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He likes to receive oral, and I do it for him every other day because I care about him and want him to feel good. He knows that I love it, but only does it for me 1-2 times every two weeks. He says he doesn't mind it and that it has nothing to do with my hygiene which is immaculate. He always has an excuse, like that he is tired or he is just not in the mood. Yet, he is always up for him getting it or having sex. I feel like there is something he isn't telling me, but whenever I bring it up, he gets angry. What should I do? (link)
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Next time he asks for it or sex in general tell him "I don't feel like it right now" and see if he gets the hint that it goes both ways. You could also not perform this act with him and only do so sporadically to prove a point.
The best thing to do is say to him that you're being very generous (which you are) in making sure he enjoys the act on him EVERY time you are intimate but that you NEED this kind of thing in return each time or however often you feel rather than weeks without.
There's nothing wrong in telling him flat out it's what you enjoy and expect while being intimate and it's only fair that he return the favor more often.
I don't think it's your hygiene that could be the problem. I have a feeling it may be a total lack of confidence on his part. Maybe he just doesn't know what to do in that moment to please you. The other could be a bizarre psychological block or hangup he has about female anatomy.
You have to talk to him and tell him not to lie or any BS but to be fully honest about why he doesn't seem at all interested in doing this for you but expects it for himself every time and go over any fears or expectations on performance so he can become okay with the frequency you expect.
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