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Me...f,48 (but look like I'm 35),gay. I walk to work every day. During my walk I was passing this attractive woman (early 30s maybe), who would always smile at me. We smiled at each other for weeks before I stopped her, talked to her (complimented her smile, and we had a great comvo) and gave her my number(I have business cards, and a habit of jumping first and asking questions later). She didn't ask for it, and as soon as I gave it to her, I felt like she just wanted to go. Well, I've seen her once since then (it's been three weeks...we used to see each other twice a day, every day), and she said "I'm going to call you", which she hasn't done. I know she's been leaving early to avoid running into me. I misread the situation, obviously, but I also want her to know it's OK for her not to call. I'm not desperate. I just wanted to get to know her. I really want to catch her and apologize/explain... I miss her smile... but part of me says just let it go. What should I do?
Ok, let's have a talk ma'am...
Psychologically, you can't really "let it go". That thought would only get stuck at a part of your brain like a chewing gum under a cinema seat.
So with that off the list, let's see the other answer, which is also wrong.
You see, apologizing to a person would make it seem like you're desperate, ironically. No! seriously. Just imagine it. A person gives you a calling card, then when you didn't call, he/she knocks on your door and says sorry. That ain't right, somehow.
I don't know how to put this...
That's not enough level for an apology.
This might be shocking, but it's true.
Now what should you do?
Talk to her when you catch her. Let her explain, and then, you'd apologize. There's a difference now, you know you have a fault, so now, you can say sorry.
But be ready, if ever that's the case, that means she ain't interested to you.
You can be the world's sexiest model, but you can't win the heart of a person who's not interested.
So yeah, hope this helps.
(if not, im sorry, im 15...)
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And pretty insightful for 15. You made some really great points. I'd already come to the conclusion that I didn't really do anything wrong... I just feel bad that she is so uncomfortable that she feels like she needs to avoid me. I'm not changing my commute, and if we cross paths I fully intend to say something. You gave me a great, thoughtful answer, and I really appreciate it. Thank you!
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