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Hi everyone so I'm 17 years old and my boyfriend is 19 almost 20 and we have been together for over a year and I am obsessed with him. Not in a stalker way or anything but I am so in love with him. I have never had to many friends because I like to stay clear of drama but my best friend is dating my brother so I don't enjoy hanging out with them...and when my boyfriend hangs out with his friends I have nothing to do...ever..unless I'm working. And I don't really like many of his friends ..they're obnoxious immature and rude. What can I do to be less obsessed with him and maybe make a friend. I feel pathetic but my life completely revolves around him..he didn't make it that way ..I did...and I don't know how to adjust it. Thank you!!
Hi there, I know the situation all to well. My best friend dated my brother for years and unfortunately it ended up bringing us further apart and eventually we became distant friends... I haven't had many friends either because people are definitely full of drama which I cannot handle. What you need to do is find something to do when you find yourself bored. Everyone gets bored at some point, but what you have to realize is that you can either: keep complaining and be bored OR do something about it. When I'm not being a workaholic I: draw, listen to music, call a friend to go for a walk, bake something, practice my violin, make plans for next week, watch a movie, find a new outfit, text someone I know can make me smile and just think about the positive things in my life.
To be less obsessed with your guy, you have to learn to make time for yourself. Commit yourself to something for you, just you, every week. Such as painting your nails awesome, making a work out routine for yourself or spending time with a friend/family. As long as your keeping busy you won't find yourself being 'obsessed' and rather 'relaxed' instead. Try dancing in your room with headphones on, taking photos of nature/yourself or even creating a new recipe if that's what makes you happy. Discover what you love and put your time towards that, because the more you enjoy doing the things you love, the more your boyfriend will find you inspiring and dedicated which will make him love you even more than he already does. You can do it girl, start finding yourself today! (:
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much! That was really inspiring to read and I am going to fInd myself and maybe go for walks at the park and things. Thank you!!!