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Hi. So I started talking to this guy. I am 22 and he is 27. We talked for about a month and at first it was amazing. He was so fun and it polite. And then he just got distant. He goes through these cycles where he doesn't talk to me for a while and ignores my calls and texts and waits a week after I've given up and is like where have you been i miss you. Well a little over a week ago he finally called me out of the blue and did the same old, "where have you been, I've been thinking about you, I miss you" then he told me how much he liked me and wanted me and how we would hangout on tuesday and he would call me the next day. I reached out the next day when I got no call and on Tuesday never heard back either time. Why would he tell me all these things and then not talk to me for a long time?
Besides asking him because I doubt he'll be honest any advice on what I should do? or why he is doing this?
Thanks so much in advanced (: (link)
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Well honestly what it sounds like here is that your his "side piece" and that hes getting other play elsewhere and so that would make you not as important to him because he has to keep up appearances as if hes totally devoted to the other chick hes with. (((if that is the case)))
Usually people that are cheating will act like this with their lover because your not as important then their current first one. So going out with them can be flaky and unreliable because they never know whats going to happen next so if something comes up your just tossed to the side.
If thats NOT THE CASE, and your SURE he doesnt have anyone else, then hes flaky and sounds mentally off. No one that really cares about you would do that if they didnt have something else going on in their life that was bigger and more important.
Then he gets upset that your not continuing to chase after him with calls and texts. Then he finally calls back because youve "given up" and are just on the edge of moving on and he doesnt like that because he WANTS you to chase him. It could be that that makes him feel good about himself like alot of girls want him and that he holds all the cards because your just "so head over heels" for him that youll text and call and he has the power to just not answer if he wants while your over here blowing his phone up wondering where he is. see?
it makes sense and this is a realistic possibility in my mind.
i say move on, he should be wanting to spend time with you not the other way around, you deserve better. Walk away like a lady with your head held high while you still can.
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You're so awesome!! I agree totally with you. ((: thank you!
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