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I'm twenty, female.
He's twenty two.
I liked this guy since high school, I always thought he was cute but we never talked so I always just kind of admired from afar. However, after he graduated high school, I forgot all about him. Until I got hired at the grocery store I work at now. He is my superior.
He actually is the one that trained me. Very few words were used in the training but he talked to me then. Told me his tricks to bagging things and that kind of thing.
It's been a couple of years since working there and he is now an even higher up position in a department that I do not belong in.
A few weeks ago, he was at the bar with my brother's girlfriend and she was drunk and told him how unbelievably cute I think he is to which he had replied to her "she's definitely cute" and my brother's girlfriend told him to talk to me then because I'm shy and he said he's so shy around me too.
So, a few weeks later, here we are and we still haven't spoken.
I'm getting sick of the silence but I just over think conversation with him too much. I can't just blabber a conversation with him now after two years of silence and after I found out that he thinks I'm cute.
So, I want to write him a note. We park next to each other in the parking lot. It's kind of cute, we usually start around the same time each morning and we would park right by each other but use the courtesy spot parking. He always gets his lunch before me and is usually back before mine even begins but I'll walk out when he comes back and I got to lunch, that he parked his car right next to mine instead of leaving the courtesy spot.
I have noticed changes in him, though. He does the parking next to me on his own and now he goes through my self checkout when I'm working it. He always used to avoid it when he saw me on it.
So, anyway, I just want the note to be short and say something along the lines of "heres my number, if you want it, that's cool and if you don't, that's cool too" with a smiley so I don't seem too intimidating, lol.
I guess my question is, is that weird? Will he be weirded out if I left a note on his car? Will he even use my number? A few of my friends told me if he's too nervous to talk to me, he may not even want to text me. So, I just want to know if it's wort it, I guess. I don't want him to be turned off by me and not think I'm cute anymore because I really want this to work out. Have him text me then maybe, gradually move to talking face to face.
Thanks for your help! (link)
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Why dont instead of you giving him your number, invite him to go out somewhere with you and a bunch of friends??
Get him used to going places with you even if its in a setting where theres other people?
That way when the times comes to go out just the two of you, it wont feel as weird.
birthday parties, or out to bars with friends, anything where you could invite him, there is a potential for the sparks to fly even MORE then they already do. Its clear that he likes you and you like him, your both just too shy to make the first move but if your used to each other and theres oppertunitys to grow closer then grab them!
try to be more positive around him, joke more, make him laugh with you if your not already and youll gain his friendship then a relationship can grow from that because theres no reason why not.
If you invite him to something with you and some friends youll have more of a reason to give him your number so that he "doesnt get lost" or if he says hes "not sure he can go" you can say "ok well let me give you my number and you can just text or call if you cant make it" see??
its perfect.
good luck ; )
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I did, in fact, leave him my number on his car. He was going away for a week for our work and I didn't know when I would be free the following week upon his return to set something up. Anyway, I thought I'd let you know, he did call me when he returned home and we have a date set up for this weekend!
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