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Me - 24/F
Boyfriend - 26 this month/M
My boyfriend and I recently decided that we will start trying to have a child within the next few years. I want the experience of carrying a life inside of me that we will both love unconditionally, and will hopefully love us back. The two of us have basically agreed that the only reason why we haven't started trying yet is because we are both still students, and, unfortunately, while we are both looking for employment, none of us are working, so it would be really bad.
I have debated on discussing this with my aunt, since it was really weird but I don't know if I'm comfortable telling her that her niece who she hasn't seen in over 2 years is sexually active. She has a daughter whose only a little over 2 and a half years older than me, who has been pregnant before, but I feel like she's more used to seeing me as a child then an adult. The other thing is that she is my dad's sister and I'm terrified of her telling him. I, also, don't want to detract the attention away from my other cousin whose girlfriend is due in September.
I had sex with my boyfriend on Wednesday, and I had something like a period like a few hours after. It was red and splotchy, almost like spotting.
I was on birth control at the time (I have since allowed it to lapse, but will be going to the gynecologist shortly), and there's a very low failure rate even though I have been forgetting to set an alarm to take it at the same time everyday. Other times since I have been on birth control my period has been very normal.
I have had sex the day before my period, but it was normal.
Although I bled for a few days I was able to use a single pad and I was fine. I definitely did not have normal bleeding. At first, I had little red dots of blood, then it turned light brown. A little bit into it, it was black and then it just turned extremely light. It was more like an extended period of spotting that lasted for about five days, as opposed to my usual seven. While I thought it was really weird, I told myself that it was a normal period after it didn't disappear like 2-3 days into it. To put it simply, it was more like my body was trying to have a period but it was unsuccessful.
Now I have cramping and my breasts slightly hurt. I'm bleeding a little bit, but barely.
I have decided not to tell my boyfriend that there is a possibility that I am pregnant, because I am trying to rationalize things. The problem is that I have a history of freaking out about being pregnant. So, truthfully, if I am I would rather tell him after I find out then have him freak out just like I am right now.
I think that it is a good idea to sit down and discuss this with my gynecologist during my appointment.Is this a normal thing with birth control? Should I have a normal period next month? (link)
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ok you could still be pregnant though. the body can act really strange sometimes so dont totally rule it out and if your having ANY matching symptoms then just ask the doctor while your there to do a blood test for you. thats the most accurate way to know if you are or if its just your body acting off that month.
you have enough of the symptoms that its not totally out of the realm of possibility so just talk with the doctor first THEN see what happens and dont tell anyone else until you know for sure. this could totally just be a scare and im sure you dont want to have people all up in arms over something that was just a simple scare. ; )
the only way you should be bleeding from something thats NOT your period or implantation spotting would be if your boyfriend penetrated you too deeply and when you went to wipe after a trip to the bathroom it was on the tissue. but normally you wouldnt need to put a pad for something like that unless you did that just out of sheer fear for some reason?
think back, while you were having sex did he go to deep/to fast/ did you not use lube?? any of these things could potentially cause some light bleeding but it will heal just give it some time and wait to have sex again until your feeling "ok" enough down there again.
good luck.
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Thanks, hun.
He didn't penetrate that much deeper than he usually does. So, I don't think he went too deep or too fast. We never use lube, but I was definitely wet enough. I, also, was bleeding slightly.
Since it was less than a week ago, I haven't really experienced any symptoms, other than moderate cramping, back pain, breast soreness (but that was right before sex), and nausea after meals (which I also had before). I will speak to my gynecologist though, and hopefully the PA can shed more light on what happened to me.
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