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20/f last year I was raped by my ex boyfriend, long story short we drank (he led me to believe he was drinking but in actuality I was the drunk one,) when we went to bed I remember waking up to him doing the act. To this day I have not told anyone except a good friend, and my new current boyfriend (of almost 9 months) at the very beginning of our relationship, but I toned town the story a bit. Nobody actually knows everything that happened, and I can't seem to get over it. I have brought it up once to my boyfriend, and he consoled me (as well as wants to kill my ex) but I feel badly about the topic if it is to come up again, I don't want him to think I still think about my ex. Should I be over it by now? It makes me feel dirty and sick to think about it, I could cry.
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Whilst it's important your boyfriend knows, don't keep reminding him. If he knows once, that should be enough-as then he'll be aware you were in quite a controlling relationship before.
I suggest seeking help from other sources. Have you tried counselling? Remember, rape is a very serious crime, and it takes different people different amounts of time to deal with it.
I mean, if he was your partner, this was domestic abuse. Talk to your doctor, and they may be able to refer you to a support group.
Of course, you could talk to your family about it, but if it's still in your mind today I think it's time to get professional help. Many of this help is free, so you should make enquiries asap.
You wont be judged, and you'll be able to move on in your life.
I wouldn't suggest this is an issue to be bought up with your current boyfriend, unless of course its so prominent you feel you can't do certain things with him. By getting the help you need from OTHER people, you can move forward.
Of course its hard to not speak about such a serious issue with your boyfriend, and I'm sure he'll be there to comfort you if you need it, but as long as you give off the impression that you're a strong woman and despite everything can move on, then you'll be fine.
Take your time, you've been through a tough time and with the right help you'll recover fine.
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