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I'll answer question on pretty much anything, though as I'm studying psychology and from past experience, I'm best at answering questions about love life, mental illness as well as giving career advice or job advice. I am also really into fashion and love these types of questions!. Oh and any pet help...
I have an average rating of 4.5 on here. Only inbox me questions that are short please and not about death/suicide. Honestly, there's nothing more dull that opening your inbox to 'I want to die'.
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I was at a waterpark today with my friend -one girl, one guy-and I jokingly pointed out a cute boy that was standing by two other guys.. so my -guy- friend went over and said, 'Dude, she likes you.' ... and his friends laughed and said, 'THAT girl??!' and they did that dumb 'gag' hand gesture where they point down thier throat and pretent to throw up. The worst part was, I think, was the fact that I later found out one of the guys was the son of my dad's co-worker/best-friend... it just lowered my self esteem even more later on, when I was getting out of a pool and they started splashing me with a lot of water and yelling at me.. so I kinda lost it and flipped them off and hid in the restroom--more info-- im a middle schooler, blonde, very skinny, and short short hair.. and I have depression. :( so I guess the question is, how do I deal with this? I haven't had a boyfriend for almost two years, but every time my friend trys to set me up, she ends up with the guy, and every time one of my guy friends trys to, they come back saying guys thought I was.. ugly.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But if you don't think you're beautiful and learn to love yourself soon, how can you expect the others to do the same?
The problem with questions such as this is its easy for people to sit here and say 'I'm sure your pretty, you sound it on the inside etc'.
What really needs to happen is you need to build up your self esteem.
Those guys may not like you, but not there are other guys out there that would prefer you over their friends.
It depends on things like how you carry yourself. Tall and proud? Or is it obvious that you're unhappy with your looks, especially as you say you noticed their opinion, so look for it?
It can be hard when things like this happen, but its all about being confident in yourself. You don't just win another date on looks alone...
I think you need to learn how to cope with low self esteem. Once you've done that, THEN focus on attracting potential dates etc. They are two different issues, but you can't with a pen if it has no ink in it.
Focus on YOU. What makes you happy, and how to improve your confidence by not comparing yourself to your peers. With high self esteem and confidence, you can do anything. Get a job, partner etc.
So really learn how to cope with self esteem issues is what determines whether one is a success or not. Every teen experiences self esteem issues, that's normal. But learn to cope and you learn to succeed.
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wow.. you're right!
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