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My boyfriend has had trust issues with me. He believes I violated him multiple times with the same issue, which I have, in a way, with another guy. You see, I'm in a little local band within my community and one of the members and I were close friends. I went through some problems with the "boyfriend" I have now and the other guy was just trying to be a good friend to get me through it. He eventually started to develop feelings for me. I told him I didn't like him like that or would ever see myself with him. At first he was upset. (He wasn't too fond of my boyfriend, though we're all in the same group together) But he eventually got over it and told me he'll be there when he needs me. My boyfriend was furious that I even let the other guy into my life to try to turn my mind away from him. We had lots of issues, my boyfriend and I, and he was being really neglectful. He left the state for months to get away from me at the start of our relationship, when I thought things were getting better. When he came back permanently, I welcomed him back with open arms but he told me that I had to give up talking to the other guy completely. Tell me if it makes sense that for someone who I have to see all the time, I should stop talking to him completely? For someone who's done nothing but be there for me, I had to stop talking to him. His only mistake he ever made was falling for me. And he knew it. But my boyfriends hatred for him never went away. I did speak to the other guy on occasion behind my boyfriends back, because I knew I was doing something wrong but neglecting him. My boyfriend doesn't see it that way. He threatened to leave every time he found out we've been talking. Some drama happened within the band lately and it was sparked by me unintentionally (lesson learned) and I carried some news to the other guy. My boyfriend learned of it and hates me now, says I never stopped talking. Thing is, he said he doesn't love me anymore but doesn't want me to leave him. Says I have to try to gain his love again but he doesn't expect it will happen. He curses and me, calls me names, taunts me, tells him I'm worse than dirt but he doesn't want me to leave him. My boyfriend isn't perfect, he has a LOT of faults in himself, many which have been pointed out by other people that I've seen for myself and yet I still love him. Even with him being nasty and rude to me, I still love him. I know you will say I shouldn't stand for it but I want him to love and trust me again. It will take time. Am I wrong for still having faith? He will make me suffer for it but I think I deserve it. I left the band and so did he and others for drama reasons. I don't know what to do. I hate myself so much for what I did and my bf has even supported my hatred in myself. What do I do? (link)
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I understand that you have feelings for this guy, but he honestly isn't worth your time. Women are not to be considered "property" like they were back in the older days, and he's breaking this rule by treating you like he owns you and you belong to him. It'll only get worse if you stay with him. A woman deserves to be respected, and he apparently doesn't get that because he's too immature for relationships. You're an amazing, intelligent, beautiful young lady her deserves to be treated with respect. He's trying to play a game that he knows he'll never let you win at, and he's only playing it so he doesn't have to give you up.
~Mandi
P.S. No one should hate themselves... especially because of the guy they're with.
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