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Well, actually I cant trust the friends i have. I have a very close friend that gave my contact details to the person that bullied me about 2 years ago(on purpose, and yes this person knows the history between me and the girl that bullied me) because of something i didnt even do. They recently became friends so now she has my info. And now, im worried that she'll be outside my door or wait for me when i get home after class or bully me until i kill myself. Ever since i entered middle school i have been very vulnerable so i cant really face them on my own and i dont have any friends to back me up in case i encounter a situation with her. She has a lot of people on her side cause she's popular. My mom knows about this but im scared that the bully might not listen to my mom, you know feeling all mature and stuff. But yeah back to the topic, i dont know who to trust anymore. And i dont know what to do. I want to mess with her, but i dont wanna cause any more problems. I really hope you get me haha i lose my train of thought most of the times. (link)
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Well hears the thing, if you dont put your foot down with people then when will you EVER? if this girl is a total bully, then try just telling her off! if shes by herself thats even better, but honestly chances are if you allow yourself to be a target then the person will feel they dont EVER have to stop because they know youll NEVER step up and speak for yourself.
We've all dealt with this at some point in our lives, and eventually everyone builds up the balls to just say "you know what, im tired of you BS get away from me and stop talking to me like that" just you standing up for yourself will scare her.
Try to work on just not caring anymore "what might happen" if you DO stand up to her. We cant all live our lives in "what if" mode. life is too short for that.
good luck sweetie and just remember as an adult life is YOURS for the taking! you dont have to care what some bully thinks or says about you. This too shall pass.
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It's been a year since I posted this, I didn't have time to reply. Thanks by the way!
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