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I am the second born in my family and sometimes, I feel like everyone's more important than I am, especially my older brother. People call me by his name, ask about him more than the rest of us, and always remember stories that are actually about one of the rest of us as being about him. My parents say that they don't have a favorite child and they swear that my older brother's not the most special just because he's the oldest. My mom even wrote an essay for a class about what made us all equally special to her and I've always believed it, but lately people have been telling me that first borns are always the special ones and the ones that would be the hardest to lose. I researched it on the internet and a ton of people said that parents would rather have one of their younger kids die than their first born. I decided to try to find out, so Tuesday night, I disappeared and my parents couldn't find me until Thursday morning. My mom found me first and after she was done hugging me, she was angrier than I've ever seen her and yelled at me the whole way home. When we got home, my dad (the harder parent) was even more mad. They said they hadn't slept, eaten, or done anything else since I left and they even had to call the police for help. Neither of them have calmed down about it and when I asked them if that was as bad as if they couldn't find my oldest brother, it just mad them more mad that that was my reason for doing what I did and that I believed strangers over them. Could I really have scared them as bad as my oldest brother could? Does it sound like they have a favorite child? (link)
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I think you need to ask them for yourself. You need to go up to them on A GOOD DAY and ask them straight up if they have a favorite child. Stop assuming, no matter how "obvious" the situation may be. I used to think the same thing about my mother, because everyone seems to like my brother better just because he's older. Turns out, I wasn't displaying my love as openly as my mom likes to (I wansn't very affectionate) and in family meetings, i didn't really talk much for fear that the conversation would turn back to him. This made my family ignore me, because I was ignoring THEM. But i see where i went wrong after i talked to my mom about it and now, everything is way better. Do you get my point? Maybe, during all of this, that is what you think because you have a biased opinion. Maybe you're being bitter to them (unconsciously of course) and they're just responding to it. I think you should also ask your brother if he thinks they give him too much attention.
So, my advice is to ask them. And whether you take my advice or not, I'm glad I said this because at least now you have an idea of what may be happening.
Good luck sweetie I hope I helped :)
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Thanks. I see what you mean and I appreciate your help. Great advice!
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