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I am a boy of 23 and My girlfriend likes me since past 7 years and we had been in commitment since last 4 years but due to her fear of being in relationship she breaks with me within 15 days or a month and comes back after 6 months or some gap because she miss me every time also she has been the only girl ever in my life. initially i didn't knew how to handle my relationship and was too much of possessive about her but after 3 years of relation i have changed a lot and want to be with her for rest of my life but again like before her fear for being in relationship haunts her how can i make her understand that i can be the perfect guy and would make her feel special all the time and she need not to be afraid of relationship anymore?

Hi,

From what I read, maybe she thinks you'll be posessive again. My ex broke up with me and now he wants to get back together, an I love him dearly.. but the thought is still there that he'll just do it again. So to put it in different terms: actions really do speak louder than words. If you want her back you have to do it by being that better guy you talk about. Ask her how she is doing, listen to her and most of all - be her friend again. You may not realize it, but girls are scared of commitment simply because they don't want to be hurt. Whatever you do, don't try to force things on her, she just needs a guy to be there for her. It's obvious she still has feelings for you, so be her friend first again, and becoming her boyfriend will come naturally like before.

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(Rating: 5) thank you so much for all this help you have given!
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