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My boyfriend understands that I am self-concious and see private dances as a form of cheating, I practically begged him not 2 get one for his stag and he literally swore in my life that he would only get one if his mates paid at his stag and that would be it!! I take people swearing in my life very serious!! He then got 2 dances the one paid for by his friends and the one he paid for!! He lied on me asking twice before finally admitting that he had in fact paid himself for the second one!! I am in bits I know he loves me and I still want to marry him but I cant get the images out of my mind and feel physically sick at the thought!! I need help 2 get this out of my head before I go insane!! xxxxx (link)
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Relax. It's not cheating. He hasn't slept with someone or been intimate in any way with someone else. What he is doing is blowing off some steam with friends. He loves you a lot and it hasn't changed.
Those girls to him represent a fantasy or something he can never have and he knows it. Most men do. It's satisfying a sexual curiosity or need in a safe manner. When he comes home he's 100% thinking about you.
You should tell him that rather than lie about it own up to the dances. Tell him you are uncomfortable with strip clubs, dances and other girls and wish he would stop but that you can't control him.
I know you have never thought of this idea but have an open mind. A lot of couples these days visit the clubs it's not just a male thing. Maybe just once go along with him and see the kind of dances and other stripping that goes on so you can relax about it. Some dancers I've heard will do dances for either partner if it's in your comfort zone.
If you learn that the club is harmless and just another form of entertainment and see it as such it will be fine. These dancers never allow inappropriate touching or behavior so your fiance hasn't done anything wrong really.
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thanks!! I am still tryin 2 get 2 grips with the situation but we are getting there!! xx
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