I am a father of three, girl, boy, girl, all are now over 18. I have been married for 29 years as of 6-30-07, so yes, if you do the math I was married at 18, just after graduating high school. I am very aware of the pit falls of doing so, but we made it through the really tough times. I came to this site, because of my daughter, she also uses the site.
I am an author and have written three books, only one under this name, but it is not how I make my living. I am in business, working full time and I have a seasonal business in ponds, selling Koi, goldfish, water plants and supplies. I help people to plan and build ponds, as well as, maintenance if they need it.
I am not here for the ratings and could careless what you rate me. I will tell you things I know, I will tell you what you don't want to hear, but most of all, I will tell you things from my perspective. I have experienced a lot in my life, I have not lived with my head in the sand and I'm a realist, you want someone to blow smoke up your as*, don't read my writings, (I don't do fairy tales).
I am not so foolish as to think I am always right, I can only tell you what I know and give you something to think about. It is up to you to find out if I'm right or not.
Life is complicated, because people are complicated and one answer does not necessarily fit all, but that doesn't mean you should not consider what I say as a possibility.
Feel free to write me personally if you wish, there is only so much you can say in such a restrictive environment as this site is, it doesn't allow for proper conversation.
Thank you for coming to my column and giving me the chance to help.
E-mail: gibber@cableone.net
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Age: 53
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Do you guys honestly think that everyone is destined to meet someone? Especially during a certain time of their life.
I feel like everyone around me has someone or has people in their life they could potentially be with. Whereas me, I don't know anyone who I can see myself with at all. I'm about to be 21 and I can honestly say I've never really been in true love before and Im scared because my life is going to get tougher and more hectic as I continue with school and my career and I'm worried I won't find anyone. I'm also worried that the longer I hold out on finding someone, the more people I could have potentially be with, will find someone else. Sorry for sounding a bit confusing with my thoughts. But what do you think? (link)
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You're dealing with fate here, most romantics think you are fated to find your only, but I feel your fate is determined by your actions. You will find whomever is on the path you have chosen to follow. Do you really think that if you choose the path of say a druggy, that your going to find your great love to be a doctor, or a lawyer? No the odds are it's going to be a druggy and you'll live with most of your money going to drugs. If there is anything I've learned from life is that you will find many people that you will love and you will surely marry one of them, but with everyone of them you choose a different life. You can choose to find your love at any time, or to die single, some have, but until you choose a path, how is it you can find the love that will choose to walk it with you? Don't waste your time looking, until you find your path and never waste your time on someone who doesn't know their path. It is in wanting to follow the same path that you will find your bliss.
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Thank you very much. I very much know the path I want to take in life but the problem is finding that person who wants that same life with me. I just don't want to waste years of my life trying to find that person.
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