very wild. she went on a cruise and lost her virginity, to a guy who she will never see again. I am just afraid that she might be pregnant, and that she will be hurt in the future, knowing that she will never see him again, and also, i have head that guys like virgins, could u tell me if this was true? thanx

Ok for the first part about your guy friend...

Sounds like he might like you or looking for friends with benefits. There is never a way to be sure unless you talk to him about it. I know you probably dont want to ask him and it can be embarrassing or whatever excuses us girls come up with, but you just have to ask/talk to him. And about seeing him this saturday.. Just do what feels right. What happens, is going to happen. Just dont do anything you arent ready for. The way I see it, I dont think you should do anything physical wih him unless you know he likes you. You dont want to get too attached and turns out he doesnt. You know what I mean?

And about your friend...

People are going to make mistakes. Talk to her and tell her that you care for her and dont want to see her hurt. Talking to her about it will show her that you care. It can make your friendship stronger too. Maybe after you talk to her she will wise up a bit. She wont know if she is pregnant until she at least misses her period.

about guys liking virgins.. Yeah they do. Well at least most do. Its just the way guys are. Plus if they are virgins or inexperienced, the girl cant compare the guy to anything. Which will boost a guys ego majorly!

Remember, talking is the key to everything!
Good luck!

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i am a freshman going into higschool, and i have a problem w/ this girl going into 11th grade whos 2 years older than me. well back in middle school we were on the same bus, and she was really mean to me. she would SCREAM mean things to me in front of EVERYONE, like saying im ugly and stuff, and she would take my schoolbag and dump it all over the place, and she would pour soda on me.. it was humiliating.. she used to threaten to beat me up when i got off the bus, and she would have people come up to me and say shit to me. LAST YEAR I TOLD MY MOM AND SHE WENT TO THE SCHOOL AND TOLD OUR PRINCIPLE AND MADE IT WORSE CAUSE THE GIRL ONLY HARASSED ME MORE AND MORE AND PEOPLE MADE FUN OF ME... well now were gonna be on the same bus again, and i wanna know how to handle the situation. if shes yelling at me on the bus, should i say something back? ignore her? ask her if we can talk it out? or ask her why she's doing this since i didnt do anything to her?... i dont want to make her even more mad, because then she'll be worse to me. tell me how to handle it, but dont tell me to call the cops or anything, i wanna know what to do... im REALLY SCARED.. thanks

When I was in middle school this girl was sooo rude to me. She did things like that but not to an extreme. Then going into HS I was so scared. Then it turned out we got on the same basketball team. But she was so nice and didnt treat me like crap anymore. You will be surprised she might have grown up and matured. But if not, its a serious thing. I know going to the principal can make it a lot worst. Maybe you can try talking it out, even though it doesnt always work. She most likely is all talk and I wouldnt worry about her. Just let things ride out and if it gets too bad, tell the principal she is harrassing you. The principal should be able to do something about it. Even then, if the principal didnt do anything or if it starts to get more serious, your mom will know what to do. Just dont do things that will fuel her fire. Dont let it look like it bothers you. If she does something just laugh, even though it will be hard. Or say something like- Wow that was a little middle school, dont you think? and then laugh and walk off.

Hope I could help.. Good luck in HS, have fun! Dont let something like this bother you that much.

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Okay well im usually really outgoing and happy and funny... im always the life of the party... but lately im not... im just not... idk why... im just not myself i dont know whats wrong with me... and i have been constantly thinking about how i want a b/f a good one... and i have found out that the reason i want a b/f is because i feel so much better about myself when i do have one... and with school approaching im thinking about the school year and school shopping and looking good this year and ahh its driving me crazy...
please help me!

First thing you need to do is take a deep breath. Maybe right now before school starts, is the best time to find who you are. Make a list of things you like to do and like about you and focus on them. You dont need a boyfriend to feel better about yourself! Seriously! Have fun this year, and if there is a guy you really like, go for it! Just dont forget... You dont have to have a boyfriend to feel better about yourself. Take a day to pamper yourself. Go shopping, do your nails or get them done, take a long hot bubble bath. It will help clear your mind.

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hey..
What kinds of clothes and accessories do you suggest getting for back to school things? I am entering high school this year and I want to know what you all think! Also..it would be nice if you had any tips for fashion in high school or any tips on high school in general!? Thanks so much!

Fashion tips.. not much. Just if you like something wear it. Dont follow a trend, be who you are. High school tips in general, dont procrastinate. I know we all love doing that, but if you have multiple papers do, It sucks! But most of all have the time of your life. It goes by so quick! Do everything you want and dont let anyone stop you.

Have fun in high school!

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ok . heres my deal , im going into high school on aug. 23 , and i really want to get a boyfriend for the first time cuz ive never dated b4 . im getting braces to which might turn a guy off . how can i get a boyfriend evn tho braces r a total turn off

Don't rush into getting a boyfriend right away. Focus on having fun, HS goes by soo fast! Make lots of friends and let things happen as they happen. Dont worry about the braces.. Braces arent a total turn off.. Just make sure you dont have anythig stuck in them! If a guy likes you for who you really are, then the braces wont matter to him. Well good luck in high school!

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