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It appears just as cool and just as embarrassing for a 59 year old and a 21 year old to do it, in my opinion. After a certain age, why are women expected to have less fun? For example, I had few friends growing up, and haven't had a proper birthday party ever since I turned 10 or 11. I haven't even had a birthday cake ever since my 17th birthday, and even that was just at home with my parents and siblings. When I have a proper career and more friends it would be seen as weird for me to want to celebrate growing older? I don't get why older women are so ashamed of their ages and growing older, it annoys me and I hope I never turn out to be that way. I've never had a birthday at Chuck E Cheese, I'd like to have one in my 20s as a light hearted joke, and other little places like that. I mean when I have kids someday I'll be big on birthdays, too, and I don't want them to feel like I once felt, wishing to be young again, when my parents paid the most attention to me in that way. But yeah, I watched that KUWTK episode and it was sad to me to see how Kris Jenner's kids were so opposed to her having appearances when they all do the same thing. Why don't they think their mother, who orchestrates their career, deserves the fun and attention, too? Seriously, why? (link)
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Well heres the thing, thats a tv about ONE family and some of the people around them.
I personally know lots of older people who still go out and celebrate their b-days in a big way if they want. In mine and alot of people i know, its YOUR b-day and its the one day you can do whatever you want and whatever makes you happy and everyone willingly goes along with it. So im not sure what your talking about.
Your view on getting older and not being allowed to have as much fun is what you make of it, if you want to celebrate your bday in a certain way then thats your business. Some people choose to not do anything and thats ok, thats also their business as well. Some people just are not capable of really "getting into the spirit of things" as much as others and that could be why your hearing people hate on others about it. It doesnt mean though that their opinion is valid, it most likely just means that their head is maybe not in the right place.
and Adults DO have fun cheese E. cheese like b-days. There places like dave and busters, and bars that have video games and rides and beer and food (which would be the adult version) of a chuck e cheese see?
Im 28 and we usually buy a huge costco pizza, a cheese cake, and a few bottles of liquor to make mixed drinks with back at my house for my birthday and im OK with that. Firstly because i have a 3 year old and i cant afford a baby sitter so after he goes to bed ill have a couple friends stay over and we'll have a few drinks, eat, and play video games on my old school nentendo until we either fall asleep, or are too drunk to play and socialize. Now thats the perfect low key birthday for an older person who has kids and doesnt want to disturb their young childrens routine. (my hubby stays sober maybe having ONE drink just to make sure nothing happens to our son or anything) and me and a couple of our friends can drink as much as we want without getting "sloppy" drunk.
After a certain age you just dont want to get totally smashed faced anymore because you wont bounce back from it as well as you do in your younger years. A few drinks, some friends, some food, and some games at your house in a CONTROLLED setting sounds perfect though. No one has to drive home! ; )
others that i know go out and have to plan everything ever step of the way to make sure they get home ok after a night of going out. While other friends i know simply like to go clothes shopping and have dinner and a movie!
so its really what your personal pref. is. dont let anyone tell you that your "too old" to have a cake or some something YOU wanna do on your special day because thats ridiculous and their just haters.
i never said that Alcohol HAD to be at an adult party for people to have fun. I was saying that thats what I DO and that in this world IN GENERAL its OK to be excited about having any kind of a party you want. Honestly, who cares about what some family on a tv show do with their birthday plans. Their a different family, not yours and it would be helpful not to compare yourself to them because thats not healthy.
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I was telling you that growing up, birthdays weren't that way in my life. Every single birthday I had as a teenager was depressing, and I had no parties, and rarely presents. So to counter that by saying people in your life are lucky to have those experiences and thus, you don't understand what I'm saying is hurtful.
Why would Kris Jenner's kids not be able to be excited for their mother's birthday when they've begged for big parties with musical appearances, reserving an entire amusement park, etc. so you're saying they have issues with aging?
I'm a bit offended also that you think that alcohol must be at a party for an adult to have fun. I'm 21 and I've literally only had 2 drinks since my birthday a couple months ago. And I only drank about 1/2 of one drink, on my birthday, and 1/8 of another, at a concert. When I was younger I drank more, but mainly just drinks in my parents' wine cabinet, just to see what alcoholic drinks tasted like. I prefer teas, juices, and sodas. I've never actually gotten drunk, and don't want to. There's nothing silly about an adult having a party at Dave and busters, but I think people would see the irony of chuck e cheese, since I can't afford to take everyone to Disney world.
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