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I'll answer question on pretty much anything, though as I'm studying psychology and from past experience, I'm best at answering questions about love life, mental illness as well as giving career advice or job advice. I am also really into fashion and love these types of questions!. Oh and any pet help...
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I am 27, I am an introvert and I also suffer from depression.
I have no friends, I have not had real friends in about 3 years now. Each time I think of the idea I seem to shoot it down. I even had oppertunites to hang out with a few people and I find myself with very little interest in proceeding what seems to be no more then hi and bye. I ask myself " Why aren't. I interested in friends?" I can't seem to find a real valid reason other then they are drama and always hang out. I am young and should have friends but don't really want them?.
You sound like a very independant person-which is a positive thing as it means you are fully able to find your own happiness.
However, something has to be doen, because the fact you've got no friends DOES bother you, else you wouldn't've asked this question right?
It could just be that because you're introverted, you find it a struggle sub consciously to do the whole getting to know people proccess. I'm the same, you see. Most kids are taught by their parents example how to make friends and stuff, but I was never 'taught' as I always had by twin to rely upon.
It could be that you don't know anyone who's so much like you that you want to be bothered talkng to them-or maybe the people you normally see are just boring.
I don't think theres anything wrong with you-despite it being the human nature to be social, I guess there are some exeptions.
My advice would be to work on your depression, as this will not be helping you. I would say then to work on being an introvert, but this is never going to happen because extraversion/introversion is a pre-disposition, mostly inherited that we can't change. But hey-if you look hard enough there are lots of introverted people out there to.
Obviously if you want to continue friendless then dont follow my advice, but I presumed you didn't because you asked the question. THe main thing is to not be friends with someone for the sake of 'having a friend'. I think it's important to have a few close friends to get you through the hard times-but if you really dont want any then thats your choice at the end of the day.
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Very good advice, You nailed it
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