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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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This is kind of nasty...but I think I have a bacterial infection in my vagina. Is there anyways i can get rid of this on my own without having to go to the doctor? And if i do have to go to the doctor will she just look at it real quick or take a long time?
if it's a yeast infection (itchy, burning sensation during urination, rotten fish smell) then you can buy over the counter medicine for it.
if you think it's something else, i'd advise you to go to the doctor, seeing as how any thing involving bacteria could be risky. if they examine you, the actual examination itself shouldn't be longer than 3 minutes. though it can feel like eternity.
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well see my issue is that i lost my virginity in the WORST way possible, and now that ive had sex i dont want to stop.. all i think about is sex and everything that comes out of my mouth is sex, and i know this sounds horrible but its not as bad as it seems but i have had sex with about 4 people and i have not gone out with either of them..even the person i lost my virginity to.. is that bad?? sometimes i feel like a whore and some girls call me a slut what should i do?
first of all in my opinion, you aren't a whore. some may call you that, yes. and then others may not. being a whore by what i know is when you have sex with a bunch of guys, and then don't think twice about it. you've obviously pondered this a lot. meaning you don't like the fact you've had sex with multiple people.
if you don't want to have sex, don't. if you do, then whatever. just be sure to use protection. don't worry about what everyone else says, because it's not their future that in the hands of every guy you fuck; it's in yours.
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I really hope this question will not be deleted.
I got a lot of hair on my balls
I wanna get rid of them and I dont know how.
I cant shave them, I definatelly cant wax them so I just spend a lot of time trimming them every now and then.
Any other solution? How to shave balls they are very sensitive and get cut really easilly.
A lot of people have told you nair. I'm not positive, but i'm pretty sure you aren't supposed to use nair on your genitals. Apparently it's ok, considering a lot of the advice gives have told you to use that. But I advise you to read the label before using it.
I don't know what to tell you about the shaving. Seeing as how I only know how to shave a woman's area. But honestly, many guys have hairy balls. It's completely normal, honest. There isn't really any need in shaving it, unless you just MUST.
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Alright, well..
I've liked this guy for about a month now maybe. It's weird because we had been best friends in 8th grade and he always had the hugest crush on me and would ask me out everyday and I'd always reject..
Now that we're in 9th grade we've sort of spread apart but we still talk, and now I have a crush on him.
He doesn't like me in that way anymore and now I don't understand why not..
I asked him why he wouldn't wanna go out with me and he said because I have too many mood swings. That just really pissed me off.
I really wanna go out with him and now that he's rejecting me I guess now I know how he felt when I always rejected him.
I don't know what to do because I wanna go out with him now and he's not inerested..
Jacky.
well obviously you are having mood swings. by definition it's the general scenario. boy wants girl. girl rejects boy. girl decides she wants boy. boy rejectes girl. girl gets pissed. see the mood swing i'm talking about here?
if he liked you that long, there is no reason as to why he wouldn't like you now. maybe he's just afraid that this is a temporary thing; that sooner or later you'll decide you don't want him anymore. talk to him, and tell him that you really are interested & it hurts to know that you may have blown your chance with him. if he still says no, don't push him. he may have simply moved on and he just maybe might not want to go back. if this is the case, let him be & find someone new.
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okay so like any clinic you go to, they cant tell your parents right?
Yup. As far as I know.
=]
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you know how you said to that girl that the nurse examined you when you went to the clinic? well what do you exactly mean by examine? like specifically. thanks
and also im not exactly sure how to do it but can you try to google clinics in brockton for me im really sorry if its a trouble for you. itll be greatly appreciated. :] thanks alot. its for birth control pills.
it wasn't fun, i'll tell you that. they sat me down in a chair & made me prop my feet up on these 2 foot rest things with my legs spread apart. [yes, i had no underwear/pants on] then they squirted this really cold cream into me, and stuck a finger up there and felt around. then they held it open with this clamp like thing, and used a flashlight to examine it.
West Roxbury Division
1400 VFW Parkway
West Roxbury, MA 02132
(617) 323-7700
Jamaica Plain Division
150 S. Huntington Avenue
Boston, MA 02130
(617) 232-9500
Brockton Division
940 Belmont Avenue
Brockton, MA 02301
(508) 583-4500
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i'm ordering jeans from abercrombie and fitch and i can't figure out my size. i'm an xs in the a&f clothes and i think i'd be a 0 or a double zero in their jeans. i'm ordering off the website and i can't figure out what the 'L' and the 'R' next to teh sizes are. can anyone help?
L means long.
R means regular.
S means slim.
If you have super long legs, then get the L. Or if you have a normal body type get the regular. If you are petite, get the S.
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I have always had regular periods ever since I first started to get them. I have been off birth control for about 6 or 7 months now and I have missed my last 2 periods. I have taken a few home pregnancy tests and took one at the doctors office too and they all come back negitive. Can i still be pregnant because that would be great. I was told to reschedule an appoitment with my doctor again if i don't get it by the end of the month to get a blood test done. I have been getting really bad headaches, a lot of nausea,lower stomach cramping as if im going to get my period. I have also been extremly tired.
19/f
i think you are pregnant. i hope this is a good thing for you, & if not i'm sorry, it's just what i think.
all the things you described are the earliest signs of pregnancy there are. trust me, i've done plenty of research. =]
it's hard to distinguish between pregnancy symtoms and pms symtoms. it gets frustrating, so just ride it out. wait for the blood test & see what happens from there..
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Ok...so im not a virgin but everytime ive had sex i told the guy to keep my bra on. My reasoning for that is my boobs look bigger in my bra and i dont want it to be a disappointment when it comes off. I really hate it because my boobs look like they are like an A when my bras off. What should i do about that? And my other problem is you know how people have hair on there stomach? Well since im full italian mine is like dark so it kind of grosses me out what can i do about that cuz that also bothers me?
it's normal to be self-consious about your body. almost all girls are whether they speak it aloud or not. seriously.
i know how you feel. when my boyfriend & i have sex, i feel paranoid/awkward also. he always seems to stare at my breasts which are a 32A, just so you know. they are super tiny, but i know he enjoys staring at them anyways. to guys, boobs are boobs. my boyfriend even told me he doesn't like big boobs, and though he's admitted they are small; he told me he loves them anyways & that they suit my body type.
as for the stomache hair, all girls have it. some are just lucky enough to get blonde hairs [like me]. if this really bothers you, you can buy a special body bleach kit. it sounds painful and a little bit unorthodox, but it's actually very popular. people use it for their backs/mustaches/stomache/toes/et cetera. or you could do as i do, and just shave it. it's really up to you.
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ok im worried... im on the pill and i was supposed to get my period last week but it never came.. ive been under a great deal of stress lately and took a preg. test which said i was not pregnant. so why didnt i get my period? am i just really paraniod? i never miss the pill & i take it every night at the same time.. HELP!
The test could very well be wrong. You can still get pregnant while on the pill, even if you use it correctly. No birth control is 100% effective.
But while women are on the pill, some seem to have later/earlier periods, or no period at all. One of the many benefits of being on the pill. It sounds like you are just being paranoid; & stress can play a huge factor in missed periods. I'd say relax, and if you miss another period cosider another pregnancy test.
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When you use a vibrator..do you usually put a condom on it?
If it's for you & only you, there isn't really any need. If it's for multiple people, it couldn't hurt to I guess. I've never heard of anyone doing that though.
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1. Does it make you gain weight? My doctor says it depends on the person but I want to gt a clearer picture. I'm already a little overweight and I don't want to make it worse.
2. Does it make your breasts bigger/even? My right breasts is a little smaller than my left and I was hoping it would even them out.
3. I've heard this pill makes youe extremely emotionally unstable. Is this true for you?
THANKS SO MUCH
1. I gained weight. The side effects can vary though. Some gain while other loose. It's 50/50 and you just have to take the chance.
2. It didn't make mine any bigger.
3. I've always been emotionally unstable. I'm on zoloft. So you will have to get someone else's opinion on that.
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theres this boy i met today ]whos a junior and im a freshman] while walking home well i didn`t just meet him bc i have lunch and we say hi alot & i hang out with his friends outside when hes there but he didn`t really talk then. but today i was just giving him my number when i was on his doorstep then he asked if i wanted to come in bc noone was home and i was feeling kinda "horny" bc of his accent that really got me =} so then we were sitting down and talking about us being virgins or not which neither of us are and then we were just talking and talking then he said something i forget what it was then i was like well i`ll make out with you thats all. then we started making out then i got on top of him then he got on top of me and started to kiss suck and lick my neck but i didn`t get a hickey. then i was moaning bc it felt so good. then when he was still on top of me he in buttoned my pants and then he started feeling in my panties then he started to finger me like wicked hard. it felt so good so i was moaning and moaning so i decided to put my leg on his shoulders while we were making out at the same time. well then he tried to like pull my pants down so that we can actually have sex but then i told him no & to wait like a few more days. i want to do it, but im afraid his dick might be too big for me [i didn`t see it but i felt it but not exactly] so yeah what should i do?.. and any tips?
don't be afraid of the size of his penis. if you're that horny, it won't matter because you'll be completely relaxed. & as for the tips, it sounds like you've got a good hold on everything.
;)
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why do boys breathe so hard when they are kissing you like in a really sexual passionate way. like when you`re about to have sex?
that is their way of showing that they are really into what they are doing. they're enjoying themselves & it's just positive feedback.
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Hi, I've never written to any sort of advice column before... infact I've never even read an advice column before. But I am at the point in my life where if I don't send something, or say something to somebody... I think dangerous things could happen.
I am 20 years old, and living in western Michigan. I won't tell you exactly where I am or who I am because I believe after I am done writing this, you could very possibly feel a need to send it to somebody who would probrably want to put me on medicine, or lock me up.
I have had a pretty decent life to be honest, up until the point when I hit 18 years of age. Some things about my life are pretty strange, like the fact that I started smoking cigarette butts I found on the street when I was about 9 years old. This makes me a smoker of about 11 years now. My parents got divorced when I was 6 years old. I've been on near every anti-depressing medication that I can think of, and on the few occassions since I've become an adult that I have thought about taking new medications to try someting new; the doctors usually have a hard time trying to figure out what I haven't already tried.
I've never cut myself, becuase I have never really had a thing for blood. But... I have tried to commit suicide on two occasions from my freshman year until present date. I have been in and out of psychologists trying to figure out what is wrong with me. I have tried to diagnose myself. And the only thing that can be brought us is uncontrollable depression. Or bipolar disease, but the medications don't help me.
I feel depressed every day. There is a cloud hanging over my head that makes me feel like life isn't worth living. It isn't that I am the type to walk around moping or pouting to myself. I don't listen to emo music and cry to myself in a corner about why life sucks. But I do usually sit quietly and think about if I would feel better dead.
Sometimes when I am sitting somewhere I will get angry with myself for being so weak. I clench my fists and try to fight back the tears because I don't like looking weak at any cost. I just keep on going, grunting and crying the whole time.
Depression for me takes on physical symptoms aswell. Such as my muscles spasming to the point where I sometimes quake. I feel much weaker than I am almost all the time and I have to pump my adrenaline throughw arm-up exercises just so that I can go to work without feeling like I can barely raise my arm.
I want to die... but I'm almost afraid of what will happen if I do kill myself. I don't want someone to talk me "out" of it. And I don't want someone's sympathy... But I would like to hear someone's thoughts.
I'll give you a little bit more about my history now, just so that you know. When I was in middleschool nothing phenominal happened to me. The worst part was that I got into fist fights alot. Because my school was dumb and didn't know what to do about me because of it they sent me to special education. My mother had to threaten to sue in order to get me out and transfer me to a different school.
In highschool I wasn't exactly popular, I mean I went to a school with a few thousand students so very few people were all that popular. But alot of people did seem to know my name for some reason and I couldn't explain it very often. I dated girls online mostly because I was too much of a pansy to approach them in person. One relationship in particular sticks out in my mind with a girl from another state that lasted about 3 years. Some of that time I was still in middleschool.
I truly fell in love with her emotionally. Of course there was very very little physical attachment save self induced.. but I truly can say she is the only person that I have ever met who I would do anything just to hold her for 10 minutes.
I tried looking for her once after we broke up and I lost contact with her. Finally after about a year of solid searching she logged in quite randomly to her old screen name... When I told her that all I wanted was to talk to her and know that she was okay and everything else... She wouldn't reply. So I sent her one more message that said basically if she needed me or wanted me to stay completely out of her life and stop looking for her then i would. And she sent me a message back... that was very short. It said "so be it."
That was one of the times I tried to kill myself. I took about half a bottle of sleeping pills because that is all there was left, and when I got done swallowing them all the next thing I remember is waking up about 3 days later. It's while I was living alone so nobody really noticed, except my work which fired me for it.
I spent the year after highschool living in my car and eating when I got a free meal at work at Mc Donalds. I saved my money to put gas in my car so I could run the heater in the winter. And occassionally I would rent a hotel room or something so that I could shower and do my laundry about twice a week. Shortly after that is when I tried to commit suicide the second time. I tried to suffocate myself with a can of compressed air which I was breathing in to cut off my oxygen level. The next thing I remember a friend was kicking my ribs until conciousness came back and then he proceeded to give me a bloody nose and a few other bruises because he figured out what I'd done.
I tried the college thing, and overdosed on street drugs a couple of times. I couldn't handle myself on any kind of drugs or too much alcohal, I would let it take me over and eventually I found myself waking up in a different bed every night and with no money. So I went into counseling and stopped.
Then I moved to Detroit and started a production company with a guy i met at college. He promised he'd pay for everything so the 1 year of college and no degree was no problem. We went there, he spent all his money on random crap he didn't need, and that fell through. So I started working 80 hours a week as a security guard. Then when I finally was about to get my own apt again I went back to get my furniture and my car broke down.
The place I worked wouldn't give me the moneyt hey owe me for the last month I worked there, so I couldn't fix the car and got stuck in Grand Rapids (ish).
Now I finally convinced my mother to let me move into her basement temporarily, and convinced my dad to call one of the companies he does business with (because he's a pretty big boss at a disel mechanic shop) and he got me a job at a tire company.
And now here I am... spending every night praying that God, or whoever, or whatever might be listening would come and steal my life while I sleep so that I don't wake again... And while I am awake I think about how I could kill myself without it physically hurting too horribly much.
Once again I say that I don't want pity, I don't want doctors, I don't want medicine... I don't even want hope or a way "out" of it... I just want to know what your thoughts are from reading this. A response would be high appreciated.
Sincerly yours.
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I've read your question 3 times thoroughly. To be honest, I can't think of a damn thing to say to this. I would LOVE to help you, but I don't want to misdiagnose you. So i'm going to forward you to younggrandma. Find her column and ask her this same question. I'm sure she will help you much more than I could even dream of doing. She's very experienced and open-minded. Just tell her that [stillbreaking___] forwarded you to her.
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i wuz just wondering whats 69? don't get me wrong i've never done it i juz wanna know what it is!
When 2 people give each other head at the same time.
Think of the way the number 69 falls into place. Imagine the number laying down.
Imagine the 6 as a girl. The bottom part being her head, and the top of the 6 being her vagina. Then imagine the same for the 9 as the other partner. They give each other head laying on top of each other, opposite.
If this makes no sense to you, type in "69 position" on wikipedia and it will explain it much better than I did.
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I think I have a crush on my bestfriend!!and plus im always looking at girl!their hair,their body ther smile there everything!!!.Last year people made a rumor at my old school that me and my bff were lesbians and we got really mad and told everyone they were wrong!.We are always hugging,dancing together,holdings hands!and some people well think we are lesbians!but the truth is that I think im straight ...just curious!and well I think my bestfriend is straight but sometimes shes a little to friendly!I need some help!
Hrmm, the possibilities..
You 'think' you have a crush on your bestfriend or you do? There is no thinking. You're either attracted to her physically/emotionally or you're not. The choice is yours.
You said yourself you don't think you're a lesbian, that you are just curious. Tell your friend the same thing, decreetly of course. Either way around, things will be fine, so don't stress. Experimnet for as long as you want. You don't have to choose anytime soon. You have all the time in the world to decide what you want to be, and there is no need in stressing over it.
Promise.
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is it rude to scratch your butt in public?
i seem to do this a lot =]
nah. it ain't rude.
just keep it descrete.
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Well I am 15 and in highschool. I've been with my boyfriend a little over 7 months. In the way beginning when we first met... we had minni crushes on eachother...and when we were about to get closer a girl got in between and he liked her... that didn't work out so it was about us again. Then another girl came in between and he actually went out with her. When that didn't work out it was about us again. I don't know why i kept going back to him but it ended up with us going out. I felt like a rebound for the longest time but i just really liked him. Now he tells me how he can never be attracted to anyone and he truly loves me. He thinks we will actually get married and what not. I on the other hand don't think so we are only in highschool. I'm just confused about this whole thing...Was I sprt of a rebound? Also I read his texts once in awhile when i know i shouldnt but hes always texting girls... and he goes far away on church retreats and camp and what not and i fear that girls are all over him. He talks good to these girls like he misses them and what not. Whats going on here in our relationship?
In the beginning he may have just been confused about what he wanted. Shame on him for tossing your heart around like that and confusing you. But shame on you for going back to him after he done it the first time. Apparently it worked out in the end, but in the future if a similar problem occurs, please take the time to really think if it's worth getting hurt over. I'm sure the answer will be no, it's not. You did appear to be a rebound girl in the beginning, however the past is unimportant. The future is what you need to ponder on, and if he's going to do it again.
Some guys are just flirts. He may love you with all of his heart, he may want to get married, and I mean hey, the boy may even be obsessed. But in the end, guys will be guys and they will talk to girls. There isn't much we can do about it, except to just deal. it can be hard, and if bothers you so much, talk to him about it. You guys are now in a relationship, and if you guys are truely in love, these things shouldn't be taken lightly. I suggest sit back and think really hard on what your heart and your head are telling you. Take into account both, because both will play major roles in the fate of your relationship with this boy.
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Well, me and my girlfriend were fooling around and after we dry humped and i came, i fingered her. Now I don't remember if i had semen on my hand(from touching my damp shorts). She's had her period already, 2 weeks after the event, but she's been showing symptoms of "Morning sickness" at the same time. Could she be pregnant or just feeling a bit under the weather?
most likely she's not pregnant. i'd say a 1 in 50% chance she may be.
considering there was no penetration, if you did have cum on your hands, most likely she didn't get pregnant. especially from damp shorts.
if she had her period after this incident, i'm sure she's just not feeling well.
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