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Lately, I've looked at other girls and realized I'm not as pretty as they are. I have thick frizzy long hair, it's kinda a dirty blonde, pale skin, and my face seems plain. My dad doesn't let me wear makeup (even though I'm almost 17) so I look ridiculously awful. Can anyone give me any fashion tips on how to look pretty naturally for my face and hair please? And please don't say Im beautiful just the way I am, because I want to change my look more than anything. And any tips for hair straightening? My mom won't let me use a relaxer, and it takes forever to straighten my hair, and I can't ever seem to do it right. I also have to do it myself because my mom claims going to the hair stylist is "a waist of money" (link)
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Ok, well it sounds like your parents are determined not to allow you to altar your image too much so there really isnt much you can do about that. what you could do is if you make an allowance you could go and buy some natural make up thats not too far off your own color and wear that and maybe if you have to keep your make up at school in a locker or at a trusted friends house?
You COULD save up the money and go and buy relaxer and have a friend do it when your staying over at a friends house one weekend, but other then that the only thing that will help is a high heat flat iron.
you could also try this product i use by Loreal called 360 go clean. it comes in a smallish bottle you can get it at walmart or target and its clears skin of dirt and black heads and works really good. it even comes with a little rubber reusable facial scrubber that you can use in the future for other facial products.
it doesnt cost too much and has almost instant results (dont over use it or it will dry your skin out) then also buy a facial moisturizer, this will help alot, it has sunscreen in it which is REALLY important these days and its MEANT for delicate skin on your face (something you can argue if your parents give you problems over it)
It sounds like for right now youll have to ease your parents into the ideal of you growing up and trying to find yourself. Not all parents are use to that and they have trouble excepting it at first so a slow change over time from you will probably help them in the long run to realize your getting older now and they need to ease up. A sudden over night change will scare and anger them so take it one step at a time.
work on making your skin look good first before you try make up, and when you do take it slow buy foundations and colors that are close to your natural color so you dont alarm your parents when you walk in to the door from being out. If they say something act like you dont know what their talking about and that "oh my friend did it! dont i look nice?!?" and smile. they may not want to let you dont by not being encouraging and happy for you.
going to a stylist COULD BE a waste of money depending on what your trying to do, and if your mom feels you havent tried other avenues yet to control your hair. She may not have seen or heard more about the way you feel about it so she may be thinking that this is a supr of the moment "teenager" thing and that your following a fad that will die off and then regret what you did with your hair. Maybe you could try asking her for suggestions on what you could do because your really at your wits end with your hair and its just "not you" and you dont feel comfortable in your own skin with hair like that anymore, "its out of control and hard to maintain" ; )
then if she does come up with ideas that you dont like just say you feel like thats not going to work with you. you could also try to appeal to her practical side, if the hair is thick and hard to maintain then it needs to get cut and altered so that you can feel ok with it.
good luck ; )
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Thank you so much. Your advice was very helpful!
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