Hi guys, I've been with my boyfriend for a little more than three months now. He's very great to me and I love being with him. I know love is different to everyone but this is my first real relationship and I've constantly been thinking about what love is, how it feels, when it's time to say it, etc. I know for a fact that I've never been in love before and I don't think I'm in love now. I was just curious to ask everyone how and when they knew that they were in love with their significant other. Did it kind of just hit you? Was it a gradual progression? Was it love at first sight? Is there even love at first sight? When is too soon to say I love you? I'm not looking for you to tell me how it should be for me, I want experience and how it was for you personally.
Like I said, he's a very great guy. I spent the entire day with him the other day because my family went away and I hate being alone so he made us my favorite dinner, even though I know he doesn't love it very much, he made it and ate it because he knows I love it. He knows I get anxious driving long distances and even though he hates long drives, he always drives us both when we go away with friends and sometimes I just look at him when he's driving us around and he'll look over and we'll just smile at each other. Or even when we're just watching our show on Netflix, I'll notice him not watching the show and he'll just be looking at me and then he'll always smirk when I ask what as he looks away and says "oh, nothing". Last week I turned 21 and I drank way, way, way more than I anticipated-he drove me back to his place and let me stay at his house that night and he even called off work the next day to be with me as I suffered through my hangover. He's not a virgin but I am so he isn't pushing it at all. He said he's leaving it all up to me, he's ready when I'm ready. Now, I know what you're thinking, he seems clingy. But it really isn't that way. I only name the times that we're together but really we can only hang out for a couple hours a night after I finish class and he finishes work at 11pm (four days in a row of 12 hour shifts, just for reference on how busy he usually is). Other times, when he's off from work, we each do our own thing. We have a good system and it works pretty well for us.
From my copious amounts of mentioning how great he is, it's pretty evident that I do really like him a lot and I guess it shows that he returns the feelings. I'm really just pretty curious how I'll know when the flip switches and it's so much more?
Thanks for any input!
Love is relative, it's not exactly an emotion, but a kind of perspective.
To prove that idea, have you ever noticed how mothers tell their kids that a stick figure crayon drawing of a guy wearing is like a Da Vinci masterpiece? That's because of Love, you love a person so you don't want him/her to get hurt physically or emotionally.
My experience with love is pretty complex. I am not secluded inside a relationship because I'm trying to avoid scholastic hindrances. I do have my bestfriend, she's basically perfect. Whatever your boyfriend does, my bestfriend's almost as caring. Now I love her, and there's nothing wrong with that, obviously, and she loves me back.
For us, love is a mutual feeling of care. It can neither be gained or decreased, it can only be either there, or not. What you're feeling right now IS love, because you care, what he feels is also love, since he also cares. That's the only thing that matters.
Thanks for reading!
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Thank you for this, really helped me out when comparing that of love to a friendship!
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