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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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I've been in a long distance relationship for 9 months. We're recently broken up, and I showed my boyfriend fake pictures, and only JUST showed him my actual self a few days ago. I was terrified to tell him, but he actually took it MUCH better than I thought he would. He was a little upset at what I did, but said he still loved me, and if I 'work with him a little bit' by showing him more pics of my real self & maybe getting a webcam, then we could get back together.
We both have strong feelings for eachother, & I (stupidly) ended the relationship because I knew I could never meet him since I sent fake pics. But now, he knows what I really look like, and accepted me, so a relationship is possible again.
This is my only problem. I've only showed him shoulders up pics of me. I'm not fat..but curvy. He's a tall, lanky guy, VERY skinny, he only weighs 120 lbs! But, I weigh more than that, & I'm scared to show him pics of my whole body. He's been asking for 'bikini'/full body pics & for me to get a webcam, but I honestly don't have any bikini pics, because I hate my body. I think it's too curvy, and it's my #1 insecurity.
Anyway, I do love him, & I realize if he can get over me faking pics, & he does like my face..then can my body really be a cause for him to stop loving me? I'm just scared he'll be unattracted to me, and won't want to tell me because he's too nice.
Basically what I'm asking is: 1. How should I go about showing him pics of my full body? Just send him a bunch then say I have to leave quickly? (I don't want to be there when he sees them, hahah) 2. Should I get a webcam if he accepts the pics the way they are? It's not really like I'd be showing my body on there anyway, he'd really only see my face. Thank you.
Maybe I am just old-fashioned, but I think online relationships are just plain creepy. You have NEVER met this guy. For all you know his pictures could be fake too. Look how easily you tricked him!
Getting a webcam is probably not a good idea. I hate to be preachy, but it just seems dangerous. What's the point of even being in a relationship if you have never met the guy? It just doesn't make any sense to me.
1. You can usually tell a person's general body shape by just looking at their face. If you are more on the curvy side, he could probably tell by looking at you. Obviously he doesn't care. Just send him one (fully clothed of course) and don't mention anything like, "I'm so fat, omg!" If you are confident he will sense that.
2. No. That's just my personal opinion, and it's only because I think it's creepy.
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what does giving head mean? please help!
It means a female is giving a male oral sex.
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For prom I'm wearing this dress in purple:
http://www.jessicamcclintock.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?catalogId=10002&storeId=10001&productId=147258&categoryId=10328&subcatname=Ball Gowns&spage=1&langId=-1&parent_category_rn=10320
And I deffinitely want to do my hair up, do I was looking for some ideas. I was thinking side swept or maybe tousled and pulled back with curls. I'd appreciate any pictures or ideas! I have auburn hair if it helps and I'm wearing dangly earrings.
Thanks so much!
I love the back of that dress :)
I think a french twist would be your best bet since it's so simple and elogant. If you are wearing big earrings, then your hair won't have to be extravagent.
Example:
http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2038/2182291734_2a5edc373f_o.jpg
A side-swept pony would be cute too.
Example:
http://slides.shoppinglifestyle.com/gallery/2009/04/20_CarrieUnderwood.jpg
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From what I know oral sex is- handjobs blowjobs fingering ect.
Please correct me if I'm wrong.
- I have tlked to my parents about sex and they tell me to wait till marriage when they say wait they mean " oral" to. Well I'm still figureing myself out and I'm not going to take place in sexual activity in till it's right for me weather that is before or after marriage I really don't know. My family and I strongly believe in god. However my older siblings have boyfriends and my parents don't want them in the same bed togeather. They disagree with why my parents say and it has an effect on the way I think about sex "and waiting ect." I don't believe that it
sisters have waited to have oral in fact I REALLy don't think they have. This confuses me cause my parents tell me one thing but my sisters do another. I just wanna no how you feel about this and what I should do it's really bothering and confusing me. I'm getting at a age were I wanna be prepared on how far I wanna go.
The person below me if right. Oral sex refers to sex involving the mouth. So from your list, only blowjobs are considered oral. Men can also perform oral sex on women in a similar fashion.
Sex is confusing. I can completley understand why you feel conflicted since your family seems to be pulling you in all different directions. The important thing to remember is when it comes to sex it is YOUR decision, and yours alone.
It's good that your parents have talked to you about sex. They obviously care about you and your well-being. Did they talk to you about birth control as well? I think even if parents promote abstinence to their children, they should still discuss the consequences of sex, birth control, and at least touch on all aspects of what happens if you wait or don't wait (good or bad).
The thing about your sisters is this: your parents probably told them the same things they told you, but your sisters have chosen not to take their advice on abstinence (assuming they are sexually active). Like the person below me said, just because your sisters are having sex doesn't mean you have too.
If you are confused then you obviously aren't ready. That's fine. Don't have sex because everyone else is doing it. Contrary to what you think, a lot more people are abstinent then what you may think.
Your religious. That's cool. It doesn't have to affect whether or not you have sex or not. It's a lot more complicated then, "God says don't have sex so I won't." When you meet a guy you honestly love the decision gets a little messy. It's not so black and white anymore.
My advice is don't turn this into some big deal. Don't set an age or time limit, because then if you don't live up to it you may feel like you've failed. You shouldn't look at it like that. When you meet a guy and fall in love, after being in a committed relationship reassess your situation. How do you feel? If you are scared, timid, already wondering if you will regret the decision, etc., then you probably still aren't ready. If you only have slight jitters (which is normal) and you are honestly exited about the experience, then you are probably ready.
I will leave you with this cliche: When you are ready, you will just know. :)
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I'm going on a 7 hour car ride out of town this week, what can I do in the car? I plan on bringing my homework (which probably won't be much) some coloring books ha, and my
iPod. My friend will be there with me. What else can I do?
- Portable DVD player if you have one.
- A book if you are interested in reading and don't get carsick easily.
- Laptop
- A list of games for you and your friends to play
- A comfy pillow and blanket to take a nap with.
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18-female.
So I just got back from the doctor and found out I have a yeast and bacterial infection - my first one. I have to take two different pills for both of them .. only for a week and the doctor said that these pills will interfere with my birth control so if i did decide to become sexually active to also use a condom. Well after leaving I was thinking .. IF I were to become sexually active AFTER i'm done with these pills to get rid of the infections, it won't interfere with my birth control right? It will only interfere when I am taking the meds? I know you guys aren't doctors or anything but an opinion would be good .. or if any of you girls have had this problem if you could helps also. thanks!:)
I don't know this for an absolute fact, but you will be better off using condoms the entire month you are taking your antibiotics.
It's better to be safe than sorry.
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I'm going to a concert (Muse, if it matters), and it's my first, so I'm not sure what I should wear.
Things to keep in mind:
- I will be standing and am going several hours early, so I'll be there a long time. I know I need to wear comfy shoes.
- I want to look cute.
- I'll be getting there at 3 and the concert starts at 8.
- If it matters what I look like: five eight, average weight, pale skin, dark brown hair and brown eyes
Anything, whether it's general or specific (even makeup/hair ideas), would be really helpful. Thanks.
You have a lot of options. It all depends greatly on the weather, so keep that in mind as well.
- Skinny Jeans (black)
http://www.charlotterusse.com/product/index.jsp?productId=3729716
- Band t-shirt or tank top
http://muse.shop.bravadousa.com/Dept.aspx?cp=9321_10312
- Converse
http://www.zappos.com/converse-all-star-core-ox-pink
- Accessories
http://muse.shop.bravadousa.com/Dept.aspx?cp=9321_10313
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What color pants does one wear with a pink seersucker blazer.
White skinny jeans.
That would be absolutely adorable :)
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I recently have been working once a week as a stripper and over the past 3 months have given about a blowjob a week without protection and spat it out. I am now totally freaked out about what I may have picked up re HIV and STDS. I went for a full HIV and STD test tuesday week ago and all was clear. I will never do this again however I am now distraught and I want to know what to do. What is the window period? What could I have picked up? When can I test again? I am a 32 year old female. I am from Souhth Africa.
If you were tested and it came back clean, then just relax. Whoever tested you should have explained if and when you need to be tested again.
For HIV I am pretty sure you have to be tested three times. You have already been tested once. You need to be tested in another six months, and then another six months after that. If you come back clean all three times, you are fine.
Take this as a lesson. Oral sex can be just as dangerous as intercourse if you aren't using protection. Your lifestyle aside, don't make this mistake again. Always have your partner wear a condom be aware that even with protection, there is still a chance that you will catch an STD.
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Just wondering; is it illegal to show or resend a picture of someone who sent you a "sexting" picture? I know it's illegal to even receive a picture of that sort if the person's under the age of 18, but if they're 18 or older, is it still okay to send the picture around or show it to others? It seems like it shouldn't be, but I'm not sure.
Thanks :)
No, not if they are underage
It's never okay to forward, send, or receive naked pictures of a minor. Stay away from sexting. It's trouble!
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So this kid I like goes to my school, but we dont have classes together. Soon I found out he had an instand messanger and he was also SINGLE, and I started to talk to him. He's really funny and has a personality that was sooo amazing. Everything was perfectly normal, we talked and flirted. However, one day I told the guy i started to like him, and in about an hour this girl messages me and says stop flirting with her bf. For me that was a blow to my face, so I told her I would back off. After that incident, I messaged the guy I liked and i asked him if he had a girlfriend. He said YES! And that really upset me and i told him I wouldnt have liked him if he told me that he already had a gf. After that we talked and we cooled things down.
About two weeks later, I was on the computer and stumbled upon the girl's profile. It said she was single and she lives in another state. Also I looked the guy I like profile and he was single too. So I had a feeling he had lied to me, becuase he never had changed his status into in a relationship. So I talked to him about the disaster again.
The guy I liked started to talk. When I had said I liked him, he told the girl(the person who emailed me) about it. So I guess she was jealous of competetion for him.... But I asked him why he lied about having a gf, and he sayd Idk. So this is what I need answered. Why do you think he lied to me about it?
Female 14
Because he doesn't want to date you.
It's really as simple as that. If this boy wanted to be with you, then he wouldn't tell you he had a girlfriend, and he certainly wouldn't make one up.
You should find you a new guy who isn't afraid to tell you the truth. Forget this one.
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19/f so there's this guy in my class i liked him and i thought he liked me, but he didn't. He smiled and talked to me in class and on facebook, so i misinterpreted it, especially when he gave me his business card since he's a fitness trainer at this gym. And i called him so many times, and then i texted him and he told me he had a girlfriend. so basically i s talked him like a moron. And now he gives me death stares all the time. And now i feel bad, and i can't stop thinking about it no matter how hard i try. I want to say sorry to him and that i want to start over and be friends. Should i apologize? like to his face? please help thanks!
When it comes to misunderstandings it is always best to put everything out on the table and try to start over. You have basically said you made a complete fool of yourself, so what's the worst that could happen from trying to backtrack and apologize?
Anyone could have made this mistake. Don't beat yourself up over it. More than likely his girlfriend found out about you and got pissed. Either that, or he had feelings for you too and now he is feeling guilty for any mixed signals he may have given you.
Either way, next time you see or talk to him, just tell him upfront that you are sorry if you offended him, and you're deeply embarrassed for giving him the wrong opinion about you. After that, it's best to just drop it. You can still be friendly in class, but I would drop the facebook and text messaging.
Good luck, and I am sorry for your mishap.
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how can i ask my mom if i can shave my legs? thanx
Just ask her. Tell her you are uncomfortable with your leg hair, and since it's the summer time you want to start shaving your legs.
More than likely she will say yes.
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hey...how do you get good xanga layouts??? i rate really high... thanx
createblog.com
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I want my nose peirced I'm 13 and I want to no if anyone got it done at my age and regreted it?help!!
Nose piercings aren't like tattoos. If you get it done and then decide you don't like it you can just take it out. It's like it never happened.
This is all assuming you can find a piercing parlor to do it at your age though.
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Hi! I was just wondering what to put on a babysitting flyer, i mean i know to put like my experrience ect. but idk how to organise it...... Can u help? thanks :)
You can make flyers on Microsoft Office 2007.
- Click the Office button
- Click 'new'
- Click 'flyers' on the left hand column
- Choose the type of flyer you want
- Add your text and pictures
Things you will want to put on the flyer:
You want something to draw attention to your flyer. Have the focal point be something like, "Attention Parents" with a picture of a baby or child in the background.
List the following facts together:
- The age range of children you will babysit
- Years of experience you have
- State that you do have references
- State that you are licensed in CPR (if you aren't, you shouldn't be babysitting)
- State the price per hour or night
At the bottom of the flyer have cutouts with your name and number and list that they are free to call anytime.
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hello. i am 13 and i need to know what the jelly braclets mean. i am wearing brown but i am not at school yet so i dont know what ppl will say. if it is something bad then i wont wear them. please help. these BROWN jelly bracelets are my favorite. they are from the NEW MOON movie.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=jelly%20bracelets&page=7
That link discusses what each bracelet color is supposed to mean. I haven't heard of this in forever!
It's completely silly and makes no sense. No one does it anymore, so where it and don't stress. If someone says, "OMG!! Do you know what that means?" Say something like, "Yeah I do. It means I like the New Moon movie, and if you think it has some sexually motivated meaning, then you are just an immature pervert."
Then walk away. It's a fashion statement. Nothing more, nothing less.
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since like 9 this morning (its about two now) i have had a sharp, vertical stomach pain about 3 inches long right under my belly button that worsens when i stand up straight. does anyone know what this could be?
We aren't doctors. We can't give you advice on medical problems. If it continues or worsens, go to a doctor. It could be serious, or it could be nothing at all. Better to be safe than sorry though.
Just a thought. Do you have to go to the bathroom? You might be constipated or have gas. Try going, and if it still hurts get to a doctor.
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So, i really, really want to go george mason university in the fall. My parents are being extremely difficult, though. It's the most expensive school I've been accepted to but it's not through the roof like a private school. I'm convinced that it's the best school for me out of all the school's I've been accepted to. I really need advice on what I can say to them to sell them on it.
Also, is it possible to get financial aid from a college just by calling them and asking them about it?
The answer to your last question is no. Every college you go to will make you fill out a FAFSA form which will decide how much, if any, financial aid you are eligible for. You will fill one of these forms out every year you are in college, and it is based on how much income your parents brought in the previous year. It will be based on their income and any other money source they have, how many dependents are living in the household, among other things.
A lot of teachers, advisors, etc. will tell students to never think they can't go to a school just because of the price. As great as this may sound, it's actually one of the biggest factors you should consider. Do you really want to take out thousands of dollars worth of loans each year you are in school, and then be in debt when you graduate?
I am in no way trying to discourage you, but if you live in a middle class family, you probably won't get enough financial aid to cover a significant amount of the expenses; and unfortuantely, your family income probably isn't large enough to cover your college expenses without putting your family completely in a hole that will be near impossible to dig themselves out of.
I don't think you should completely rule out this particular university, but you should defintely keep your options open because sadly enough, there is a chance it's just not going to happen. If it's just not in your family's power, there isn't anything you can do. I doubt your family is just being difficult for the sake of being difficult. They love you, and want you to be able to go to the school of your dreams, but they can't perform miracles. What do you want them to do? Plant a money tree?
Here is what you need to do. Go talk to your advisor and ask about scholarships. Apply to as many as you can and see what you can come up with. Then talk to your parents and see how much they are willing to splurge on your schooling. After that, fill out a FAFSA form and see how much you are eligible for. Who knows? With the scholarships, financial aid, grants, etc. it may just be in your parents ability to cover the rest.
If not, consider going to a cheaper school for the first 2 years. Start saving up and ask your parents to do the same. You can transfer later to this university if it's still what you want.
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Hey!!
I was just wondering, if anyone could tell me the different between regular Acrylic tips & Solar Nails?
Thanks. :)
I would assume the biggest difference is that solar nails are more durable. You can lay in the tanning bed without them turning a dull or yellow shade. The link I provided you with also claims they last longer, meaning fewer fill-ins.
http://www.nails-guide.com/
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