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I'll answer question on pretty much anything, though as I'm studying psychology and from past experience, I'm best at answering questions about love life, mental illness as well as giving career advice or job advice. I am also really into fashion and love these types of questions!. Oh and any pet help...
I have an average rating of 4.5 on here. Only inbox me questions that are short please and not about death/suicide. Honestly, there's nothing more dull that opening your inbox to 'I want to die'.
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I've been noticing a trend in the way people treat me. I've realized it has everything to do with how I act. I'm really nice and I think people feel that because of that, they can push me aside when they don't feel like dealing with me and they know there won't be consequences. Like at work, this one guy talks down to me as if I'm a teenager, but I'm 21. I know that I'm naive and I ask my co-workers a lot of questions pertaining to my job, but at least I'm polite. I don't want to change who I am to receive better treatment, so are there any other options? I'm even receiving the same treatment at a place I internship at, so I realize I'm the problem.
Hey,
I think the main thing to remember here is for people to be nice to you they have to respect you.
So sure, be nice but don't be a pushover or don't agree to everything-no one in reality is like this so you may come across as fake-and so not win peoples respect.
If I were you, I'd come across at first as keeping yourself to yourself until people warm to you, so it's like they've had to earn you're respect so they'll be nicer to you. Think about it-you're nice to people who don't want to know, so why should you be nice to everyone when they're in the driving seat?
You need to put yourself in the driving seat! Hold opinions, don't warm to people who you genuinly don't like and be true to yourself. if you feel rubbish don't fak it all the time!
Good luck :)
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That is great advice! I'm often in a good mood or at least try to appear that I am, so I guess I just need to be more real.
I also like your point about making people earn my respect. Thanks!
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