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I am a junior in college, 20 years old. The guy this is about is 23 years old and a senior in college but is staying an extra semester in college.

My sophomore year of college:
I met this guy through a mutual friend of ours. I got his number one night, we had talked everything will day the person who even fell asleep first during the night would be the person to respond to the last text sent from the night before so the conversation would never end. He has a very flirty sense of humor and I really enjoy his company and talking to him all the time. His friend was turning 21 One night and they were all going out to the bar to celebrate, he asked me if I could pick him up and bring him back to his place because he knew that he would be drunk to which I was happy that he would be smart about that to ask me to do that so I told him yes. So he texted me around 2 o'clock in the morning when the bar closed, that he and his friends are ready to leave. So I left my place to go get them and when I went back to their place and we all hung out and talked for little bit, he pulled me in his room to tell me that he did not want to be with his friends that night because they were all much more drunk than he was so I offered for him to stay at my place. He said yes and after he left his room, he told his friend goodbye and we left to go back to my place. Now, I work for housing so I had a early desk shifts around 6 o'clock in the morning, we got back to my placeat around 230 in the morning and we had talked until about five, I fell asleep for about 45 minutes and when I woke up from my desk shift and got out of my bed, he woke up too. I told him to go back to bed. After my desk shift, I went back to my room and he was awake watching tv, saying he couldn't fall asleep with me and then fall back asleep without me so I went back to bed and we fell back asleep. When we woke back up, we stayed there for a few more hours just talking and then we decided we qere hungry. I got up to go to the dining hall and he pulled me back down to my bed and kissed me and then said thanks for taking care of him and being there.

Fast forward to junior year:
He and I talked all through the summer and everything but at the start of school he started talking about a girl he works with at home and how she will be attending our university. When his texts started getting more sparce a month into school, I saw on Twitter that he was dating the girl he told me about. I wasn't mad they were and I wasn't even mad he stopped talking to me.

About a month ago, he texted me and asked if I knew this girl and sent me a picture. I knew her so I told him yea and he started grilling me asking me how and all of these things trying to set up a time we could all hang out but he wouldn't tell me why he was asking me these things so I got mad and stopped answering him

About two weeks ago, he texted me and asked if I remembered the argument we had about the girl he wanted to get to know. I said that yes, I did remember and he told me he wanted to clear the air that it was his girlfriend that texted me and wanted to know because she had a weird girl crush on that girl and wanted to be friends with her. He apologized a lot and told me he knew it upset me how rude she was being and he wanted me to know that he would never intentionally upset me like that and he wanted me to know that it wasn't him.
This past Saturday he texted me and asked me what I was doing. I told him I was playig with my friend's pet duck. He told me he had a cat before with his girlfriend. I told him I know and that I rmemeber that, he had to return the cat because they felt after his attitude hasn't changed in the couple weeks they had him that a college campus wasn't a suitable environment for that cat so they took him back to his owner. When I told him that I remember, he then told me that it was a different cat and that his girlfriend took this one home because they broke up and he left her have the cat but she couldn't keep it on campus since she lives in a dorm. I told him I was sorry for the break up and he said "Why do you think I told you it was her texting you that night and not me? I didn't want you to be mad at me."

Since then, it's been like before. We haven't stopped talking. We talk and reminisce about the night he stayed with me after drinking with his friends, we talk about how much fun we used to have hanging out, we talk about his best friend's deployment, everything. He's since asked me to hang out too and the one night I was sick of caring for my drunk friends, he told me to drop them all off at their respective places and if I needed anywhere to stay, his door was always open.

However, I don't know how to feel. I mean, I like it that were talking again, I did miss him. But I kind of feel like I'm only good enough for him when he's single. Or that he's got ulterior motives, that he maybe wants me to be his rebound. I haven't hung out with him even though hes asked and I don't know if I should, he misses his ex girlfriend (she broke up with him) and I don't know if he's just talking to me again for him to get over her.
It makes me feel iffy that he isn't using me to get over her because he calls me friend a lot in his texts. He did that before but I think he's doing it a lot more now. But he is asking me to hang out and he went right back to how we used to be as good friends. I even told him one night that they could all go to my friends place to hang out me and then I told him I fast tracked that if he was with his ex, I didn't want them to since I know she didn't like me and I knew she was the reason he stopped talking to me all those months (to which he agreed that she was the reason) and he was quick to text me and tell me that she wasn't with them if I wanted them to go to my friends place to hang out, they could.

So my question is, am I thinking too hard about this? I missed him. I like how we mesh together so well. But could there be ulterior motives? Should I be mad that he stopped talking to me?

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