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The guy I've been off and on with for 3 years (mostly on with a few breakups)is not the perfect guy for me in just a few ways. All these ways have nothing to do with personality. He is addicted to rescription pills and just about any drug when he gets in his lows. I've constantly tried to help him but he always pushes me away and then comes back.Fact is, I was probably enabling him more than helping him back then.
Last time he relapsed (a month and a half ago) after going 90 days clean and being in rehab, I figured enough was enough and ended it. He keeps coming back here and then saying he still loves me. And it sucks cause I still am SO in love with him but know I can't be with him.
I'm just hoping for some advice on moving on. I know the first step is accepting the decision to and I'm having trouble doing that. I keep wishing that he would just get clean and we could be together. This guy is like perfect for me personality wise. We click so well and only ever fight about the drugs. Plus we have an insane physical attraction that I'm also missing :/ I feel like I'm never gonna get through this. I just really really crave to be happy again. I can't stand this pain :( (link)
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Well, since everyone here is going to tell you to leave him, I'm gonna help you with ACTUALLY doing just that, because neither of the others realized that you were asking "I want to know how" and not "but I don't want to..." so here it is:
I'm 14 & I have never had a boyfriend :) but I do know a lot about getting over someone. I have a big crush on this guy and he got a girlfriend THE SAME F***ING DAY THAT I WAS ABOUT TO ASK HIM OUT!!! So, to get over that guy, this is what I did. I sat in my room, with my computer off, phone off, tv off, everything off except the light. I sat there and I just meditated, and left only 1 thought in my head: him. Jeremy. Then as I closed my eyes, I started to see some really AHEM attractive guys that I knew running through my mind and I'm not saying that I started to like those guys but they got my mind off of him. It reminded me that there were hotter and more loyal and trustworthy than Jeremy. After a couple of days, it had an effect. After about a little over a week, I was over him. After the first couple of times meditating, I just sat and thought about why it was I actually liked him. I focused on the "why" and not the "why not" like I used to. It will take longer for you of course because you used to be with this guy and not admiring from afar but I'm confident that it can still work for you. :) Besides, the same thing happened to me with another guy only a month ago and it still works for me! so yeah... My life sucks.
Don't give up on yourself, & of course don't give up on him, but that doesn't mean that you get back with him. That is the worst thing you can do now. You would be showing him that he can manipulate you. You don't want that, trust me!!!
So there you go, and I hope you try this made-up-yet-fool-proof trick of mine. I wish you the best of luck :)
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