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There is this guy at my mom's work and I like him, and I heard through the grapevine he likes me back. I was ecstatic and despite my being insecure, I built up the courage to ask him out. I asked my mom about how he would feel me asking him out. She made a face and said "I wouldn't right now." I asked why and she said "He was with his ex all day yesterday. They have been hanging out for the past couple of days." I felt crushed. I debated this for days just to have my sandcastle crushed. My mom says it might be nothing, but the ex is a troublemaker and I should try to wait it out before asking him. I feel like a fool and I don't know what to do. Any advice would be welcomed!
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Well you dont have to be totally crushed by this, she could be a troublemaker YES, but you could still be his friend just to get close to him to see what the deal is. Try to find other common interests you might share with him and then see if you can add him on FB or something that gives you a main line way through the net thats NOT his phone number to keep in contact with him outside of his work.
find ways to relate to him and get him to really open up and like you more and more. the only way youll be able to really find out whats going on is if you can get him away from work and away from his girlfriend or chatting with him somehow so that he'll open up.
it doesnt have to work out RIGHT NOW for him to consider you as a potential girlfriend in the near future. his ex is an ex for a reason, so if thats the case then he's up for grabs. Its just weather or not he feels like being in a relationship right now that will really make the difference here, i dont think you'd wanna be in a relationship with someone whos newly single and still possibly feeling "fragile" emotionally. So just try to continue to be his friend right now and when the time is right youll be one of the first girls he thinks of when he thinks of dating again. = )
youll be ok, if its meant to be then he'll see a cute girl with a sparkling personality and nothing else will matter. good luck. ; )
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