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I am in my late 20's and recently found my biological brother 2 months ago. We talk on the phone, text and one day plan to meet in person. However lately he has been flirting with me and sending text messages that are not appropriate. I have told him that we are siblings and cannot speak in this manner. I have also told him I am happily married and that his behavior needs to stop. How else can I make this stop? I will not sever ties with him as I have spent the last 10 years looking for my family.
Thank you for your question. I'm sorry you're going through such a difficult situation.
Unfortunately, you don't really have many options in a situation like this. My first (and obvious) suggestion would be to ask him to stop, which you've already done. If he continues, I would recommend being extremely firm with him. Tell him that you would like to maintain contact with him because he is your brother and you've been looking for him for 10 years, but that his behavior is making you extremely uncomfortable and you won't tolerate that type of behavior.
Other than that, I don't see many other options. You can't exactly physically force him to stop. He'll only stop if he's willing to, and if you asking him to respect you isn't enough to make him stop, then, unfortunately, he probably never will.
I completely understand not wanting to sever ties with him, but ask yourself this: If this was anyone else, would you tolerate this type of behavior continuing? It is an extremely tough situation, but you deserve respect. Ultimately, though, you have to decide whether or not you are willing to tolerate a lack of it.
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Thank you Trauma. I will try being more direct about it
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