About kittenlover2000
I'll answer question on pretty much anything, though as I'm studying psychology and from past experience, I'm best at answering questions about love life, mental illness as well as giving career advice or job advice. I am also really into fashion and love these types of questions!. Oh and any pet help...
I have an average rating of 4.5 on here. Only inbox me questions that are short please and not about death/suicide. Honestly, there's nothing more dull that opening your inbox to 'I want to die'.
Anyway, ask away and I'll try to help out :)
Ask Me For Advice
View Feedback
Make Favorite Columnist
Gender: Female
Location: England
Member Since: April 30, 2011
Answers: 691
Last Update: November 13, 2017
Visitors: 33215
Main Categories:
Fashion and Styles
Mental health
Colleges & Universities
View All
Advicenators.com
|
|
|
I need advice on a very important subject. When is the right time to have sex? All I hear is "I remember prom night" and all these stories from people's collage years. I'm confused about when it would be the right time. I don't want to make any rash judgements or mistakes which I will regret later on. Thanks for reading.
P.s. I'm fourteen and female and know now is not the right time for that relationship, though I would like to know when.
Okay so firstly you seem very mature for your age which is great :)
Its good that you want the time to be right. Many people myself included lost their virginity to someone who they which they hadn't.
I think as you start to get older and start to go out drinking and clubbing, its easy to have a one night stand with someone. My first piece of advice to you would be to control yourself on such nights out, so you don't end up doing something you may later regret.
If you know now is not the right time for a relationship, then obviously sex is off the cards, that is-if you want to do it with someone who loves you and cares about you.
There is no 'right time'. Sure the average age for people to lose their virginity is decreasing all the time. And this may make you feel under pressure to lose it. But you need to be confident in yourself. Have persistence and one day the right person will come along.
Legally, sex is not allowed in my country until you're 16. So you are legally under age. Second piece of advice would therefore be to wait until you are legal.
If you do want to have a sexual relationship with someone in the future, let them know from the off your expectations. Asking questions regarding commitment etc will help you to determine your partners intentions.
The right time to have sex in an ideal world is:
-when you're in a relationship where both partners trust and respect one another
-when you feel mature enough to deal with the fact that you are engaging in the act of potential baby making
-when you are confident in yourself, your body and your abilities (often people who have sex too early feel not good enough and have self esteem issues that worsen due to a bad first time)
-When you're legal (probably should've put this first)
-When you have good emotional support around you
[view]
(Rating: 5)
Thank you very much!
| |
