I am a father of three, girl, boy, girl, all are now over 18. I have been married for 29 years as of 6-30-07, so yes, if you do the math I was married at 18, just after graduating high school. I am very aware of the pit falls of doing so, but we made it through the really tough times. I came to this site, because of my daughter, she also uses the site.
I am an author and have written three books, only one under this name, but it is not how I make my living. I am in business, working full time and I have a seasonal business in ponds, selling Koi, goldfish, water plants and supplies. I help people to plan and build ponds, as well as, maintenance if they need it.
I am not here for the ratings and could careless what you rate me. I will tell you things I know, I will tell you what you don't want to hear, but most of all, I will tell you things from my perspective. I have experienced a lot in my life, I have not lived with my head in the sand and I'm a realist, you want someone to blow smoke up your as*, don't read my writings, (I don't do fairy tales).
I am not so foolish as to think I am always right, I can only tell you what I know and give you something to think about. It is up to you to find out if I'm right or not.
Life is complicated, because people are complicated and one answer does not necessarily fit all, but that doesn't mean you should not consider what I say as a possibility.
Feel free to write me personally if you wish, there is only so much you can say in such a restrictive environment as this site is, it doesn't allow for proper conversation.
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E-mail: gibber@cableone.net
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Location: Minnesota
Age: 53
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Hello there. Well there is this boy that I have known for a long time because we played at the same fields. I found he was in 5 of my 7 periods so we talked a lot and we got along really well. Then we began talking more and we got really close. He told me he liked me but I didnt feel the same way but we carried on. Then I liked him and he still liked me but the thing is on the inside we are a perfect match but on the outside I just didnt find him attractive. So I wanted to wait for him to mature or idk but we stayed friends. And still ready close. Well we know this girl and he started talking to me about liking her but she never liked him. Anywho they became valentines and it didnt bother me because I was over him right? Like I dont even like him. But they posted this pitcture of them at a local carnival and as soon as I sawit all these feelings and memories came rushing to me. And for the first time I really liked him. And it wasnt that I liked him because hes taken its that I realized I missed my chance with someone who is perfect for me. And some girl swooped in and took the chance. And ive been thinking about what couldve been and how great we couldve been.. like i think im meant for him but Anyways its been on my mind 24/7 and I guess im wondering if I should tell him how I feel? Or what should I do in general? I dont want to corrupt their relationship but I need to do something so I can rest easy. Its killing me. But yes any advice on what to do would be really appreciated. Thank you so much! (link)
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It's hard for me to even see this question as real, but I'm going to answer it as if it is. I have a real problem seeing you as a girl. You have based a best friend relationship on how much he turns you on. I thought only us "Boys" did that. So I'm going to tell you what you don't want to hear, LEAVE THIS BOY ALONE. You need to find out what you really want and you won't be able to until you stop being a tease. Your playing this guy, but you don't want to limit your options, so you want to keep him in a corner like a dog, so when you need him you can call him out of his corner. Girls are suppose to be more mature then guys, but I'm not seeing it in you. If your meant to be together, it will happen, but not because you make it happen out of jealousy. You will lose a best friend at the least and possibly a sole mate. Be well Dear one.
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Well that was a little...rough but still thanks. But how do I leave one of my best friends alone? How do I go from texting everyday and talking in every class to not speaking at all? What do I do??
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